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What’s the BIG deal behind a         6 SECOND KISS?Science tells us A LOT actually! INTENTIONALITY!Pausing longer takes ...
09/24/2026

What’s the BIG deal behind a
6 SECOND KISS?

Science tells us A LOT actually!

INTENTIONALITY!

Pausing longer takes us off of an autopilot habit.
Creating space for even more than a kiss.
I’m thinking a heart check not sure where your mind went 🔥

HORMONES!
Oxytocin the bonding hormone and dopamine the pleasure hormone, endorphins the natural pain relieving chemicals can be all be released.

It’s a ritual of connection which research also indicates are important in a maintaining a healthy relationship.

It puts a drop in our spouses love bank.
This way when we unintentionally take a withdrawal there is some extra in there 🤗

Give it a try and take notice of what happens!

09/19/2026
Yesterday, my sister Tina said to me, “Way to LOVE YOU.”Those four words spoke volumes to my heart.When our approach to ...
09/16/2026

Yesterday, my sister Tina said to me, “Way to LOVE YOU.”

Those four words spoke volumes to my heart.

When our approach to food is centered on what we should or shouldn’t eat, it can quickly become restrictive—bringing guilt and shame to the table instead of gratitude and love.

But what if we changed the question?

Instead of asking, “What am I allowed to eat?” we could ask, “What would help me feel nourished, energized, and cared for?”

Loving your body doesn’t mean making perfect choices. It means respecting the body God gave you enough to fuel it well—and showing yourself grace when you don’t.

Maybe lasting change doesn’t begin with stricter rules. Maybe it begins with love. 💚

09/10/2026

OUR BRAINS LOVE PATTERNS.

Have you ever driven somewhere so many times that you suddenly realize you don't even remember the drive? Your brain has learned the route. It recognizes the pattern and helps you move through it almost automatically.

Our brains are designed to notice patterns, predict what comes next, and create familiar pathways.

And our marriages develop patterns too.

Maybe one spouse gets frustrated → the other becomes defensive → the first gets louder → the other shuts down → both walk away feeling hurt.

Then tomorrow, the same thing happens again.

The pattern becomes familiar.

But familiar doesn't mean healthy.

And just because you've been caught in the same cycle for years doesn't mean you have to stay there.

Sometimes we wish for change.

Sometimes we drop hints, hoping our spouse will finally "get it."

Sometimes we wait for them to make the first move.

But change rarely happens because we silently hope someone else will notice what we need.

Something has to change.

And as believers in Christ, we are not people without hope.

We are carriers of hope.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope.”
— Romans 15:13

Hope doesn't mean pretending everything is okay.

Hope means believing that God can bring something new even when our circumstances seem unchangeable.

So what if you became the person willing to interrupt the pattern?

Instead of criticizing, try turning toward your spouse.

Instead of dropping a hint, clearly express what you need.

Instead of saying, "You never listen to me," try:

"I want us to understand each other better. Can we talk about what happened without trying to fix or defend ourselves?"

Gottman reminds us that change begins with small, intentional moments of turning toward one another.

Try these two steps:

❤️ 1. Start softly.
Bring up the issue without criticism, blame, or harshness. Talk about your experience rather than attacking your spouse's character.

❤️ 2. Make a bid for connection.
Instead of demanding change, invite your spouse into the conversation:
"I miss feeling close to you. I'd really like for us to work on this together.

You can’t change your spouse.

But you can change how you enter the pattern.

And sometimes, when one person changes their part of the dance, the entire dance changes.

Grab a hold of HOPE today! Decide to make a change.

Sometimes—many times—I forget to be thankful.I forget to intentionally recognize the goodness in this life I get to live...
09/08/2026

Sometimes—many times—I forget to be thankful.

I forget to intentionally recognize the goodness in this life I get to live—and the eternal life I have received through Christ Jesus.

Romans 1:21 has convicted my heart this week:

“Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.”

This verse shows us that gratitude is more than a positive attitude. Thankfulness helps keep our hearts turned toward God. When we stop recognizing Him as the source of all that is good, our thoughts can become distorted, heavily focused on self and our own abilities or fleshy desires, and our hearts can slowly grow dark.

Practicing gratitude supports our whole being:

💚 Mind: It redirects our attention from what is missing to what God has already provided. Gratitude can interrupt anxious, fearful, and negative thought patterns.

💚 Body: A grateful pause can help settle the nervous system, release tension, and create space for rest.

💚 Spirit: Gratitude draws our attention back to God. It reminds us of His faithfulness, strengthens our trust, and turns ordinary moments into worship.

Gratitude does not mean pretending that life is easy or ignoring what hurts. It means choosing to recognize that even in the middle of difficulty, God is still present, still faithful, and still worthy of praise.

Today, I want to be more intentional—not only about enjoying the gifts, but also about thanking the Giver.

Thank You, Lord, for this life we get to live, for every evidence of Your goodness, and most of all, for the eternal life we have received through Christ Jesus. Help us remember. 💚

What is one thing you are intentionally thanking God for today?

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN IT'S TIME TO MOVE FORWARD? 1. When God tells you clearly - it's time to move forward. “And your ear...
09/01/2026

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN IT'S TIME TO MOVE FORWARD?

