Tears of Grief, Wings of Hope

I believe this is how all of us feel, especially in the early stages of grief. Know that you’re not alone, even though it seems as if you can’t even breathe, you feel better, I promise.
YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN 🦋🌻

Our loved ones are ALWAYS with us. Even though, a lot of us can’t see them, or hear them, they walk with us and help us thru our pain. I believe in signs. My daughter has sent me so many of them since she’s passed.
Cling to what you believe in and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
YOU ARE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN🦋🌻

It’s so so important to have a support group or therapy, or a Grief Educator to talk to always because you can feel alone, very alone, and the fact that you can go thru trauma from the loss, it makes it even harder.
You don’t have to do this alone. I can help you navigate this pain.

And if you know someone who’s grieving, HELP THEM. You can’t imagine how much it helps to have someone just to listen.

YOU’RE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN 🦋🌻

Do what feels right to you.
Say their name, share your story. There is healing in them.
Keep talking about your loved one forever if that’s what you what, if that’s what you need.

Don’t listen to those who tell you that you’re stuck, that you need to move on. Grief is a life long path.
Keep their memory alive🩵

YOU’RE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN🌻🦋

Sabíamos cómo amarlos cuando estaban aquí, y ahora debemos aprender a amarlos en su ausencia.
Esto es más fácil decirlo que hacerlo. Definitivamente 🌻🦋

Grief is very exhausting. No one tells you what you get to feel when you go thru a loss.
It changes you completely.

YOU’RE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN 🌻🦋

We all grieve differently. This is why we should never try to tell someone that they’re doing it wrong, because there’s no right or wrong way to grieve.

YOU’RE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN 🦋🌻

Recuerdo que cuando recientemente perdí a mi hija, tuve tanto dolor, tanta ira que no podía controlar, me sentí perdida, tanta tristeza y como si estuviera cubierto de una burbuja, apenas podía escuchar, mucho menos pensar.

El dolor te hace esto. Pierdes el control de tus emociones.

Así que si te encuentras con alguien que está de duelo, dale gracia. No está bajo su control. Lo creas o no, ni siquiera se dan cuenta.

Nos entristecemos, nos enojamos, nos sentimos abrumados, cansados, deprimidos, agotados, y la lista puede seguir.

En lugar de alejarse o juzgarlos. Ámalos, estén ahí para ellos y sí, siéntete incómodo, así es como se supone que debes sentirte. ❤️‍🩹🦋

I remember when recently losing my daughter, I had so much pain, so much anger that I couldn’t even control, I felt lost, so much sadness and like I was covered in a bubble, I could barely listen, much less think.

Grief does this to you. You lose control over your emotions.
So if you come across someone that is grieving, give them grace. It’s not under their control. Believe it or not, they don’t even realize it.

We easily get sad, angry, overwhelmed, tired, depressed, exhausted, and the list can go on.

Instead of walking away, or judging them. LOVE THEM, be there for them and yes, feel awkward, that’s how you’re supposed to feel.❤️‍🩹🦋🌻

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Hola, como sabrán, perdí a mi niña hace un poco más de 3 años. Ha sido un camino muy difícil. Recién la perdí me preguntaba, cómo voy a vivir de aquí en adelante sin mi hija?, era imposible ver hacia adelante y muy doloroso.
Mi esposo me dijo “Un día a la vez”, y desde que me dijo eso, voy paso a paso.

No te apresures a sentirte mejor. El duelo no tiene tiempo y todos llevamos el duelo de diferente manera. No hay una solución mágica ni palabras para sanar, pero si tienes las fuerzas para seguir adelante sea cual sea tú motivación, así sean tus otros hijos, tu pareja, el recuerdo de la persona querida que ya no está, entonces si puedes sanar poco a poco.
Agárrate y aférrate a lo que sea para tener fuerza.
No estás solo. 🦋🌻

If we really want to help someone who’s grieving, Let them be sad.⁣ Really. ⁣Sadness is a natural response to loss, hardship, and death. It just is.⁣
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And it's hard to know what to do when your friends are hurting. It sucks to see someone you love in pain. The thing is, you can’t cheer someone up by telling them to look on the bright side, or by giving them advice. It just doesn’t work.⁣⁣
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The trick is to lean into your helplessness in the face of your friend’s pain. Your job, honestly, is to feel awkward and stay there anyway. Just hang right out with their pain.⁣⁣
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When things are dark, it's ok to be dark. Really. Not every corner needs the bright light of encouragement.
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First of all, just say no to unsolicited advice. When someone talks to you about how hard this is, notice your impulse to jump in with a solution, and then DON'T DO IT. Most of the time people are simply looking for acknowledgment about how awful this situation is. ⁣
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Instead, mirror their reality back to them. When they say, "This sucks," say, "Yes, it does." It may seem too simple, but it's amazing how much that simple acknowledgement helps.⁣ It is an unfathomable relief to have a friend who will sit with you and let you feel exactly how you feel.⁣
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YOU’RE DOING THE BEST YOU CAN🦋🌻