14/09/2023
I ask this question to the sports world. When are we going to recognize that in order for an athlete to play at their best they have to accept, and be allowed to bring all parts of who they are everywhere?
I recently asked the question to a friend what would make me “unhirable” at the college softball level? The answer was I am too political on social media. Most college coaches don’t share their lives and opinions on social media. I recognized that again I was up against the belief that the only way to experience the sports world is through a homogenized heteronormative lens.
As q***r coaches do we really believe that we have to compartmentalize parts of ourselves to make others feel more comfortable? When will we decide that we will no longer speak in heteronormative language? When will we recognize that we are only protecting the heterosexual world, and not creating a safe space for all?
Today I walk proudly in my q***rness because it is a part of this human experience that I chose to experience. I walk proudly to be an example for all the little Jenny’s out there that may be q***r, or different from the default/homogenized body. To be the example that we don’t have to hide or be ashamed of any parts of ourselves. And if we do fit into the heteronormative world we can know, appreciate, and accept those that are different then us. Today I use language that was not demonstrated to me, that is inclusive such as “when you date a boy, or girl, or trans or non-binary human….”
When will we recognize that as coaches and mentors we are required to have the courage to accept the fullness of who we are as Divine beings created perfectly as we are, and then allow, and ask the same of our athletes?