06/01/2020
[unpack your knapsack] - i was in my second or third years at simmons, in a class called philosophy of race, class, and gender when our professor introduced this activity. she had us all stand from our desks, close our eyes, and take a step forward or backward if a sentence she read applied to us. this activity went on for maybe 15-20 minutes. when she ran out of sentences, she asked that we open our eyes. when we did, all of those who had white skin were farther along than those who were either black, brown, or non-white. when i tell you that all the white women in my class (simmons was an all women’s college) were embarrassingly shocked to discover perhaps for the first time that their skin color gave them an advantage over others, it was like the skies opened. it began a discussion, with mostly me, and others like me sharing their experiences of racial inequality and injustice.
i grew up in portland, maine - the very first place my family lived outside of ethiopia and the place we learned that WE WERE BLACK and somehow that was bad. i was seven when we came, so it took me a while to catch on to all-things-american. my parents, even though didn’t understand or ever had to think about racism, had a feeling their blackness was not welcome, but they buried that under the responsibility to care for 6 little immigrant children. we never talked about race at home because what was there to talk about? how outside of ethiopia we matter less?
the recent killings, violence, and innocent lives taken not just in the last few months but for decades and generations, have dredged up every racist experience i’ve had in my life and in my families life — it’s heavy. it’s horrible. it causes me to cry from a very deep place of long standing trauma. it’s the resurrection of pain long buried. it doesn’t matter how educated, kind, loving and open i am — there is a systemic belief in America that my right to life is not valued in this country in the same way as my white brothers and sisters for no other reason but that i was born with black skin.
white people need to understand that for me and all black people this time is charged with not only anger and exhaustion, but the deep feeling of unworthiness that was planted in us when we first learned that we are black and being black is bad and it means that you are less. sit with that.
i am not going to offer to be an educator, i will however share the article my professor used all those years ago. see link in bio.
at this very moment, we are all evaluating the white people and white relationships in our lives and watching closely to see how they advocate for us and ally with us. time is up!