Nine Types Co.

I'm in Dallas this week for another book signing! Come by to chat about the Enneagram in person. I've been enjoying time with family (I'm originally from DFW) and some good food while in Texas. See y'all on Wednesday!

BOOK LAUNCH WEEK 🎉

Leading up to this week, things did not go according to plan. I wanted to get back on instagram daily in October, but like many pregnant people, my first trimester absolutely knocked me out. 🫠 So I did what I could! And I’m so, so grateful for all of the love and support I’ve felt this week, from friends and family, new faces I’ve met at book signings, and of course my home team, Brandon and Canon 🐶.

Thank you all for celebrating Enneagram in Real Life with me! It’s an honor to hear your Enneagram stories and to be a small part of your path. 💛

Only one week left to preorder Enneagram in Real Life!

To create well-rounded depictions of each type, I interviewed individuals of every subtype. You’ll find many of their stories throughout the book! My favorite way to learn the Enneagram is from the types themselves. Sure, some stereotypes hold true, but there’s so much more nuance within each of us. Over the years, I’ve learned so much from all of you!

What do you wish others knew about your type?

The patterns in this post are just a few I've observed for the Body types. If you’re looking for ways to address these patterns (especially if your old ways aren’t working!) be sure to grab my new book, Enneagram in Real Life. You can find the hardcover, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold!

The patterns in this post are just a few I frequently see for the Mind types. If you’re looking for ways to address these patterns (especially if your old ways aren’t working!) be sure to grab my new book, Enneagram in Real Life. You can find the hardcover, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold!

Stay tuned for the Body Types (8, 9, & 1)!

The patterns in this post are just a few I frequently see for the Heart types. If you’re looking for ways to address these patterns (especially if your old ways aren’t working!) be sure to grab my new book, Enneagram in Real Life. You can find the hardcover, ebook, or audiobook wherever books are sold!

Stay tuned for the Mind Types (5, 6, & 7)!

I hear so many Nines say that very few people know how worried, concerned, or anxious they are beneath the surface. Most often, Nines say they are anxious about feeling left out or feeling like they don’t matter, but they force themselves to bury it. Nines are known for being easygoing, but sometimes they don’t feel that way.

If you’re a Nine, what would you add to these lists?

In my upcoming book, Enneagram in Real Life, you’ll find a full section on communication and relationships, featuring even more ways to relate with Nines!

Gender is a factor for all types, but I especially see point 2 (don’t let issues fester) with women who are Eights. So many of these women hear they are intimidating or unapproachable, and that can feel alienating when they deeply care and never intend to intimidate their loved ones.

If you’re an Eight, what would you add to these lists?

In my upcoming book, Enneagram in Real Life, you’ll find a full section on communication and relationships, featuring even more ways to relate with Eights!

I didn’t include this above, but Sevens like to stay positive, and they feel drained when others dwell on the negatives. Of course, it’s helpful for all of us to get comfortable with the full spectrum of emotions, but I also like relating with Sevens by being positive because it’s a skill I need to practice! And Sevens are great role models to help us learn.

If you’re a Seven, what would you add to these lists?

In my upcoming book, Enneagram in Real Life, you’ll find a full section on communication and relationships, featuring even more ways to relate with Sevens!

Sixes are often waiting for the other shoe to drop, which leaves them feeling unsettled, especially when good things are happening to them. When Sixes accept the good, they are drawing upon faith and courage, instead of believing their fear. (By the way, many of us do this! This is not a Six-only trait, but it is very common among Sixes.)

If you’re a Six, what would you add to these lists?

In my upcoming book, Enneagram in Real Life, you’ll find a full section on communication and relationships, featuring even more ways to relate with Sixes!

Differentiating between quiet and solitude can be helpful for Fives in relationships because it allows you to figure out when you can connect via sitting together in silence versus when you really need alone time to recharge.

If you’re a Five, what would you add to these lists?

In my upcoming book, Enneagram in Real Life, you’ll find a full section on communication and relationships, featuring even more ways to relate with Fives!

Letting go of comparison can be a big task. It might feel more feasible to start by noticing when you’re constantly measuring yourself against others. Most Fours are aware that they compare sometimes, but it can be tricky to recognize how often you’re doing it, and how detrimental it is to your well-being.

If you’re a Four, what would you add to these lists?

In my upcoming book, Enneagram in Real Life, you’ll find a full section on communication and relationships, featuring even more ways to relate with Fours!