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Today one of my heros died.

I’ve been crying on and off all day. Their spoken poetry have gotten me through the worst times of my life. I am heartbroken that I will hear no more words for them. They aren’t on this plane to create any more art. They knew it was coming, and they were open about it coming, incredibly vulnerable about their morality with strangers to them, and yet my system feels shocked. If I, a fan but otherwise stranger, feels this much, then my whole heart goes out to those who were close to them.

And even further yet, I feel so much gratefulness to have been on this Earth the same time they were.
Their words will live on. I can return to those words for inspiration for the rest of my own life.

A beautiful soul is now one with the universe, and the moon, stars, and fireflies they love so much.

Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability and art with us, .
You will be deeply missed. 💜

Ditch Rainbow Capitalism: Fifteen Alternatives to Corporate Denver Pride With corporate sponsors pulling back and the spirit of resistance fading from Civic Center Park, here are fifteen events where Pride still feels authentic.

Tomorrow at 3:30pm CT I am doing a webinar with Dr. Brian Arao, Leadership Coach, through . We would love to see you there! Otherwise you can catch the recording on Inciteful’s YouTube channel later.
Happy Pride, everyone! 🏳️‍🌈
Here’s the link to register: https://lu.ma/le341cwg

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Credit to Asia Suler.

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Want a life coach whom specializes in neurodivergence, q***rness, and invisible disability? Want to see if coaching is actually a good fit for you? Check out my website: www.q***rspectrumlifecoaching.com (link in bio). Book a 30 minute free consult and have a conversation with me about what’s on your mind, any questions you have, and whether coaching is right for you.

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Halo of trash the meow wolf. 💜

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I’ve actually been working with for awhile but life gets away from me and then I don’t post for awhile. Inciteful is an app/website that you can create an account with, which then allows you to do polls and surveys which earn you tokens. You are then able to turn those tokens in for support sessions. I am one of the coaches providing support sessions! They also have a financial coach and a product management consultant available. So, if you’ve had your eye on me for a while but haven’t been able to afford it, or if you wanted to get a few sessions in before you commit to a package with me, check out inciteful!
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Be well and be love!
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To whomever is reading this.
It’s okay if you aren’t celebrating.
It’s okay if you feel a whole range of emotions.
I hope you have a day that is full of comfort and peace.
It’s okay to just be and feel however you do.
I’m sending you flowers and love today. 💞

I’ve been excited all week for the surprise that my partner made me for Mother’s Day. I just knew we were going at 11:30. We went to the butterfly conservatory! Butterflies are one of my favorites animals and I’ve been wanting to go for a long long time!

I was in my basically sister’s wedding last weekend and really loved my hair. It’s like some sort of punk glam up-do and it made me feel really confident. Really happy to show it off. It held up all day and we really partied hard into the night. Total of 27 hair pins. lol

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Want a life coach whom specializes in neurodivergence, q***rness, and invisible disability? Want to see if coaching is actually a good fit for you? Check out my website: www.q***rspectrumlifecoaching.com (link in bio). Book a 30 minute free consult and have a conversation with me about what’s on your mind, any questions you have, and whether coaching is right for you.

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Continuing discussion of Autistic intersectionality…

In studies examining the relationship between two things, it’s important to understand the directionality of the relationship. Just because all A are B, doesn’t mean that all B are A.

That being said, there *is* actually a correlation in both directions when it comes to autism and gender diversity: people who are gender non-conforming, or gender-diverse, are much more likely to be autistic. People who are autistic are much more likely to be gender diverse or gender non-conforming.

If you take a group of autistic adults and have them complete a measure of gender identity and self-expression, they will vary much more widely from the accepted “norms” than a group of allistic adults.

If you take a group of trans and gender-nonconforming people and have them complete screeners about sensory sensitivity and measures of autistic traits, they will score much more highly than cisgender people.

You might be able to guess after yesterday’s post that this gets orders of magnitude more complicated for autistic people who are not assigned male at birth or are not raised to be male — and therefore whose autistic traits are misdiagnosed, misunderstood, or missed entirely, because of autism still often being viewed as a “boys’ diagnosis”.

If you’ve followed along with me thus far without disagreeing on issues like “autistic people should be allowed to stim”, “autistic people should be allowed to get super involved in their own special interests”, “we as a society don’t need to compound the trauma of autistic people by requiring them to look non-autistic for no good reason”, and, perhaps the underlying theme of all of it, “social constructs can be changed”, then you may be one step ahead of me already when I say: there is no reason that autistic people (or, you know, anybody else at all) shouldn’t be allowed to express their gender however they want to.

And also…does it surprise anybody at all that people who are told that they don’t fit the expected mold from day one also grow up and are more likely to question other arbitrary societal constructs? 😊

(Links to sources in the comments.)

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