Leaving Magenta

02/06/2024

One of my coaching clients is one of the 37 women in this book/documentary! I'm so proud of her!

Watch the trailer here! (And give it a thumbs up, if you like it!)

01/18/2024

Why is this so hard for some? You GROW when you apologize and learn from it. Some people are determined to be lifelong toddlers, doing damage all the way through their lives.

01/02/2024

I posted this on my personal page - and I've received quite a few comments as well as messages. It's touched a nerve in some people. I hope you reach out if you are going through something hard.

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I was married to a man who left me in 2021, $160,000 in debt, after we sold all of our (my) assets. Before him, I had a paid for car, my own home and real estate investments. He didn't work, instead, poking me to work harder - calling it working "with me."

I’ve been devastated, overwhelmed, and feeling like crawling underneath my bed. Permanently. But, God.

God has been with me, holding me upright when I didn’t have the strength, and holding my hand when I felt the sunshine on my face after too many tears.

It’s been years of healing from a narcissist. It’s amazing the carnage they leave in their wake.

I know I’m not the only one who’s facing the unthinkable.
The shame I feel is not mine to carry. I did not do this horrible thing to another human. It’s not even in my imagination.
I’m not ashamed. This is where I am, not who I am.

I hope that if you have something you’ve been holding tightly to you, that’s so galling that you can’t stand for the light to touch it, that you’ll reach out to me, or someone else you trust. Don’t suffer alone. Find someone you trust to share the burden with you.

If you are good, if you are decent, if you are trying, reach out.
Why are we ashamed of things that happened to us, while the other person swans off, like nothing happened. Seemingly unscathed. Parting words, “Enjoy your sad, small, little life.”

We all have pain. Life is unjust. It’s just the way it is. I’ll keep pushing through. We all do our best, even when we are facing the bottom of a cliff that we crane our necks and still can’t see the top of.

If you know me, I travel like I read books- voraciously.
I can still read easily, with over 1,100 books on my Kindle and a library card, I’m set, but my wings have been clipped.

This, perhaps, has been the hardest to face. I’ve gotten over the cheating, the mocking deceit, the abandonment. I’m dealing with the financial ruin, but what is it that makes me, “me?” What can I live with, and what can I not face a life without?

Travel is close to me. Important to me. Vital. It’s freedom. It’s knowledge, it’s scratching an itch that nothing else can get to. It’s breath.

From my first trip to Europe with my Nana when I was 9, I’ve hungered and chased after the next trip.

This little challenge has given me an enormous amount of hope.
It’s January 2, 2024. And I haven’t felt this hopeful in years.

Yes. I can do this. It’s not a a month long trip to South America, but I can find some town I’ve never been to, have lunch, wander the streets, take pictures of its architecture, talk with the locals, and smile, the sunshine on my face. I can do that each month, so I have something to look forward to, while I face rock climbing my cliff.

A little wiser; not bitter. Never bitter. But, God.

01/01/2024

I keep seeing this - 2024 is the year I do this! With my ADHD, I tend to forget a lot of things that have happened, so this should be fun!

10/26/2023

I normally talk about ADHD, but if you or someone you know is going through a divorce - life isn't over yet! There's joy to come!

There is hope, my friend! It doesn't seem that way in the beginning, but there's beauty and joy, yes, JOY in your future!

10/05/2023

I help women with ADHD. I also help women going through divorce.

I coach both groups to see or rediscover the beauty in their unique situation. Given I'm a divorced woman with ADHD - it's a natural fit!

I won't DM you, because I think that's tacky and I'm anything but pushy, but please reach out to me if you feel you could use a partner through your particular journey.

I've found out that there's beauty in my ADHD brain, and beauty after the destruction and pain of divorce.

I hope you have a beautiful day!

With Leaving Magenta, I help women in transition or with ADHD leave the life society planned for them and live a life of joy and freedom. Whether you are going through a divorce, move, career change, retirement, or other, I can help!

10/03/2023

October is National ADHD Month! Celebrate your gymnast brain in a world of marathoners!

09/06/2023

How do you see your brain if you have ADHD? I can think of a lot of adjectives, not all of them nice, but what makes the most sense is that we are gymnasts living in a world made for marathon runners.

My mind can twirl, leap, and do crazy cartwheel sequences, but I almost never got my taxes in on time. I've learned to be more intentional about it, and now have gotten them in early. But it took a shift of focus, especially as a self-employed real estate investor - my returns, well, they're complicated.

However, I have started my own businesses, lead groups to South Africa that I planned completely myself, homeschooled my daughter, and written a book.

Loving our brains starts with seeing ourselves differently.

What's something you are proud of? Write it here, or just say it out loud to yourself.

Can't think of anything? Oh, but I KNOW you've done something that you should be proud of. Think longer and harder.

My goal is to help you fall in love with your brain!

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09/03/2023

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08/27/2023

Be the girl in the pink pajamas! Your AHDH brain is super fun (and yes, annoying at times, of course!) but dance and people will join you! You'll find your tribe!

Turn up the sound and SMILE, my friend!

08/26/2023

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