1. When God tells you clearly - it's time to move forward.

“And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left.” Isaiah 30:21

Maybe it’s through a spoken word, a dream, or a vision.
When this happens, God will often confirm it through other people, a new invitation or open door. Especially when it's a significant move, there will be repeated confirmations. Often, your circumstances will confirm it as well. Something starts to change. And there usually comes a point when God releases you from the position, and you sense it in the Spirit.

2. When God allows pressure on you to leave, especially when you're reluctant to move forward.

“The Exodus.”

Relationships and systems begin to break down. Orders start to dry up. There's unusual tension, resistance, and opposition.

3. When God places a new door, opening, or unexpected opportunity in front of you.

“Behold, I have set before you an open door, and no man can shut it.” Revelation 3:8

You didn't see it coming. You might be pretty happy where you are. Your first instinct might be to turn it down or to ignore it.
But you begin to recognize that God is opening something new to you. And to step into it, you will have to leave where you currently are.

4. When you have taken the role, job, position, or organization as far as you can.

You've given it your all. It feels finished. You're not sure what else to do with it. It seems like there's nowhere to go with it.
You have plateaued, and now you're going through the motions. You're in maintenance or management mode.
Every day begins to feel a little like Groundhog Day. It’s just the same, same, same.

“Behold, I am doing a new thing;
now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?
I will make a way in the wilderness
and rivers in the desert.” Isaiah 43:19

5. When it becomes a harmful, dangerous, or destructive environment for you or for other people.

When the job or role is affecting your relationships, physical or mental health, it's time to consider moving forward.

6. When you're constantly asking God to open other doors or to lead you somewhere else.

Or you're constantly praying for clarity about the future in that place. Maybe you don't need clarity. Rather, you need the courage to do what you already know is right.

7. When the only reason you are there is for the money.

If you could afford to leave, you'd be gone already. That's not to say that there aren't times when we need to work simply to pay the bills. That's practical, responsible, and sensible. But to spend your entire life in a role or a job that you're only doing for money is heartbreaking and unfulfilling.

8. When you begin to face unusual challenges, or resources begin to dry up.

There used to be an abundance of orders; there was more work than you could handle; the finances were good; everything ran smoothly; the people got along.
Then, unexpectedly, things shift.
There's no obvious reason for it. It almost feels as if someone has turned off a faucet. That’s what happened to Elijah in 1 Kings 18. The brook that had sustained him dried up. It was one sign that it was time to move on.

9. When the vision or values no longer align with the organization.

Perhaps there used to be aligned, but something has changed - with you or with the organization.
You're no longer going in the same direction.

10. There are certain issues, challenges, difficulties, or tensions that aren't going away.

You've tried everything to resolve them, you've had hard conversations, and maybe you have been promised that things will change - but six months later - nothing has changed.

If you find yourself stuck in one or more of these situations, Renew Shepherding is here to help you navigate your way through. Visit our website and schedule today!

https://renews.clientsecure.me/
Or call 940-253-0999.

Sometimes the desire to lose weight isn’t really about health.Sometimes it grows from a lack of self-confidence, self-ap...
09/01/2026

Sometimes the desire to lose weight isn’t really about health.

Sometimes it grows from a lack of self-confidence, self-approval, or self-worth. We begin believing that if our bodies were smaller, we would finally feel beautiful, accepted, disciplined, or enough.

But God’s Word reminds us that there is no lack in His Kingdom:

“Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him. Fear the Lord, you his holy people, for those who fear him lack nothing.”
—Psalm 34:8–9

You can pursue better health without believing you are currently worth less.

Care for your body because it is valuable—not because you’re trying to make it valuable. Nourish it, strengthen it, and honor it from a place of love rather than rejection.

Your worth is not waiting for you at a smaller size. In Christ, you already lack nothing. 💚

Did you know there is a part of your brain constantly translating what you think, feel, and experience into physical res...
08/25/2026

Did you know there is a part of your brain constantly translating what you think, feel, and experience into physical responses?

It’s called the hypothalamus—and it is one of the body’s most important mind-body connectors.

Here’s what that actually means:

The hypothalamus receives information from parts of the brain involved in thoughts, emotions, memories, and perceived danger. It also monitors what is happening inside your body. It then helps your body respond through two major communication systems:

* Your autonomic nervous system, which influences heart rate, breathing, blood pressure, digestion, and sweating.
* Your endocrine system, working through the pituitary gland to influence stress hormones, thyroid function, reproduction, fluid balance, and more.

For example, when your mind perceives a threat—even one you cannot physically see—the hypothalamus may help activate your stress response. Your heart may race, your muscles may tighten, your digestion may change, and cortisol may be released.

The danger may begin as a thought, memory, worry, or emotion—but the physical response is real.

The hypothalamus also helps regulate:

* Body temperature
* Hunger and fullness
* Thirst
* Sleep and wake rhythms
* Stress responses
* Reproductive hormones
* Your internal sense of balance, called homeostasis

This is one reason prolonged fear, anxiety, or emotional stress can eventually be felt throughout the body. It is also why calming practices—such as prayer, slow breathing, movement, nourishing food, healthy sleep, and feeling safe and supported—can affect more than your mood.

They communicate safety to the nervous system and help the body move toward balance.

The hypothalamus does not work alone, and this does not mean every illness is caused by our thoughts. It means our mental, spiritual, and physical health are continually communicating with one another.

You are not a collection of separate parts. Your mind, body, and spirit were designed to work together. 💚



Scientific background: NIH overview of hypothalamus physiology⁠ and NIH overview of the stress system⁠.

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