Debt Tale

Maybe you're growing more than you realize. Most people argue they want to be the same, which I get. But often times we are not actually properly comparing ourselves.

We're often so focused on where we want to be that we forget to notice how far we've already come. We don't compare our past to our present.

Growth isn't always loud.

Sometimes it's asking a question you would've kept to yourself a year ago. That is growth in self advocacy.

Sometimes it's giving yourself a little more grace. A sticking point I think for most people neurodivergent or not. We are so much nicer to other people than we are to ourselves.

Sometimes it's having one honest conversation that changes the way you see yourself.

Not all progress can be measured by other people.

Some of the most meaningful growth happens quietly. Like the changes in our thought patterns. Or the decreased frequency of us mentally beating ourselves up.

🌲 What's one way you've grown recently that your past self would be proud of?

I used to think growth meant figuring everything out on my own.

The more I learn, the more I think it's the opposite.

We spend so much time trying to fix ourselves...

Maybe what we're actually missing is each other.

Maybe that's why forests thrive.

And maybe that's why people do too.

🌲 What's one money conversation you wish felt easier to have?

Yes yes I know AI images but the text is mine. These are realizations and thoughts from my countless conversations over the last 5 years around money.

I know we like to think that our experiences are fully unique. I believe that to be true. But I still think we need to keep in mind that we are all influenced which affects how we interpret our experiences.

While some of us are more aware of these influences, some of us aren't. So I am here to help you maybe gain a new perspective. Or for those who are aware, here to help confirm what you have been thinking.

Best part is we are human, we grow, we learn. We are flexible and able to change our minds.

So tell me in the comments if you agree or disagree.

Have you ever noticed that no one actually had to tell us... "Don't talk about money."

For many of us, we simply never saw it happen. We didn't see people ask questions about money. We didn't see people admit financial mistakes. We didn't see people openly discuss debt, salaries, budgeting, or investing.

So many of us quietly learned: "Maybe this isn't something people talk about."

The more I coach, the more I talk to other around money, the more I believe we don't just inherit money habits. We inherit money conversations or better said the lack of them.

The beautiful and hopeful part though is that we don't have to keep passing that silence on.

Every honest conversation with a partner, a friend, a child, or even a stranger is a chance to model something different.

One conversation may not change everything. But it might change what's considered "normal" for the next person.

💬 Did your family openly talk about money growing up? I'd genuinely love to hear your experience.

Maybe money isn't the real problem.

Maybe the silence is.

Most of us were never taught how to have honest conversations about money. We learned to keep debt quiet. Keep mistakes quiet. Keep questions quiet.

When money becomes something we don't talk about, shame has room to grow.

What if confidence doesn't come from knowing all the answers?

What if it comes from having a place where it's safe to ask the questions?

That's why I believe financial transformation happens through better conversations.

One honest conversation can change more than months of silent worrying.

💬 What's one money topic you wish people talked about more?

I'd love to hear your answer in the comments.

If you're looking for a shame-free place to practice these conversations, you're invited to join us inside Unmuted Money on Skool.

Prime Day got us exactly one thing... a car seat. I was trying to avoid shopping it at all.

Like we honestly debated not buying it because it wasn't in the budget. The original plan was to wait until Black Friday, but my arms finally convinced us otherwise. 😅

Juju is over a year old now, and carrying both him and his toddler bucket seat everywhere is getting ridiculous. He's getting bigger, and somehow I am feeling weaker and weaker.

We could only afford to buy one for now, so the minivan will keep the bucket seat a little longer. But this particular car seat was worth prioritizing because it's one of the few that will let us fit three car seats across in our Outback.

Sometimes you need to buy something because it solves a problem that's making everyday life easier.

We talk a lot about intentional spending. What's one purchase you've made recently that genuinely improved your day-to-day life? I'd love to hear your answer in the comments.

Ummm... apparently Unmuted Money is in Skool ads now? 🤯🎉

What started as a mission to help people go from feeling "bad with money" to feeling confident enough to actually talk about it has turned into a growing community of people having real conversations about money, mindset, habits, and confidence.

It's pretty cool to see a platform recognize what we're building.

So if you're one of the people who's joined a conversation, shared a win, asked a vulnerable question, or helped make money talk feel a little more normal... thank you. 💚

This community exists because people are willing to stop hiding and start talking.

Now excuse me while I continue randomly smiling every time I see the ad. 😂🌱

I know that person! Haha thanks for the local feature. Excited to use the office space!!

A lot of people don’t actually hate budgeting.
They hate the shame spiral that shows up WITH it.

The voice that says:
💭 “You already messed up.”
💭 “You’ll never get it together.”
💭 “What’s the point?”

That voice affects way more than people realize:
⚠ avoiding bank accounts
⚠ stress spending
⚠ guilt after purchases
⚠ fear around asking questions
⚠ feeling “behind” all the time

That’s why I’m excited for our upcoming workshop:
🎭 Rewiring The Money Voice

With voice actress KaBoom, we’ll explore how to:
✨ separate yourself from negative thought patterns
✨ reduce the power shame has over money decisions
✨ strengthen supportive self-talk
✨ build real money confidence

📍 Wednesday May 27th 3pm Pacific/ 4pm Mountain / 5pm Central/ 6pm Eastern
💻 Live on Zoom
🎥 Replay available inside the group

Drop a 🎤 if you want the info.

Slowly but surely getting back into the swing of things. Skool community is on autopilot habit strength, I am doing that with zero issues. Adding back in YouTube and social media. Keep your eyes peeled for more content here.