Savor Your Life Coaching

I was recently reminded of an object lesson that I have shared many times in the classroom and kids' ministry.

The object lesson involves a tube of toothpaste. You let the kids squeeze out the toothpaste, and then you ask them to put it back in the tube. Of course, it won't go back in.

The lesson connects to our words. Once we say something...post something...text something...we can't take it back. For better or worse, the things that we say impact others. Forgiveness isn’t easy…forgetting is nearly impossible.

Throughout this season, remember that as much as we wish that it could be merry and joyful for everyone all of the time...that simply isn't reality.

As you walk through the store, try making eye contact and offering a smile. Please and thank you matter...say them often. Show gratitude for those who are working so hard to make life easier by providing services to you or to your family. You never know the difference you may make.

Finally, remember grace and space goes a long way with your people. If you are feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, irritated, impatient...take some space. Give yourself grace and give your people grace. Lavish grace changes hearts. Don't forget to encourage your people to take space too. This time of year has lots of sensory overload, pressured encounters, and emotional intensity. Space matters.💕

One of my favorite quotes-

"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”-Viktor Frankl

Choose well. Be kind. Love well. Either way, you will be making a difference in someone's life. Make it count. You can't undo it once it is out of the tube!!

If Simone Biles teaches the next generation of athletes nothing else, let it be this!! Even young athletes need to learn agency over their bodies...and it starts with their minds. Some prices are too high to pay.

Big things are happening.

It takes a LOT of little intentional choices to get the BIG thing done. Sometimes, you have to change direction to get the thing done. Sometimes, you have to compromise to give something room to become part of the big picture.

The difference between monotony and practice making perfect is often about reframing and intentional mindset.

If you are working on something big and need some accountability, some intention, someone to cheer you on in the process, I am here to help.

I have some great new offerings coming soon to my coaching practice. Stay tuned!!

At this point in quarantine and the reality that is Covid, we are all here. The depth and awareness vary, but we are ALL here.

Grace and space MATTER. You have to be healthy, inside and out, for the best chance of staying healthy. It is important to be intentional about your awareness. Listen to your body, your heart, and your mind. Don’t rely on one to the exclusion of the others. We are all hardwired to be connected to one more than the other. They all matter...and they all need attention.

Which of these are you experiencing? What are you noticing in your people? How is exhaustion impacting your relationships?

Ask curious questions. Make space to find answers. And, be lavish with the grace required to hold the tension.

Friends, clients...this is one of my favorite teachers in the quest to know myself and to know how to be more intentional and aware of how I show up in the world. Tune in!!

Cheetos....they’ll get me. Starts with one and next thing I know the jar is upside down above my head.

Week 3 of quarantine has begun! What compulsions are our to manage you this week?

I’ll be talking about this, childhood messages, and more at 3:00 CST this afternoon at the LTM Livestream page.
Hope you’ll join me!

https://livestream.com/accounts/27685077/events/9064170

Today, we are savoring the intentional act of being positive, proactive, and productive. The world is very different than it was a week ago. We have an amazing opportunity to nurture relationships with time that we didn’t have available last week. Let’s get creative and intentional about the choices we make with the resource that we all have at our disposal right now...time.❤️

One of my favorites...a lot of the coaching work that I do around shame and vulnerability is based upon her research. Connection is IMPORTANT! We are not hard wired for isolation. Technology drives the fear factor for a lot of people. Try finding ways to be encouraged and to encourage others!!

Social distancing doesn’t have to mean social disconnection. I miss church today. I’d like to be in communion with God, friends, and strangers this morning - learning, singing, and passing the peace.

Join us tonight on Instagram Live for a short church service.

* Unofficial - I’m not a priest/pastor

* Unplugged - It’s just me and my phone from my kitchen table

* Unapologetic - In the Episcopal tradition we are taught that we do NOT go to church. We are taught that WE ARE CHURCH. We can be church together.

* Unnecessary - if you don’t believe in God or church or gathering or me or Instagram or whatever - that’s ok. We can share many other things together. No need to leave a mean comment. Things are scary enough.

* Unbelievably unnecessary - if you don’t believe I’m allowed to have church like this - that’s ok. Pray for me. Silently.

Peace be with you. See you at 6pm CST on Instagram Stories Live!

Helping others matters!!

An ER physician's advice to the general public: How to flatten the curve Some advice as an emergency physician, daughter, mother, and concerned citizen.

“...if we are not TRANSFORMED by our pain, we will almost certainly transmit it to those around us, and I am learning that we pass it on to future generations as well.”
Richard Rohr

I love being a homeschool mama. I have lots of opportunities to speak into my kids. The one thing I don’t want to speak into them is my unresolved pain and trauma.

I love coaching. I have lots of opportunities to speak into people who want to be transformed. They want to do their personal work...ask their curious questions...explore what can be different about who they are and how they show up in the world.

The method isn’t as important as the motivation and momentum. Get intentional about recognizing where your pain pours out into your world. It doesn’t matter if you are a “spewer” or a “stuffer.” Unresolved pain hurts others. To resolve it, you have to be willing to acknowledge it. You have to be willing to ask yourself hard questions. And, you have to be able to sit in the tension of non-judgement for yourself while you come up with ways to show up differently.

Engaging with a coach does a few amazing things. It gives you someone with a passion for asking curious questions. It gives you someone to hold the space and tension for you as you explore the before, the now, and the after. And, you get someone who reminds and redirects you when you find yourself stewing in judgement...someone who can help you realize how to live in grace...so that you can be gracious with the ones you love and work with every day.