Rise Above It Coaching

09/27/2026

Yesterday I shared that:

Patience with communication is healthy.
Patience with silence becomes avoidance.
Avoidance over time becomes resentment.

Today I want to go a little deeper.

Many women tell me they’re “being patient,”
but when we slow it down, we often discover something else:

They’re not waiting with hope…
they’re waiting with fear.

Fear of conflict.
Fear of being misunderstood.
Fear of being “too much.”
Fear of rocking the boat.

That’s not patience — that’s avoidance dressed up as virtue.

Avoidance feels safer in the moment,
but it quietly creates the very distance you’re trying to prevent.

Patience builds connection only when it’s paired with communication.
Silence builds resentment every time.

Check in with yourself… is it patience you’re showing in this situation, or is it avoidance? And if it’s avoidance, it might be time to speak up — gently, clearly, and in a way he can eventually hear.

If this spoke to you, who else might benefit? Please share it.

09/18/2026

I see you, I feel you, I am you. ♥️

09/15/2026

💛 I'd love to hear from you: What is one thing you loved about your spouse when you first chose them that you still appreciate today?

There are seasons in your marriage when life gets loud.

There are responsibilities, routines, little disappointments, things you said you'd get to “later.”

And somewhere along the way, you can look at the person beside you and wonder…
When did we stop choosing each other?

Not because we stopped loving each other. Not because something is terribly wrong or maybe the familiar became to automatic.

What if you chose each other again?
We don't need grand gestures, a perfectly planned date nights (not that I'm opposed to that, if you are reading this Gary Henderson)
Or trying to recreate our beginning.

How about making one small, intentional choice today.
Look at your spouse and remember one thing you loved about him or her when you first chose them.
Then tell them.
“I still love _(fill in yours)_about you.”
Because marriage isn't just about the day you said yes.
It's about the thousands of little yeses that come after.
Yes, I see you.
Yes, I'm still here.
Yes, you're worth knowing again.
Remember why you chose each other—and choose each other again.
That's how you reconnect.
That's how you create something deeper.
That's how a marriage continues to thrive.
And sometimes, going first is as simple as saying,
“I choose you. Again.”

💛 I'd love to hear from you: What is one thing you loved about your spouse when you first chose them that you still appreciate today?

09/02/2026

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Ever wonder if restaurant menus are getting harder to read… or if they’re just printing everything smaller? 👀🍽️

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08/13/2026

Visiting with dear friends in N.C.
Heat is tiring.
96 degrees today and major humidity.
Love this man! ❤️

08/03/2026

What it really means when your partner triggers you:

A great partner can make you feel seen, supported, and inspired.
And… that same great partner can also poke at every trigger you’ve ever had.
It’s funny how relationships have a way of doing both at the exact same time.

Old fears, past hurts, insecurities, limiting beliefs — they all come up in the places where we feel safest. Not to sabotage the relationship, but to show us what still needs tending.

This is why secure relationships matter.
They give you room to breathe.
Room to be human.
Room to grow without shame.

If your relationship is bringing things to the surface right now, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re being invited into deeper healing.

If you’re navigating something that feels big or unexpected right now, reach out. Sometimes one grounded conversation makes all the difference. Let’s talk
DM , email or call,
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07/29/2026

www.raicoaching.com/go-first Go First" is a private coaching experience designed to help wives rebuild connection, trust, and intimacy—without needing their husband to go first.
This is not about marriage management. It’s about healing from the inside out—so you can stop disappearing, start leading with softness, and feel like yourself again.

07/28/2026

Respect lasts longer than temporary feelings

Respect outlasts every mood, every moment, every temporary feeling.

07/26/2026

Sharing dessert with hubby at longhorn steakhouse. The chocolate stampede! Highly recommend😋😋
❤️

07/26/2026

Beautiful beach day with hubby🌞🕶🍦♥️