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This link is from Chip Conley, an incredible midlife expert. I love that in this article, he describes that we are in a ...
02/23/2024

This link is from Chip Conley, an incredible midlife expert. I love that in this article, he describes that we are in a chrysalis phase between the ages of 40 and 50, with the potential for a most beautiful next phase to be born.

According to the Worldwide Independent Network of Market Research, which surveyed over 30,000 people across 41 countries, we start feeling old at 60 and stop… | 15 comments on LinkedIn

I just read this interesting article, by  about mindset around aging and how people who think positively about getting o...
02/13/2024

I just read this interesting article, by about mindset around aging and how people who think positively about getting older often live longer, healthier lives. I will share a few excerpts from the article in case you don't have full access :

"A decades-long study of 660 people published in 2002 showed that those with positive beliefs around getting older lived seven and a half years longer than those who felt negatively about it. Since then, research has found that a positive mind-set toward aging is associated with lower blood pressure, a generally longer and healthier life and a reduced risk of developing dementia. Research also shows that people with a more positive perception of aging are more likely to take preventive health measures — like exercising — which, in turn, may help them live longer."

Then, Holly Burns, the author of the article, suggests a few ways one can work at shifting how we think about aging :

1/ Notice where your age beliefs come from. To change your negative age beliefs, you first need to become more aware of them
2/ Find aging role models : come up with five older people who have done something you deem impressive or have a quality that you admire, whether it’s falling in love later in life, showing devotion to helping others or maintaining a commitment to physical fitness.
3/ Don’t mistake forced positivity for optimism : thinking more positively about aging doesn’t mean papering over real concerns with happy thoughts. Instead, try to look at the honest reality with optimism.
4/ Challenge your own fears about getting older : to feel more positive about aging, examine what worries you have about the process and then reflect on how troubling those concerns actually are.
5/ Don’t dismiss the benefits : focus on what you’re gaining, too.

How powerful and positive a mindset change can be !!! True in all life situations. This is at the center of our coaching work.

People who think positively about getting older often live longer, healthier lives. Here is how to reconsider your perspective.

I am having a week off from teaching yoga classes, as my new series on the human body systems and how to keep your body ...
02/08/2024

I am having a week off from teaching yoga classes, as my new series on the human body systems and how to keep your body healthy starts next week. And so I am sitting in my sofa reading by the fireplace ... picking a book from a huge pile of books that I want to read to enrich my coaching practice.
I just started this fascinating book, entitled "The new long life- A framework for flourishing in a changing world" by Andrew Scott and Lynda Gratton. They are both professors -Andrew teaches economics at the London Business School and Lynda teaches management practices at the same school. Both authors are focused on the understanding of the profound shifts reshaping our world and the actions needed for us humans to flourish individually and as a society.
Lynda has been appointed by former Prime Minister Shinzo Abe of Japan to be a member of his Council for designing the 100 year Life Society.

I was particularly interested by their chapter on reimagining time, changing your perception on aging and transitioning from a traditional "three stage life" (education, work, retirement) to a multi-stage life where you redistribute those core activities over the whole of life, reducing stress during the second stage (work).
This is an invitation to rethinking your life as non linear and allowing yourself to follow your own supporting path.

Excerpts of the book :
"Your decisions about the future allocation of time are made in the present. Your path forward will be constructed from everyday choices you make now- and this never-ending sequence of decisions often has trade-offs to be made.
You know the feeling -you wake up in the morning not knowing how you are going to fit everything in. Frequently you don't. Instead you focus on doing some activities today, push others back to tomorrow, and leave the rest for some time in the future. In other words, you are making trade-offs between various periods of time and by doing so implicitly deciding what matters most.
It's hard to make sensible decisions about the future when you feel pressured. These "pinch points' can be particularly tough in the second stage of a traditional three stage life. A three stage life of education, work and retirement creates a specific approach to trade-offs. During the first stage you have little money, but you are building up skills to support your working career. In the second stage you have little leisure, but you work hard to finance retirement. In the third stage you run down your financial assets and enjoy leisure. This puts significant time pressures on the second stage and there is a clear evidence that this can become a period of low psychological well-being. During the second stage too many activities are competing with each other -working hard to establish a career, putting money aside for retirement, raising a family, looking after elderly parents, trying to maintain relationships, wondering about the purpose of life.
In a longer life you have the opportunity to reduce these pinch points by redistributing activities. When you redistribute core activities (education, work, retirement) across the whole life, then ultimately you reduce some of the time pressure, stress and trade-offs that occur during each life stage.
That means for example that time spent on education becomes a series of activities around lifetime learning; or that the "downtime" of retirement is redistributed across life -in for example, more time spent with your children as they grow up, or more time traveling and taking a gap year. There is much sense in this redistribution for, as studies show, when people overload activities into the hours of a single day, they become stressed and unhappy, but when these activities are redistributed over weeks or months, they feel a greater deal happier.
On the face of it, this redistribution appears relatively straightforward. The reality is that it's difficult to achieve. Some of the barriers are corporate practices that punish non-linear work narratives. But it is more than this : it is also about your own perspective on time."

