12/09/2024
After talking with people over the years and with other advocates, it seems that there is some misunderstandings about what an advocate’s purpose is. I’ve heard parents say they are worried it would make school personnel mad or they worry about (ultimately) retaliation type behaviors. Some school personnel seem to be intimidated by the presence of an advocate or see it as some type of challenge.
But really we all want the same thing. We want to make sure children are successful. An advocate being present at a meeting isn’t to necessarily say the school isn’t doing their part. It isn’t to make it a competition or to cause tension within the meeting or with the team members. It is primarily to help bring the team together, help make sure everyone is feeling heard, and to work towards the best possible outcome for a student.
Taking an advocate to a meeting can help a parent feel like a meaningful participant. As a parent, it’s often times hard to follow along and truly understand during an IEP or 504 meeting purely because of the terminology used. Meetings can also be very emotional for parents, because they see their child struggling and they want to help and they don’t know how. Having an advocate allows a parent to be emotional in that moment if that needs to happen.
Hiring an advocate is to help empower parents. You don’t know what you don’t know. Asking for help shouldn’t be a scary thing. Please know, as an advocate I will fight for you and your child’s rights to have the best free and appropriate education possible.