Alyssa Bostwick Coaching

Alyssa Bostwick Coaching I coach Christian women disillusioned with their faith to reduce anxiety and shame in their relationships with themselves & God. 🫶🏻 DM to start healing

With a decade of experience as a mental health clinician, I've witnessed a noticeable decline in trust in pastors and churches, accompanied by a rise in questioning and doubting. With my clients facing limited resources, I transitioned to coaching to address this gap. My unique perspective, shaped by ongoing study and a genuine enthusiasm for understanding how God designed us for healing and connection, informs my approach to scripture from an embodied, not just a left-brain, perspective. I hope that this approach helps people move from rigid religiosity into a personal and meaningful faith, that is unique to them.

So much of our healing starts with feeling safe—safe enough to tell the truth about how we’re coping, where we’re hurtin...
07/04/2025

So much of our healing starts with feeling safe—safe enough to tell the truth about how we’re coping, where we’re hurting, and what we long for.

In a secure, loving relationship with God (not the fear-based version many of us were taught), we begin to see ourselves with kinder eyes.

Not to shame our patterns, but to understand them.
Not to force change, but to want it.

This is what healing looks like: compassion that leads us home. đź–¤

You were taught to be obedient.To silence your emotions.To second-guess yourself.To distrust your body.So of course sham...
06/30/2025

You were taught to be obedient.
To silence your emotions.
To second-guess yourself.
To distrust your body.

So of course shame crept in and made a home there.

If you’ve been carrying the weight of “not enough” for too long…
If your nervous system still flinches at the thought of getting it wrong…
If deconstruction has left you untethered and unsure where to begin—

🌱 Bloom was made for you.

It’s a free, gentle guide with 5 powerful steps to begin healing shame from religious trauma.

Not a quick fix.
But a soft place to start.

Comment “Bloom” and I’ll send it your way.

You’re already worthy of this healing.

The truth is: without a connection to your core self, deconstruction can feel like free-fall.When the beliefs, communiti...
06/29/2025

The truth is: without a connection to your core self, deconstruction can feel like free-fall.

When the beliefs, communities, and identities we were taught to build our lives around begin to unravel, it’s easy to focus only on what we’re walking away from.
The theology.
The shame.
The rules that told us who we had to be.

But underneath all of that is something even more essential:
Who you are underneath the programming.

Your core self is what gives you a sense of steadiness in the middle of upheaval.
It’s the part of you that holds your values, your emotions, your agency, your voice, your story.
It’s you, even when the labels fall away.

When we don’t reconnect with this part of ourselves in the deconstruction process, we can end up just swapping one set of external voices for another—or staying stuck in shame, grief, or numbness with no clear way forward.

So if you’re in the thick of deconstruction, let this be your focus:
Not just what you no longer believe,
but who you are becoming.
What matters to you.
What feels true.
What helps you feel like yourself again—not the version they told you to be.

Start there. Always start there.
That’s where healing begins.

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Want help reconnecting with your core self after religious trauma? Comment “BLOOM” and I’ll send you something to get started. 💌 COURSE COMING IN AUGUST!

You were so busy focusing on what not to be,you forgot how to become.Not too loud.Not too emotional.Not rebellious.Not p...
06/22/2025

You were so busy focusing on what not to be,
you forgot how to become.

Not too loud.
Not too emotional.
Not rebellious.
Not proud.
Not curious.
Not “led astray.”

Religious shame trains us to self-abandon in the name of being good.
It teaches us to shrink before we ever had a chance to grow.

But healing isn’t about rebelling.
It’s about remembering—
how to listen inward again.
how to trust your own voice.
how to become who you were before fear got the final say.

🖤 If you’re ready to start becoming,
comment “Bloom” and I’ll send you the free guide:
5 Steps to Healing Shame from Religious Trauma.

When you’ve been taught that your inner world is dangerous, shame becomes a constant companion.But what if your emotions...
06/21/2025

When you’ve been taught that your inner world is dangerous, shame becomes a constant companion.

But what if your emotions, your intuition, even your doubt aren’t threats to your faith, but invitations to deeper connection?

This is the heart of the work: not silencing those parts, but listening to them with compassion.

✨ This is exactly what we explore in the free shame workbook + webinar.

Comment “Bloom” and I’ll send you the free steps today.

You’re not broken. You’re becoming whole.

💬 So many of us were taught that spirituality meant shrinking ourselves to be “good enough.” But real spirituality is ab...
06/19/2025

💬 So many of us were taught that spirituality meant shrinking ourselves to be “good enough.” But real spirituality is about connection—not disconnection. Not shame. If you’re unlearning this too, you’re not alone. 🌱✨
(Link in bio for the free shame healing resource.)

If you’ve felt like self-compassion is just a slippery slope to selfishness or sin, you’re not alone. That fear is part ...
06/17/2025

If you’ve felt like self-compassion is just a slippery slope to selfishness or sin, you’re not alone. That fear is part of the residue of religious shame.

✨ Practice tip: Start by simply noticing when guilt or fear shows up around rest, boundaries, or softness with yourself. Don’t rush to fix it—just name it. Naming is the first step toward healing.

You’re not backsliding. You’re recovering.

🌀 Want support moving through this? The Shame Workbook and free webinar walk you through somatic and narrative tools to reclaim trust in yourself again.

Link in bio đź’›

In many Christian spaces, this kind of validation is rare—because it’s hard. We’re often taught that tension threatens f...
05/24/2025

In many Christian spaces, this kind of validation is rare—because it’s hard. We’re often taught that tension threatens faith, that contradiction equals rebellion, and that naming harm—especially from leaders—disrupts “unity.” So instead of holding space for each other’s stories, we dismiss, deflect, or shame.

Sometimes it’s not cruelty—it’s a nervous system overwhelmed by the discomfort of not having clean answers. It’s spiritual insecurity masquerading as certainty. And it becomes a breeding ground for gaslighting, silencing, and protection of abusive systems.

But healing starts when we build capacity to sit in that discomfort. When we learn to validate without needing to agree, to hear pain without rushing to correct it. That’s how we begin to metabolize shame—ours and others’.

It’s not a threat to faith to say “both can be true.” It might actually be the beginning of it.
Comment below what two odds you struggle to hold true 🫶🏻💎

Did you know your body worships just as it functions? Did you know that the thing that the same breath regulates anxiety...
05/20/2025

Did you know your body worships just as it functions? Did you know that the thing that the same breath regulates anxiety and shame? Comment below how breath has helped you. Save for later to guide you through an anxious or shameful moment to guide you back into connection with yourself and God.

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