Home A Framework for Flourishing in a Changing World About The new long life Smart new technologies. Longer, healthier lives. Human progress has risen to great heights, but at the same time it has prompted anxiety about where we’re heading. Are our jobs under threat? If we live to 100, will we eve...

Happy new year to all our followers !!! I hope that 2024 will bring you happiness, health and progress towards achieving...
01/11/2024

Happy new year to all our followers !!! I hope that 2024 will bring you happiness, health and progress towards achieving your dreams ! Remember it's all about enjoying the journey, and learning from your mistakes on the path. Cherish and enjoy the present moment. My personal mantra for 2024 is NOW IS EVERYTHING !
As the winter falls in strong, I wanted to share a simple pranayama practice (breath practice) that will help you boost your levels of energy when you are in need. If you are not familiar with breath of fire here is how to do it : pump your navel in as you exhale out of your nose (the inhale will follow automatically), find a rhythm that you can sustain, start slowly, never get dizzy. Enjoy!

The basic breath series is a series of pranayama techniques that gives you a quick lift in energy, increased clarity, and a sense of balance.

"Our brain is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones.” Rick HansonThe holiday season can trig...
12/22/2023

"Our brain is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones.” Rick Hanson

The holiday season can trigger a lot of stress, "especially for women, who often take on trying to fulfill family expectations of decorating, gift buying, and preparing special holiday meals", as author Jill Suttie writes in her article about how to slow down and savor the holidays.
She bases her article on research by Fred Bryant of Loyola University Chicago, who has been studying savoring for decades. "Many of us enjoy things, he says—like a beautiful sunset, delicious meal, or party. Savoring requires a step beyond that: being conscious of that good feeling and allowing it to expand within you.
Savoring requires slowing down enough to recognize what’s happening inside of you during a pleasant experience, labeling it, and appreciating it, he says. Unlike mindfulness, which also involves “being in the moment,” savoring is about augmenting the positive rather than accepting “what is.”

Take time to read the entire article, it has a lot of wisdom and definitively helped me slow down and savor !!!

I particularly loved this piece of wisdom : "We should recognize that we humans have a negativity bias and take steps to fight it. Like psychologist Rick Hanson is fond of saying, our “brain is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones.” That means we need to be more actively savoring the positive, says Bryant."

Wishing you all a "savory" and wonderful holiday season !!!!
With love

Researcher Fred Bryant weighs in on the benefits of savoring the good during the holiday season.

One of my favorite researchers is Dacher Keltner. Dr Keltner studies compassion and awe, how to express emotion and how ...
11/02/2023

One of my favorite researchers is Dacher Keltner.
Dr Keltner studies compassion and awe, how to express emotion and how emotions guide our moral identities and search for meaning.
He is behind the Greater Good Science Center who's mission is to "study the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society."
He is also the author of the book "Awe, the new science of everyday wonder and how it can transform your life" that I highly recommend if you want to understand why spending time in nature, doing or seeing art or having a collective music practice is so good for us.
Chanting and singing in community is one of my favorite things to do and so this latest podcast by the Greater Good Science is something I wanted to share with you. Enjoy !

For time immemorial, humans have connected deeply through singing with one another. We explore the science behind this, plus how group singing benefits other aspects of our health.

Rekindle Coaching is also the place where we want to showcase some to the work we've been doing with clients, with their...
10/31/2023

Rekindle Coaching is also the place where we want to showcase some to the work we've been doing with clients, with their consent of course !

This week's testimony comes from my client S who came to me to work around the grief and the self doubts she was experiencing after a long time friendship broke down for her.

S. looks back at the work we did together : "I found myself going through a long-time friend break-up and was feeling like my feet couldn’t find the ground beneath me. I was struggling with a broken heart and how to make sense of the friendship loss and my role in it ending. In the coaching process with Susanne, I gained more clarity on what friendship is and how I want it to exist in my life. I honestly did not know in the depths of my pain and grief that I needed this work... until I did with Susanne, and I’m so thankful I did! Coaching work with Susanne has immensely helped me move through this season of insecurity to a place of feeling more hopeful, stable, and grounded. Alongside that,
Susanne offered a safe and trusting space for me to feel the deep pain, which was also very validating and important to me in this journey. Through it all, Susanne’s genuine care, trust, and
friendship is what has mirrored back to me what we need more of in our collective lives and world. I am so grateful for her and her work."

We made space and time for S to feel her grief and honor her, but also looked at what happened in this friendship from a more rational and kind mindset ... We used tools such as a personal 360 where you as friends and loved one what they value in you, we looked at different strategies on how to deal with toxic relationships, define the red flags to notice in future relationships, and reminded ourselves that friendships can be messy but should always support you and not drain you.

One of the reference books on friendship I recommend if you are interested in dealing more with this topic yourself is FRIENDS-Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships by Robin Dunbar. Enjoy the review of his book in the Atlantic.

The evolutionary psychologist Robin Dunbar explains the limits on how many connections humans can keep up, and the trade-offs involved when you invest in a new relationship.

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