Coach Leia

When you don’t take responsibility for

Your successes or your failures, you throw away the beauty of learning from both.

I was speaking with an intelligent business consultant turned bookkeeper/educator yesterday.

She said her first two bookkeeping clients were luck.

🤔 If you know me, you know I’m not a big believer in anything being completely attributed to luck.

There is often some spark of magic (a vibe) we can’t explain, so we call it luck. That’s fine, but explain the rest.

Not letting her off the hook, I asked her what she meant.

It turns out, those clients had a very clear path that she carefully constructed for them to come straight to her, for her talent, patience, and knowledge.

That’s not luck. That’s care, experience, and competence.

I told her to own it so she can repeat it.

My clients walk in with a “Hello it’s me, I’m the problem it’s me.” attitude.

They walk out with the understanding that they are both the problem and the solution,

They’ve just spent a lifetime only taking the responsibility for the first.

If you are looking at a stack of todos as tall as the Eiffel Tower and don’t know why you can’t begin

The answer is within you.

Maybe you need a mirror to help you pull out the map inside of you.

That’s what we do together. ❤️

Who is compassion for?

I was told my perspective here is unique and that I should share it.

As I emerged from my grand pity-party I called life over the past 7 years,

I realized something as I shed my baseline film of judgement and resting bitch-face.

I see compassion much like I see forgiveness.

Forgiveness is not for the forgiven.

Compassion is not initially for the recipient.

Compassion allows me to drop my own walls and look another in the eye.

It allows me to see another human even if I don’t understand their story and perspective.

It allows me to value their humanity, have the patience and clarity to listen without judgement.

I started with myself 7 years ago as I journaled all my anger into a five step analysis to understand where I was so I could get where I wanted to go.

Compassion is first for the giver. It’s the key that opens the door.

Who do you feel compassion is for?

As an ADHD parent, I used to get so OVERWHELMED by the Summer Transition! After 3 years of helping myself and other parents smoothly transition with their ADHD kiddos, I’m ready to pay it forward!

I’m thinking of doing a Summer Sanity Workshop in a couple of weeks to help you guys feel more prepared.

Can you kindly comment “ME” (or DM) if this sounds interesting to you?

My FAVORITE THING IN THE WORLD

Is starting my morning with voice memos from clients that make me belly laugh out loud about their adventures in meta-cognition IN REAL TIME.

In coaching, we work a lot on win recognition.

My process can feel abstract, but once they get it...

It gives enough freedom from self-judgement to open the door to curiosity.

This is where the magic happens!

This morning, my client sent me a one-minute voice memo
detailing all the things she had to do in the 43 minutes before walking out the door and how she must really believe she's a "Time Wizard."

The part that made us both laugh...(and of course, you would have to hear her because she's hilarious):

"so instead of managing my time, I'm sending you this voice memo about how I realized and had the awareness that I was telling myself I'm a time wizard and I would have time to... [magical list of tasks]"

Y'all, she got it ALL DONE!

In short, my clients become time wizards (𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘭𝘺 🤣)

Have you made yourself laugh out loud lately?
I want to hear about it!

Fellow ADHDers,

I'm wishing you a week of presence, clarity, and simple starters instead of jumping 10 steps ahead before it's necessary 😉

Namaste

Six sessions changed her marriage, and that wasn't even the goal.

I had a client who needed to figure out how to live without the aid of meds,
because she would soon be pregnant.

Very focused. Very directed goals.

We worked together for 6 sessions.

In those 6 sessions, something else happened.

You see, her husband didn't believe ADHD was real.

Great guy. But skeptical.

Thought it was all made up.

Through our work, she gained enough confidence to stand up for herself.

To say:
🧠 Yes, this is real.
🧠 This is what it looks like.
🧠 This is what I struggle with.
👉 Here's a guide we created for MY brain.

He didn't believe her at first.
He went to his doctor, a friend who has a child with ADHD.

His friend told him:
"You need to get your head on straight!"

But without the coaching and confidence-building we did,
I think she would have curled up in a ball and thought
"maybe he's right, maybe something is wrong with me."

Six sessions changed her marriage.

Six sessions gave her the confidence to advocate for herself.

That's not just about living life off medication.

That's about changing the entire dynamic of how she shows up in her relationships with her husband, kids, and her clients.

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If you are a high-achieving, passionate, creative with ADHD symptoms that are keeping you frozen and stuck in self-doubt and overwhelm, I want to hear from you!

If you just want to follow me for a while, that's ok, too. 😉
Unmasking is a journey.

Photo Credit: Johanna Whiting