The Vanguard Husband

Happy Father's Day to all the powerful fathers out there that are making a stand for the success of the children! May you grow in wisdom and walk in boldness in this season to be a trailblazer for your children to follow! May you not settle for mediocrity and complacency! As you continue to trust in the Lord, may not stop you from overcoming every enemy that comes your way! May you be a vanguard father!

Being a loving husband isn't determined by your words and actions alone. It is determined by the intent of the heart. You see, we can get by with fooling our wives for a while, however, our motivation will expose our hearts in due time.

How do you know if your love is inauthentic? Whenever you crave the reaction or adulation of your wife more than the satisfaction of serving her, you have just stepped into a false expression of love.

It's not all about doing something big and spectacular on a special day or for a certain reason. Authentic love shows up in the moment.

Today, I challenge you to choose to walk in unconditional love and serve your wife with a pure heart.

Husbands.

Do you find yourself feeling like you're just going through the motions in your marriage?

Do you ever wonder why your relationship with your wife feels stagnant?

Do you often question if things might not work out after all?

There are many husbands right now that feel stuck.

On the outside, things appear to be great. To others, you seem to have a great marriage. However, you know the sobering truth that it's only a matter of time before you or your wife decide to give up.

If this is you, ask yourself this question: "What old language am I speaking in my marriage?"Your old language prevents you from creating a powerful relationship with your wife, and it’s the determining factor in how you show up.

When you are unaware of the old language that you used to define yourself and your beliefs about what’s possible for you, it holds you back and deteriorates your present relationship with your wife.

Old language includes statements like:
- I don't think I can have a good marriage because my parents didn't have one.
- My wife is just like my mother so I can never please her.
- I always seem to mess things up.
- I've always been an introvert so I don't like to talk.
- Since my dad wasn't in my life, I can only be what I am.

Old language keeps you bound to your past and closes off possibilities to create your future. In addition, it keeps you from being present with your wife. Instead of listening to her heart in order to meet her need of the moment, you chalk it up to an old excuse and dismiss her.

Husbands, you may be going through this in your marriage, but that's just it, you're going through. In order to break free, you must introduce new language.

Your willingness to take action and create new language in your relationship will determine how long you will continue to go through this downward spiral and when you will finally break free to begin to experience joy and fulfillment in your marriage again.
 
New language will revitalize you and your relationship.






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However you choose to show up today will either enrich your relationship with your wife or deteriorate it.

Don't allow circumstances to cause you to operate as a victim or offender.

Rise above them by becoming a cultivator or recharge by being cultivated!

That's what a Vanguard Husband would do.

What has 2020 taught you so far? How has it changed the way you think, feel, speak, or act? Or, are you still the same person you were since March? What is apparent is that the way we live will never be the same. Now is the new norm for the foreseeable future.

We’re surrounded by sickness, fear, insecurity, uncertainty, and so much more. You can’t look at any type of media or social media withoutseeing what is taking place in our communities and the world as a whole. The tragedy in all of this is that people are losing hope.

What does that mean for today’s husband?

We are actually left with two choices:
1. Give in to fear and remain stuck in life and marriage
or
2. Chose to operate above the fear through transformation

You see, you can continue as you are trying to survive with the samethinking, habits, conversation, and actions. That’s totally your choice. Your success, then, will be based on what is produced from them. If you are not producing the results that you want, then why continue on that path? On the flip side, you can choose to followChrist, allow the Holy Spirit to break down ever old habit, paradigm,mindset, habits, conversations, and actions in order to transform yourlife and marriage. The Bible says to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Husbands, unless you do something about your inner world, you can’t hope to impact your outer world. That includes your marriage. Scott Belsky, author of “Making Ideas Happen” said, “Even more powerful than the obstacles around us, however, are the obstacles within us. The most potent forces that kill off new ideas are our own limitations.”

Husbands, there is more in you that you realize. Don’t allow your inner man to be conformed to what is happening around you. Overcome fear, limitation, doubt, false identity, aimlessness, and hopelessness by becoming a Vanguard Husband today.

In today’s culture, a person is measured by their work and their possessions. While there is nothing wrong with work and what you have, the pursuit of them as an end to itself has caused the downfall of many marriages. How is that possible? I thought that a great job + money + possession = success and fulfillment? What about your physicalappearance? Without question, your health should be a major priority. You must take care of yourself. On the flip side, success in our culture is defined by how you look. In order to be accepted, people strive for social acceptance through vanity. The pressure to appease others and be accepted based on external achievements can be crippling to many.

As much as a husband strives to appear strong externally, if he LACKS IDENTIY, PURPOSE, AND VISION, he will crumble internally. The litmus test is when they experience a setback or failure. When the job doesn’t work out, when finances are lacking, when bills begin to pile up, when they become less motivated to workout, they become victims of their own circumstances. This, of course, shows up in their marriage.They may tell themselves that they are doing what they do to make their wives happy. In reality, they have sacrificed their marriage on
the altar of vanity. Husbands do struggle with depression, unhappiness, feelings of failure, and thoughts of being a loser. Theystruggle to overcome them but to no avail. They are told to keep everything in, bury their emotions, suck it up, don’t whine about it,and be a “man.” The truth is they are living lives of “quiet desperation.” They are drowning internally while wearing a mask offalse security.

