Kelli Selzer - Empowered Parenting

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Creating a secure attachment is so important!

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👶🧠 Denmark is moving away from the “cry it out” sleep training method, largely due to pressure from over 700 psychologists who signed an open letter citing harm to infant emotional development, leading the Danish board to reconsider its guidance, emphasizing responsive care and secure attachment as healthier alternatives.

Studies find consistently ignoring a crying baby can negatively impact their brain development, increase stress hormones like cortisol and can even affect their future emotional health.

Babies communicate their needs by crying, and ignoring these cries can lead to prolonged periods of stress, causing a rise in cortisol levels. Elevated cortisol levels can negatively impact brain development, brain structure and a baby’s ability to regulate stress even later in life.

Consistent responsiveness to a baby’s cries helps them develop a sense of security and trust in their caregivers. This can lead to a more secure attachment, which is crucial for emotional well-being, healthy social relationships and brain development.

Babies are not trying to manipulate their parents when they cry, they are communicating their needs and attempting to establish a connection. Responding to these cries is critical for building a strong bond and promoting healthy development.

What are your thoughts on this shift in parenting advice? How have you seen these approaches discussed in your own community?

Disclaimer: This content is for informational and educational purposes only.

No one learns while drowning —
not your child, and not you.

When a nervous system is overwhelmed, logic can’t land.
Teaching, correcting, or explaining won’t stick until safety is restored.

This isn’t about letting things slide.
It’s about understanding when learning is actually possible.

Safety first.
Then connection.
Then learning.

Most parents were never taught this.
You’re not behind — you’re learning now.

Read the full blog: https://www.kelliselzer.com/curatorofchaos/the-nervous-system-blueprint-for-calm-parenting

You didn’t lose your cool because you don’t care enough.
You lost it because your nervous system fired before your values could show up.

That moment you regret?
It wasn’t a character flaw.
It was biology.

I break this down — and explain what actually helps — in last week’s episode of The Empowered Parenting Podcast.

🎧 The Real Reason You Lose Your Cool
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5RNIhLRjJj7kRmUtPF8kJT?si=43d2ef826b414320