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𝗟𝗲𝘁'𝘀 𝗚𝗲𝘁 𝗜𝗻𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗙𝗼𝗹𝗸𝘀!

𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘬𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘧𝘰𝘳?

𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘦?

The last year has been really rough on my family. We discovered our principles and values come into conflict with an institution that was very dear to us. Due to it we saw no other option but to move and start anew in a new state, doing new work. 😢

😊 I'm thankful to my wife for supporting me in this endeavor and choosing to go back to work to assist in our hasty retreat (so to speak). I'm grateful to her and our six children for being my first testers of The Base Camp Method. It has brought our family closer together and it only took 1 day of doing it before my children begged me to continue. 🎉 🎆

I'm grateful to my mentors who provided the training for me in which I discovered new aspects of my why, and a greater depth and distinction between what I do and who I am. All of this inspired The Base Camp Method a methodology for strengthening families by bringing them closer together.

It works because it covers all aspects of combating those reasons why families generally break up in the first place: financial struggle and growing isolation from one another. 💸 🥺

It is a methodology that brings emotional, mental, and spiritual clarity to our lives so we can change our financial situation through resources, tools, and training, and can bring our families closer together through Basecamp, Exploration, and the Camfire gathering.

I just want to say...thanks for being there through
it all my beautiful family: 𝗞𝗿𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻, 𝗝𝗮𝗺𝗲𝘀, 𝗦𝗲𝗯𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗻, 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗼𝗱𝗼𝗿𝗲, 𝗔𝗺𝗮𝗱𝗲𝘂𝘀, 𝗘𝗺𝗺𝗮, 𝗘𝗹𝗶𝘇𝗮𝗯𝗲𝘁𝗵. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝘆 𝗦𝗧𝗥𝗢𝗡𝗚 𝗙𝗔𝗠𝗜𝗟𝗬! 𝗜 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂.

👉I believe STRONG FAMILIES must be CREATED AND I believe that STRONG FAMILIES create STRONG FAMILIES.👈

𝘋𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘧𝘶𝘯 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺?

𝘊𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘯 4 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘴?

A great way to practice writing a story is to do it quickly.

Share your story in 4 words.

𝗠𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗶𝘀: 𝗖𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲, 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗱𝗲, 𝗪𝗮𝗱𝗲. ✍🏼 💖 💗 👢

𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘳𝘢𝘸 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝙞𝙣𝙨𝙥𝙞𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮?

𝘋𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧 𝙥𝙝𝙧𝙖𝙨𝙚 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶
𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨?

Mine is

“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”undefined – 𝗕𝗿𝘂𝗰𝗲 𝗟𝗲𝗲

𝗗𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝘁𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗙𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 - 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟯

The last two posts have been on financial burden hurting families by bringing on self-shame AND resentment.

The second reason families break apart is because of 𝙞𝙣𝙛𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮.

Just do a Google search.
Finances/$ and infidelity.
Top two causes for relationships to break/end.

𝘋𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘰'𝘴 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴?

𝘋𝘪𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱,
𝘰𝘳 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬?

It's a hard situation either way. I'm not going to say one way is right or wrong.

👉𝗜𝘁'𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗺𝘆 𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.👈

My situation is to deal with the 𝙘𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙬𝙝𝙮 the infidelity occurs. That's what I'm going to speak to.

𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘦 𝘨𝘶𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘵?

The reasons I've heard about why one party committed the infidelity generally stems down to one important factor: they felt that they no longer belonged to a family AND they wanted to experience what they were missing in their current relationship.

If I had to boil it down to one word, it would be: 𝙞𝙨𝙤𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣. 😖

The families that experience infidelity is more often than not due to the entire family unit practicing resentment or one or more parties begin isolating themselves from each other until someone says, it doesn't matter if I do this or not, and I want to experience what I think I deserve.

𝘈𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘳 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘸?

𝘈𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮?

If you want your family to heal from distancing you need to do TWO TYPES of activities.

1) You need to recognize and react to the distancing behavior.
2) You need to plan activities together with your whole family to get emotionally unified, mentally unified, and spiritually unified.

Recognize means 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨. Whether it's you isolating yourself from your family OR one or more family members isolating themselves from you.

React means 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 and ask yourself, "𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘺𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘮𝘺 𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺?" You must be honest with yourself.

OR, you spark a conversation with your family member(s) and ask, "𝘏𝘦𝘺, 𝘐 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘮 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘦. 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨? 𝘐𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱?"

😟😟😟

Finally, once you have *together* recognized and reacted in a helpful, healing way; you need to plan your future together by planning together activities...together...

🤲🤲🤲 >>Virtual Hug

𝗗𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝘁𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗙𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 - 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟮

Have you ever had someone resent you outright?
Was it brought on by financial burdens?

In my last post we dealt with shame brought on by our financial burdens.

This post I want to take about resentment.

Shame is often ourselves shaming ourselves due to the situation we find ourselves in.

Resentment is often the other part(ies) of a family holding animosity against a family member they have judge responsible for the situation.