Husbands, you don’t have to settle for a life of misery. God has placed within you the ability to not only create success in your life,but also to create success in your relationships. True success for ahusband is when he knows his identity, actualizes his purpose, and fulfill his God-given vision. Only then can you become the husband that your wife needs.




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Sometimes, I sit back in amazement when I think about how special you are. We’ve experienced so much (and then some) together in these past 15 years. I’ve come to discover what it truly means to have a virtuous
wife. I couldn’t begin to describe your worth because there isn’t
anything that I can compare it with. You’re in your own category. You are invaluable as a wife and mother. The wisdom, grace, strength, faith, and love that you pour out everyday bears witness to the virtuous wife that you are. I deeply love you and appreciate you for taking this journey called life with me.

LOST. CONFUSED. ANXIOUS. STUCK. DEFEATED. AIMLESS. STRESSED. FEARFUL. HOPELESS.

Are you living your life according to your purpose? If not, you’re most likely facing one of the above at this moment. Everything that you have experienced up to this point hasn’t been easy. Sometimes, it feels like everything you do doesn’t work out. Even the pressure that you feel to perform can be overwhelming. The unfortunate truth is that many husbands are going through motions but they aren’t really goinganywhere. Not knowing your purpose is like running on a treadmill. You
can walk or run as fast or as slow as you want. Once you stop, you realize that you haven’t made any progress at all.

Husbands, I know that you want more for you, your marriage, and yourfamily. Who doesn’t right? The only way that you can discover yourpurpose is to discover the Purpose Giver. You have been created by God
in Christ Jesus to do good works according to your purpose. Many
husbands have good intentions, but the question is, are you doing goodaccording to the intent that God has placed in you? You see, when youseek God and develop your relationship with Jesus, you will discover:

🛡️Your authentic self
🛡️Your authentic assignment
🛡️Authentic fulfillment

You see, going through life without discovering your purpose is likeliving your life based on a game of chance instead of a game of choice. There is power and fulfillment in choice! God has created you to be a husband that shows up mightily in his marriage. What is powerful about that truth is that God prepared your purpose before you knew that you needed to discover it! When you accept that you have a great purpose locked within you that will not only transform your family, you will feel…

COMPLETE. FOCUSED. SECURE. UNSTUCK. VICTORIOUS. DECISIVE. PEACEFUL. COURAGEOUS. ENCOURAGED.

These are the hallmarks of a Vanguard Husband.

HOW WILL YOU HANDLE YOUR DAY OF ADVERSITY?

Everyone in life goes through challenges. Whether its challenges in school, at work, with family members, in your marriage, or even internally, there is always going to be something that stands in our way from where we are to where we want to go. What I have discovered about adversity is that no one is immune to it. Everyone has a day of adversity. Many times, its more than one! For husbands, adversity can show up in many forms.

😵Have you ever felt hopeless about your marriage and life?
😵Have you ever tried to fix everything on your own but to no avail?
😵 Have you ever felt like you're in constant warfare?
😵Have you been too hasty and made mistakes?
😵Have you been feeding on the wrong type of wisdom about you,your wife, and your marriage?

Adversity visits us all and it will either make you or break you. Just as the scripture says, many men are playing a small game in life and their marriage because they have allowed adversity to overtake them.

I don’t know what you’ve been through or what you’re currently going through, but what I do know is adversity is not meant to crush you. If anything, you are meant to overcome it! As I heard one man of God say, “Every problem that shows up in your life is meant for you to solve.”

Husbands, you don’t have to allow adversity to bully you and discourage from being the man that your wife and family needs. You don’t have to allow the problems in your marriage to cause you to feel like a failure or loser. Keep your eyes on the Lord. Trust in what Hehas placed in you. Become a man of prayer. Lean on godly wisdom. Become a word-eater and stand on its truth. Your day of adversity will come, but you will be ready. You are built for this. You are called to be a Vanguard Husband.

I want to talk to every husband out there right now.

If you could change anything about yourself to help your marriage grow, what would it be? The easy thing to do when we have marital problems is play the blame game. Do any of the following sound familiar?

🛑You feel like you’re going through a mid-life crisis.
🛑Lack of motivation in career and marriage.
🛑You have no definite aim in life and marriage.
🛑You feel stuck or confused about what you should be doing.
🛑You and your wife constantly argue, even over the small things.
🛑You always seem to be making mistakes that bring disappointment.
🛑Your s*x life seems like a thing of the past.
🛑You find yourself drinking more in order to escape reality.
🛑You rather be hanging out with your friends instead of being around your wife.
🛑You feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster.
🛑You have thoughts of leaving your wife.

All of these issues, unfortunately, seem to be the norm for most men today. What this pandemic has revealed is that our marriages are not as stable as we thought they were. You are not as happy as you thought you were. You are not fulfilled as you believed. You can no longer escape your problems by going to work or hanging out with friends. Deep down, you actually want an exciting more fulfilling relationshipwith your wife. You might be telling yourself, “Why can’t we have therelationship we had in the beginning?”

Husbands, if I told you that all of these issues could be solved just by discovering your identity, walking in your purpose, and having a God-given vision, would you believe me? If I told you that you can have a more satisfying and more rewarding relationship with your wife and have all of your biggest issues resolved, what would you do to make that happen? Men, if you are experiencing a hurt marriage, if you feel like you don’t know who you really are, if you don’t know what to do, and if you don’t know where you are going, then DM me right now and get the help that you need today. I want to help you become the husband that you want to be in order to have the marriage you want to have.

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