Liv Balanced, LLC

Creating is shown to keep us emotionally well & mentally sharp. This tee is a quick make that's useful & supports my mental health - to see the results of my efforts - especially when work is heavy. Happy to have found the perfect purpose for this denim wool & silk mohair following the Tee-ser pattern by 🧶
Liv Balanced. Breathe You.✨

I've been thinking about how we measure success. I've been challenged to measure it by listing my value not based solely on accomplishments, while also celebrating my accomplishments.

The thing about healing from traumas focused on achievement is that you get "love" because you've achieved, but then it is also never enough, and sometimes compared to others, or the bar is constantly raised. So you don't celebrate achievements. It's an issue if "never enough."

What if, instead, the focus on reparenting me is that I don't have to accomplish to be worthy I exist and thrive by learning to use innate strengths?

I believe "accomplishments" & "success" naturally follow when we are instead pursuing a value driven life using our innate strengths.

Today I posted publicly a list of my accomplishments, so I could feel more comfortable celebrating them because, the reality is that what I have accomplished to date is also me.

Now, I'm focused on transformative healing, returning to the me I put aside in pursuit of "accomplishments." They will learn to coexist, more balanced.

How do you view success & accomplishment?

Liv Balanced. Breathe You✨

Almond milk in your wine glass while lunching with amazing, local, handmade sourdough? Yes please. Liv Balanced. Breathe You ✨ .by.jen

"It is a pity that doing one's best does not always answer." Written by Charlotte Brontë ~180 years ago, the sentiment holds true, an element of the human experience. In business, the drive to continually sell, grow, & evolve may feel like a burden, even for the highest performing persons.

This is a recipe for burnout; it's a common experience for many, extreme for certain professions, like medicine & law. Never enough; high standards; extreme self criticism; and often without appreciation for efforts. "More" & "better" often without rest to reflect on internal growth achieved. Those who consume what you produce rarely appreciate the costs of creation.

How do you recover from a sense of defeat when you've not actually failed or missed the mark? Reframe your perspective & know your WHY without expectations.

This doesn't mean don't try. It doesn't mean to give up. It doesn't mean to create poor quality. It means to stay true to yourself, regardless of the crowd.
Create for yourself at your standards. Keep an open mind.

Take the break. Make a list of what you've created & contributed so YOU can celebrate your efforts. Write out your emotions. Be with those who "see" you, keep distance from those who take.

Then, move on.

"Dread remorse when you are tempted...remorse is the poison of life."

Liv Balanced. Breathe You✨

She's 2 today ✨your wellbeing is your choice. Liv Balanced. Breathe You✨

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Olivia Ash