Jami and Marla Love - Provoking Passion

Your brain is working against you. And it is not your fault: burnout, exhaustion, that nagging feeling that something’s missing even when everything looks good on paper.

Here’s what we discovered: it’s neurological. Your brain has patterns that served you once but are now draining your energy and happiness.

That changes in late June when we launch Ideal Personality—a process grounded in neuroscience, designed for women ready to understand themselves differently and actually feel alive again.

This is what we’ve been building toward. 🧠✨

What is it that inspires you? For me, it’s a deeper love of myself and with Jami.

And it’s NOT easy at times. Daring to open up to deeper healing and vulnerability for myself and for our marriage is freaking scary at times.

And...it’s what it takes to embrace your soul-to-soul kinda love, and it’s worth it. Every time. (And, at times, super painful. But, to grow is to experience pain and that’s why sometimes I avoid it like the plague. 😲😵😏🤗🙏🏻)

Dare to love yourself deep into your darkest places where light has been denied for far too long. It will hurt like hell, and it will give you joy you haven’t yet experienced.

How? Well, here’s what I do:

💜 Find a quiet time and place and ask yourself (or your spouse if you are brave because they usually know 😬), “What triggers me the most?” Write out what comes to you.
💜 Now write the emotions you feel when triggered (three feelings from the Feeling Wheel posted in the comments).
💜 Feel them: where are they in your body, how big are they, what is your reaction/action around them?
💜 Now, take another look at the wheel and find the feeling across the wheel from them. These are your goal emotions. Feel them: where are they in your body, how big are they, what is your reaction/action around them?
💜 Take some time (at least five minutes) and breathe out the trigger emotions and breathe in the positive ones you just identified.
💜 Then, every time you hear & feel those old, painful thoughts & feelings “I’m not enough” or “I’m too much” repeat, repeat, repeat.

There you go. I dare you...

Dare to create a soul-to-soul kinda love, my friends.

xoxo