Dana - Life Coach

I've made a decision.

I'm closing my business accounts and will be posting on my social media accounts.

Because 6 social accounts, a website, monthly newsletter and soon to be updated LinkedIn account is too fu***ng much! My life is crazy enough and I don't have time for all this insanity.

Also, social media algorithms are not friendly to business accounts and I legit don't have time for that kind of bu****it.

So if you found me on here and want to continue to follow me I'll be on my personal page (you can friend me, link in comments)

I appreciate each of you who took the time to follow and love on my business accounts.

I'll be closing these down in the coming weeks.

*I chose this photo because I'm finding all my business and marketing changes funny.

**There's no coffee in that cup

My sister was here visiting all last week (it was magical, please come back) and the morning before she left I was making everyone eggs and (frozen) waffles.  I asked my sister how her breakfast was.  She responded it was a "4 out of 5 stars." to which I asked "what would have made it 5?"  She said "raspberries" as I had given the kiddos raspberries and not her. 

We laughed. 

I realized though that a year ago that wouldn't have been my response.  I would have either been defensive (triggered), felt bad (people pleaser) or most likely both but I found myself having a genuine curiosity of the opportunity to make it 5 stars for her next time. 

What's something in your life (big or small) where you can find the opportunity?

I love an "aha" moment during coaching sessions.  It's where consciousness is raised and change can begin.

at the end of a recent coaching session I was reminding my client that if they needed anything before we met again they could email me, I was there to support and help them.  They responded with "and I really feel that."

and it's true.

sure, after our calls I'm usually jumping right back into mom mode but between sessions I do think of my clients randomly while I'm going about my day and sending them love and wishing that they're doing well.

so having that reflected back to me was very meaningful.

What's something that you've had reflected back to you?

Last week I hit a breaking point.  The worst one I've ever had.  We were days away from vacation and I couldn't push through any more.  Clifton was booked with jobs all week, which had me at home with the kids all day.  Sawyer is phasing out of nap time so I wasn't getting any breaks throughout the day.  I was anxious about leaving the kids for the first time for this long.  Trying to get things ready for them while we were gone and us ready for our trip.  Sleep was evading me.

It was a perfect storm.

It was also a pattern.  Go, go, go until I hit a wall.  Recover and repeat.

Most importantly it was the wake-up call I needed.  I'm still not taking care of myself and my needs.  I'm doing all the things for everyone around me and myself last, which by the time I get to me I'm usually too tired to even do anything.

and I really thought I was doing better (and I have come a long way).  We've also had so many changes in just a short month.  Clifton being let go, closing a business, starting two new businesses, parents to three kids and each week (hell, each day) we've had to adjust.

It's a lot. 
It's exhausting.
It's stressful.

I know I need to start taking care of myself more and first BUT here's the kicker,  I'm not exactly sure what that looks like.

So I'm exploring what that is for me so I can make changes to do it regularly.

What does your self-care look like?

I had a coaching call recently and since I LOVE to understand things to the umpteenth degree I brought up that a couple Sundays ago I was in a funk and I didn't understand why and this seemed to be a common occurrence for me.

My coach mentioned the "Sunday Scaries" which also crossed my mind but I didn't think that was it because I LOVE Mondays.  Regardless, we began exploring.  Through our conversation I brought up that Sunday's don't have any structure to them and are slower paced (two things I struggle with).  I also mentioned that I get to sleep in while Clifton gets up with the kids and the house is different (messier) than when he sleeps in and I get up with the kids. 

We talked about when I feel most relaxed, which is when the house is clean and in order.  She then asked me which was more important: sleep or having a house that was in order.  I immediately answered "sleep." and since I'm not here to change anyone else how can I deal with what I'm waking up to.

At that moment I decided to "let it go" (I have a side story for letting things go that I'll save for another day).  Following this my coach began suggesting we come up with ways for me to deal with the chaos when I wake up but I told her there was no need because it was done the moment I decided to "let it go"

Which led her to observe and I to discover that it's not in the decision itself but the making a decision that is my struggle (another story for another day).

At the end of this session my coach asked me on a scale of 1 to 10 where I was in reaching my goal and I said 10.  We not only reached it but the realization of my decision making struggle was a bonus. 

That is the power of coaching.

Ya'll I'm over here getting savvy AF technology wise.

I seriously feel out of practice BUT I did just integrate an option for you to book a FREE 30 minute session with me via online (say whaaaaat).

Just click below and book a FREE session!

and just because I feel like these things bare repeating, there is ZERO obligation and I will not be bothering you post our call together. I believe if we're the right fit and you're ready for coaching you'll take the next step!

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Earlier this week I had a coaching call with my success coach and we talked a lot about fears, ways to overcome them when they show up as they are known to do and in the middle of our session he asked me what would my fears cost me and I replied without hesitation "EVERYTHING" 

I've been processing this since then and it hit me this morning that while I was talking about future concerns (I like to get ahead of things), how often and how long was I letting my fears win?

What are YOUR fears costing YOU?

I want to take a minute to say THANK YOU to every single one of my followers since my announcement. I legit sat down to get to it this morning and am overwhelmed with emotions of gratitude from everyone's support.

So now that you're here I'd really love to hear from YOU as part of this community being created so please join in on the conversation (posts & stories). Each of us is a student and a teacher - let's learn together!

and of course I understand that sometimes the mental capacity to engage is hard, especially with all that is happening in the world but if you like something just hit that save button (damn algorithms), like or share in your own stories!

Ugh, I'm so fu***ng (yes, I like to curse when experiencing strong emotions) grateful for each and every one of you!!

Always,
Dana