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What if the parts of us that we shame, that react to others, and the parts that we try to hide … are just parts that are needing love, understanding, and attention. One cannot appreciate the light without the darkness. And what if - the journey to the holy starts with embracing the shadow.

It’s been interesting that having just watched the amazing depiction of Jesus walking on water (Mark 6), Pastor Rich Wilkerson Jr. is speaking at Elevation Church on the same topic.

“What if you’re not in a storm, but instead are between two miracles?” He asks - it’s all about perspective.

My random thoughts - all of those things are important. It’s great to have the miracles and have things going well. But those who are worshipping or serving God only for the perfection, have lost 99.6% of the Bible. We start in perfection (Genesis 1-2) and end in perfection (Revelation 21-22), but we negate the struggle of the fall, consequences, struggle, trials, tribulations.

moment - I loved the monologue from the Armorer (Emily Swallow) Mandalorian S3E4 - “This is the Forge. It is the heart of Mandalorian culture. Just as we shape the Mandalorian steel, we shape ourselves. We all begin as raw ore. We refine ourselves through trials and adversity. The Forge can reveal weaknesses.”

We don’t like the storms of life because they reveal our weaknesses. We have to ask for help, find mettle we didn’t know we had, or grieve the loss of things that we love but ultimately were hindering our journey.

Yet. They. Are. Necessary.

So many of us assume that because our story has taken a dark turn, that we’ve lost our way. But I might question if that is the case. What if we are still on the right path and need to keep walking (check out our podcast on asking for help https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UtQYBs00gNg and stay tuned for our one on Thursday about what to do when we feel like we’ve failed).

Don’t give up the SHIP:
Storm
Has
Its
Purpose.

Don’t give up today. This is the way.

Happy in the Mess Season 2 Episode 12: Asking for Help Help! I need somebody! Or do I? Or what do I do if they don’t want to help? Or if they do want to - but don’t actually do it? This can be one of the biggest ...

If you have ADHD, Christmas can be a difficult time because all of your symptoms may manifest.

You may be wondering why, so allow me to explain:

❄️Socializing - During this season, there is a lot of socializing, from work Christmas parties to friend and family gatherings, and so on. This may be difficult for those suffering from ADHD.

❄️Expectations - There are many expectations around Christmas regarding how one should feel happy, excited, and in the Christmas spirit. This, however, is not always the case. During this time of year, you may feel anxious, overwhelmed, or sad, and you may feel the need to put on a mask.

❄️Presents - Because people-pleasing is a common ADHD trait, many people in our community find that they spend more money on gifts for their loved ones. This can lead to overspending.

❤️If you need support during this time of the year, join the Misfit Refuge where you will be surrounded by like minded people who will understand how you are feeling.

❤️If you need support during this time of the year, join the Misfit Refuge where you will be surrounded by like-minded people who will understand how you are feeling.

5 things a highly sensitive persons dreads about the holiday season 🎄

❄️Christmas can be filled with so much noise and extra stimuli everywhere which can be very triggering for HSP.

5 things a highly sensitive person dreads about the holiday season 🎄. They will question if they got the right presents, if they responded properly to questions, and so on.

❄️HSPs become emotionally exhausted from absorbing everyone's emotions. They will question if they got the right presents, if they responded properly to questions, and so on.

If you know someone who is highly sensitive, be aware of all of this so you can assist them.

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💫The Christmas season can be exhausting, especially for introverts who value alone time, with all of the Christmas work parties, friend gatherings, and family time.

Here are five pointers to help you get through this time of year and avoid burnout:

1. You don't have to say yes to everything, but it's also important not to always say no. Saying yes when you don't want to can be beneficial, and over time, your brain will recognize that these parties and the people who attend them aren't a threat, and socializing may become easier."

2. Establish a minimum time to spend at the party - Social gatherings can be awkward, but setting a time limit for yourself will give you something to aim for.

3. Have an exit strategy - There is no shame in leaving if the party becomes too much for you. Create a secret code that alerts your partner or friends that it is time to leave.

4. Set some boundaries ahead of time - Christmas parties can add up quickly, so instead of overcommitting to all of them, plan out your month so you can mentally prepare yourself.

Did you find this helpful? Comment below. 👇🏽

Introverts, empaths, and highly sensitive people contain similar traits but they are all quite different.

💫About 30 to 50 percent of the population are introverts.
💫Empaths & HSP can be introverts or extroverts.
💫It can be possible that a person can be all three traits.

Swipe right to learn about the difference between the three! ❤️

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Has your Thanksgiving dread now spilled over into Christmas dread? Check out this episode as three coaches discuss how to handle holiday dread and how to successfully navigate feelings of reluctance, fear, or overwhelm when it comes to the season. Collaboration with Synergy Coaching with Cheri Timko and Coach Marlena

Available on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6phrV8s9bNU&t or via your favorite podcast platform!

Happy in the Mess Episode 4: Holiday Dread Join us as we discuss how to handle holiday dread and how to successfully navigate feelings of reluctance, fear, or overwhelm when it comes to the season.Lik...

HSPs, as we know, process information thoroughly and react strongly to both positive and negative input.

Here are five scenarios that can easily overwhelm a highly sensitive person.

Can you relate to any of these?👇🏽