AKP Coaching

Two of my favorites: books about human behavior and green food. 😊

Office buddy on a break 😊

The thistles are out!

Why do I love these flowering prickly things so much? Probably because I love it when nature represents life..like, look how cool and beautiful and also ouch.

Somehow cats make cozy feel COZY.

Also this book is amazing.

“Together, the historical, cultural, and psychological bases of our assumptions about the mind- that its properties are individual, inherent, and readily ranked according to quality- give them a powerful punch. Such assumptions have profoundly shaped the views we hold on the nature of mental activity, on the conduct of education and work, and on the value we place on ourselves and others. It’s therefore startling to contemplate that the whole lot of it could be misconceived. To grasp the nature of this error we need to consider another metaphor.”

We welcomed two beautiful girls into our lives this week- Nellie and Rosie Tortellini.

Many thanks to for taking care of them until we adopted them!

I think we already have 87 cat toys. 💜🥰💜

For several weeks now I’ve been getting snackservicedurham] and I am so happy! Everything so far has been delicious and I feel so well fed. 🥰

My children crushed my cooking mojo with their picky kid eating, and then I’m not sure why but my cooking skills seem to be on hiatus. Almost ever I make is a flop. I love food and eating so that has been pretty sad. Until…

snackservicedurham] came into my life! And now I eat with joy and delight once again.

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Today and yesterday

Being heard

and

Being agreed with

Are not always the same thing

I’ve been thinking about how I’m 50 years old all day. 50!

*update, it wasn’t my birthday, I was just marveling at being 50 😊 My birthday is in April 🌷😁

Weird.

Cool. 😊

9 years sober/in recovery/alcohol free today! 😍

Every week I write something on my calendar pages to support me and remind me of what I’m working on.

This is what I wrote this week.

Sometimes the help or comfort we want to give is not the help or comfort someone wants or needs.

The intention behind all these oranges and gloves, warm hat and toothbrush is good and kind. But what about the person it was given to? Are they homeless? Can they carry it all? What if their pockets are already full of the few things they need and love? What then?

So often we want to help, but the way we want to help is for us, and the way we want to help is our way of helping or comforting. If we are present and not on autopilot we can see what is actually needed in each unique and individual situation. Being the way the person who needs help or comforting is asking for.

To have given the respect to this person, to let them decide, and to wait patiently while they do. To say “Do you want this?” instead of “I want you to take this.”