Jodi Carlton, MEd, Neurodiverse Relationship Expert & Coach

08/14/2026

Have you ever gone along with something just to keep the peace?

In this clip from the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast, I share how people-pleasing—or fawning—affected physical intimacy in my own relationship. When we don’t feel safe saying, “That hurts” or “That doesn’t work for me,” our partner may unknowingly build expectations based on feedback that isn’t fully honest.

Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/EZiYYh_V7C0

08/13/2026

Maybe you’re not “overthinking.” Your brain may be mapping possibilities, detecting patterns, or trying to complete an open loop.

The goal isn’t always to stop thinking—it may be to slow the thoughts down, separate facts from fears, and give your mind somewhere to go.

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I couldn’t fall asleep last night. It was after 1:30 a.m., and my mind kept returning to my daughter’s upcoming housing situation when she returns to college this fall. The landlords had communicated poorly, important details remained unresolved, and several things didn’t feel quite right. As ...

08/11/2026

Talking about s*x with your partner can feel awkward—but it doesn’t have to feel like a performance review. 😅

In this clip from the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, Mona shares how her partner’s post-intimacy question—“What did you like best?”—initially felt like a report card but ultimately created a helpful, low-pressure way to communicate.
We also discuss why trying to give feedback in the moment can backfire and what may work better for autistic, ADHD, and mixed-neurotype couples.

🎧 Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/EZiYYh_V7C0

08/09/2026

If one partner needs structure and the other craves novelty, you're not incompatible — you just need a system.

In this clip from S6E6 Mona and I break down one of the most common dynamics in ADHD-autistic relationships: the tension between rigid routines and the need for spontaneity. From clutter on desks to how you drive to work, these differences show up everywhere — including in your relationship.

We share a simple, practical strategy for date nights that gives the autistic partner predictability and gives the ADHD partner that dopamine hit of variety.

🎧 Listen to the full episode for more honest conversations about neurodiverse relationships: https://youtu.be/EZiYYh_V7C0

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08/07/2026

Neurodiversity in marriage simply means each partner operates on completely different cognitive, emotional, and relational "wiring."

In this episode of the "Un******ng Intimacy" podcast, I was honored to be a guest and talk with hosts Greg and Amy Langford about the strengths and challenges of being a neurodiverse couple. Instead of looking at autism or ADHD as a deficit, we challenge the idea of "normal" and discuss how to understand these differences simply as different operating systems. We dive deep into the "double empathy problem," navigating extreme sensory differences in the bedroom, and how to stop treating your partner like a project to be fixed.

In Episode 98, we are joined by master educator and neurodiverse re...

08/05/2026

Could a hidden pattern be quietly sabotaging intimacy in your neurodiverse relationship?

In this episode, Mona Kay and I get real about routines, spontaneity, physical intimacy—and how fawning and people-pleasing can cause one partner to tolerate instead of communicate.

We’re also sharing practical date-night strategies that work with both ADHD and autistic needs, plus why conversations about intimacy often go wrong before they even begin.

🎧 Listen to Season 6, Episode 6: *Is This Sabotaging Intimacy in Your Neurodiverse Relationship?*

What makes intimacy feel more complicated in your relationship? Drop a comment below. 👇

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If you're in a neurodiverse relationship — whether you're ADHD, aut...

08/03/2026

He even acknowledged it at the end of the first date: "Next time will be more of an exchange." Spoiler: it wasn't.

If you're autistic and dating, info dumping can be a beautiful connection tool, but it can also be a big turn-off. Your date needs space to talk, ask questions, and actually engage.

Dating with self-awareness makes all the difference. 💛

Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/0olYTzv_BQ0

08/02/2026

Two hours in, his bandwidth was up — and she had to leave. She felt rejected.

But what if it wasn't rejection at all?

Watch the whole episode here: https://youtu.be/0olYTzv_BQ0

08/01/2026

He needed 3 to 6 beers just to walk into a restaurant. He called himself a high-functioning alcoholic. And somehow, Mona still missed the red flag.

Sometimes we miss the signs not because they're hidden, but because we've been conditioned to normalize them. Her dad was addicted to Va**um. That was just... how he coped. Sound familiar?

The patterns we grow up around become our blind spots.

Watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/0olYTzv_BQ0

07/31/2026

It's finally here..

For the past year, you’ve watched this book slowly come to life. You’ve read snippets, celebrated milestones with me, cheered me on through countless revisions, and even volunteered to become early readers before the manuscript was finalized.

Today… The Misunderstood Mind is officially available for pre-order on Amazon Kindle.

The problem isn't the human mind. It's how we've been taught to understand it.