Collier Connections

Focusing on the problem in therapy can lead you down a rabbit hole.

Repeatedly traveling old neural pathways of pain can refresh the suffering—it scratches an itch that sometimes feels good in the moment (it’s familiar), but then it’s hard to let go of later.

That pain feels heavy and can even become a part of your identity.

When this happens, you practice pain rather than joy, victim state rather than empowerment. Whatever you put your attention on grows, so your brain filters more evidence that matches this story, this identity your way.
It’s not the fastest way to become the person and partner you want to be.

If you’re ready to set your compass to your dreams in life and relationship, there’s another way.

Message me “Coach” for help in building the skills and will to make a new tomorrow.

Isn’t it time?

Have you ever felt like processing was a drag in your life and relationship?

There’s another way, and it feels so much better.

Joy is not just a destination in relationship, but the vehicle to take you there. Joy makes working through the hard stuff easier, and some of it just falls away.

When we connect with each other, we’re more likely to stretch to give, to express gratitude, and to problem-solve effectively together.

That’s not optimism—it’s brain science.

Message me “Coach” for help in finding a lighter way to turn things around in your relationship.

Have you ever felt like therapy caught you or your partner up in a loop of past pain that you couldn’t shake?

Though not the intent of therapy, this can happen.

And it can have detrimental effects on your identity (“I’m broken, wronged”) as well as your moods and emotional state.

When discussing past pain, we often feel it anew. That can solidify neural pathways of suffering, when what we want is to step into a better feeling future.

Is it time to give your partnership a fresh, new way forward? Message me “Coach” if you’re ready to learn the skills to find your way back to joy in your relationship.