CORE MAP

Wishing you all the joy of the season!

Wishing you a blessed and bountiful Thanksgiving! 🥰

Spirited children can be a challenge...but when given the opportunity to harness and channel their energy in healthy ways, they grow into adults with skills that truly can change the world!

Wishing you love, joy, and all the magic of the season!

Most of us can get a little frantic around the holidays, but Entertainers will really feel this one! 😁

There is no magic pill...no amount of positive thinking...nothing to replace the necessity to take action in our own lives to generate the outcomes we desire. Anything worth having is worth the effort. This applies to things you want as well as relationships you wish to keep.

That said, you don't have to do it alone! The journey is better when shared and we get the advantage of multiple viewpoints. Surround yourself with people who support your dreams and if you feel stuck, a coach can give you the perspective and boost you may need to reach the next level.

Remember...YOU are worth the effort!

In these troubled times we are all worrying about many of the same things, but different personalities will cope differently.

Commanders (get it done people) are often on the front lines taking action...but if circumstances are preventing that, they will feel anxious and may appear agitated or impatient. Ask if you can help them get something done. Be patient with their impatience...they don't intend it to be personal.

Organizers (get it right people) are likely very content to work from home, but may feel overwhelmed by the chaos if they are "essential workers" or if they live in a household of extroverts. They are likely to isolate. Ask if you can help them bring order. Give them space.

Relaters (get along people) worry about people and whether they will be ok. They feel deep anxiety that they can't protect or provide for loved ones. They are likely to withdraw. They have a hard time accepting help, so rather than ask, just connect. Let them know you care and you see how much they care.

Entertainers (get connected people) are most likely to look like the extrovert in the cartoon. Social distancing is their worst nightmare. They need interaction and variety. Reach out to them in whatever means you can while remaining safe. Help lighten the mood with laughter and light conversation. Give them something fun to look forward to.

These are, of course, very general guidelines. Ask the people in your life how they are feeling and what they feel most anxious about in these trying times. Ask what they need. Share how you are feeling and tell them what you need.

Give a little extra latitude for bad behavior. You don't have to just accept it... but try not to criticize it. Instead, say something like, "I know how stressful it is right now and we are all on edge. Is there something I can do to help you feel less anxious/frustrated/fearful/etc?"

Be safe...be well...be kind...be yourself. ❤️

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Did you know that smiling can trick your brain into happiness...and boost your health? A smile can trigger a powerful chemical reaction in the brain that can make you feel happier. In fact, science has shown that smiling can lift your mood, lower stress, boost your immune system and possibly even prolong your life!

Let's spread some happiness while we avoid spreading germs...smiles are contagious too and they can travel beyond the 6 foot social distancing space!

Be safe...be good to yourself...and smile!

This is certainly antiquated thinking, but societal expectation and gender roles are still major contributors to conditioned behavior. Be aware of limiting beliefs...of others and your own. And while we need to be aware of how our behavior impacts others, never let it change who you are. ❤️

Planting seeds can be an effective way to move past conflict. When in the midst of a disagreement we often can only hear from our own perspective. Any explanation can feel like an excuse or an attack in the heat of the moment.

Rather than forcing your point, state how you are feeling...recognize how they must be feeling...admit that now isn't the time to have a discussion when both sides are upset and have different perspectives...next, calmly share what you would like for them to consider and ask what they would like you to consider...then set a time to talk again when both are in a calmer space.

You have now planted seeds for consideration and each of you can think about that perspective without the emotional charge behind it. ❤️