Let me put it another way. When I practice resentment toward someone else I have already determined three things:
1) It's their fault
2) I've done nothing wrong
3) They deserve my anger/rage/[add your malice word here]

That's resentment from an emotional standpoint.

Resentment from a logical perspective is: someone else is unhappy with a situation and is living in denial of change.

They don't want things to change but they don't want to be in the situation either.

This is brought on through overwhelm and wishing the past before the problem happened was their present.

If you're experiencing resentment toward you, you need to remember that 'it's them not you.'

You still need to acknowledge the situation AND take action to improve your situation, but you don't need nor deserve someone else's malice or blame.

😡Before you get angry with my last statement, please read the following bold text:😢
𝗟𝗼𝗼𝗸, 𝗜'𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝘁 𝗳𝗮𝘂𝗹𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗵 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 𝗜 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗳𝗶𝘅 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗯𝘆 𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵𝘆. 𝗜𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗲𝘀. 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝗴𝗼, 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹.

𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝘆/𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹, 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘁.

We all deserve healing. 🏥

If you're reading this and you are practicing resentment toward somebody else I ask that you be honest with yourself and look to forgive.

Forgiveness in this case means to let go of the resentment (it's probably someone else's programming causing it anyway) and work together with your friend, spouse, or family to take action to make the situation better.

😕 𝙃𝙚𝙧𝙚'𝙨 𝙢𝙮 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙛𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣: I've been both the resenter (is that a word? oh well, it is now...lol) and the resentee (ditto last parenthetical notation). 💡

When I've experienced someone else resenting me, I kindly and without malice or shame - I needed to spend some time regulating my emotions before I was able to do this - talked to them through it.

Here's what I said, "I'm sorry that we're in this situation. I/We couldn't made different choices to avoid this but we either didn't know or felt that we needed to do what we did to get here. I'm sorry about this and I'm committed to making things better. Will you forgive me and help me?"

The key here is to ACKNOWLEDGE and COMMIT to taking action to CREATE a better future.

I had one of my friends confront me in college straightforward and say, "Hey. Are you mad at me? It seems like you're mad at me because you said/or did..."

He was right and I said, "I'm sorry. I didn't mean to treat you like that (and I meant it) and I'll try to do better in the future."

We were alright.

Remember be kind and
1) Acknowledge the situation -> and say, "I'm sorry..."
2) Ask for help
3) Explain the action(s) you are taking to get to a better situation
4) Forgive the other party.

🫂 >>>Virtual Hug

𝗗𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗰𝘂𝗹𝘁𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗙𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 - 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟭

Do you want your family to THRIVE?
Can you family survive any DIFFICULTY right now, or is it on the brink of disaster?

I've seen it all when it comes to families breaking apart. 😥😩

Even surveys over the last two decades support these findings.

Families break apart over TWO major issues:

Financial burden OR infidelity.

..sometimes, both.

These are very real problems that cause families to harbor resentment and part ways. It's even worse on any children in the family.

The reason why financial burden often destroys families is due to two reasons: self-shame and outside resentment.

How could I let this happen? I'm no good! I don't deserve to [fill in the blank].

That's what I found myself saying to myself when I was under financial burden.

I didn't make a plan.

I didn't want to go on.

I felt that my family would be better without me.

Have you experienced something similar too?

Self-shaming kills people.

Shaming to put it simply is make wrong.
I say/think things like I'm wrong because I'm in this situation.
I shouldn't have done that and I'm the reason for what's happening right now.

Make-wrong, or shaming, places all the blame on yourself or others AND takes no responsibility to ACTION to fix the situation.

I didn't experience healing or a better financial situation until I stopped making-wrong to myself and started determining and taking action to fix it.

It starts with the simple question:
I know why I'm here, what action can I take to change one thing right now to help me get out of my situation?

It's hard to do this alone.
Find a friend.
Find a coach.
And stop shaming yourself.

You do deserve a better situation AND you have all the tools RIGHT NOW you need to fix them.

I truly believe that 👉BECAUSE👈 I've lived it.

Summary:
1) Stop Playing the Make Wrong Game
2) Acknowledge that the situation is not where you want to be
3) Determine where you want to be
4) Ask yourself, "What can I do right now, TODAY, to help me on the path out of my situation?"
5) Take the action.
6) If you're having a hard time doing this by yourself, RECRUIT SOME HELP: friend, coach, or mentor.

🫂 >>>Virtual Hug

Want to know a SECRET?

You can learn a lot about what's on someone's bookshelf.

Let's do a test together =
1) Go to wherever your store your books
2) Grab the one that's in the 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝗿𝗼𝘄.
3) Go to the 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗿𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗿𝗼𝘄.
4) Grab the book that's 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝟳𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝟵𝘁𝗵 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 on the shelf...if you didn't get it that's the 𝟴𝘁𝗵 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸.
5) Share a brief story about the book (3 sentences).

Here's mine:
It's Trail Life USA (I had it between the Boy Scouts of America