10/06/2026
Your teenager has an IEP. There's a real chance they've never been to a single meeting about it, never heard what the goals say about them, never had input into what they need.
WHAT THE LAW REQUIRES:
Under IDEA §300.321(b), once transition planning begins (required by age 16), the student must be invited to their own IEP meeting. If they don't attend, the school must use other means to get their preferences and interests into the plan.
WHY EARLIER IS BETTER:
Best practice in special education says don't wait until 16. Students who participate in their own IEP meetings, even at 12 or 13, start to understand their own learning profile. They begin to know what strategies help them, what they want to ask for, how to explain what they need. Self-advocacy is a learned skill. It needs to be practiced before the stakes are high.
HOW TO START WITHOUT OVERWHELMING THEM:
Share the goals section with your child and ask what they think
Invite them to attend the last 15 minutes of the next meeting
Ask them to write a paragraph about what they want teachers to know
Let them present their own strengths and challenges at the meeting
The goal is to make the IEP theirs, not adults talking about them without them.
Does your child attend their own IEP meetings? Drop their age below, I'd love to know how this community handles it.