04/02/2020
In these troubled times we are all worrying about many of the same things, but different personalities will cope differently.
Commanders (get it done people) are often on the front lines taking action...but if circumstances are preventing that, they will feel anxious and may appear agitated or impatient. Ask if you can help them get something done. Be patient with their impatience...they don't intend it to be personal.
Organizers (get it right people) are likely very content to work from home, but may feel overwhelmed by the chaos if they are "essential workers" or if they live in a household of extroverts. They are likely to isolate. Ask if you can help them bring order. Give them space.
Relaters (get along people) worry about people and whether they will be ok. They feel deep anxiety that they can't protect or provide for loved ones. They are likely to withdraw. They have a hard time accepting help, so rather than ask, just connect. Let them know you care and you see how much they care.
Entertainers (get connected people) are most likely to look like the extrovert in the cartoon. Social distancing is their worst nightmare. They need interaction and variety. Reach out to them in whatever means you can while remaining safe. Help lighten the mood with laughter and light conversation. Give them something fun to look forward to.
These are, of course, very general guidelines. Ask the people in your life how they are feeling and what they feel most anxious about in these trying times. Ask what they need. Share how you are feeling and tell them what you need.
Give a little extra latitude for bad behavior. You don't have to just accept it... but try not to criticize it. Instead, say something like, "I know how stressful it is right now and we are all on edge. Is there something I can do to help you feel less anxious/frustrated/fearful/etc?"
Be safe...be well...be kind...be yourself. ❤️