Trauma Competent Clinician

I’m writing my next book and I’ve spent the past few weeks studying the development of the brain in our childhood— and yes don’t worry our brain can change throughout life (ah, neuroplasticity.

I created this post because we like to think about a partners height, their job, and the list goes on. But nothing is more important for the development of a child than how that partner copes with stressful emotional states.

Here’s some signs a person can regulate their nervous system:

1. When things are tough, they can talk about it. They might need space (totally fine) but they’re able to express how they feel and listen to you do the same.

2. They apologize and can repair: we all have moments we regret. We all hurt the people we love. But a partner who can regulate their nervous system can own it and apologize after— and commit to doing better.

3. They have a high frustration tolerance: they can be visibly frustrated, but they can keep moving and accept uncomfortable feelings. Their high frustration tolerance makes them more resilient.

4. They have some type of movement in their life: walking, biking, lifting— anything that provides them with a consistent sympathetic (fight or flight release).

5. They know when to let it go: they know when an issue has been talked to death, or when it’s not worth fighting over.

6. They seek solutions: they seek solutions where you can both feel heard.

7. They express what they feel and don’t expect you to read their mind.

8. Their anger is safe.

9. When things don’t go their way or they get disappointed, they’re affected but they don’t control the emotional climate of the home.

10. They’re always open for feedback from you, even if it’s not comfortable— they want to hear how you actually feel

Thank you Dr. Dr. Kelli Ritter 🕊️

When I finally realized exactly HOW TO tend to and tap into the fountain of vitality INSIDE the body rather than trying everything under the sun OUTSIDE the body ~ things clicked. Everything changed. ☀️

Now, the “how to” does require the correct inputs which technically come from outside the body but the coherence and quantum communication is inside. The fountain of vitality is inside us ⛲️

I’ve always said “happiness is an inside job.” I just didn’t realize how much our mental health was tied to vitality which is directly related to mitochondrial function.

All the things that contribute to chronic anxiety ~ stress, illness, toxins, trauma, limiting beliefs, financial issues, relationship problems, nutrient deficiencies, gut/digestive issues, stuck or repressed emotions, etc ~ are ultimately draining vitality. But guess what?! You can restore vitality. And in fact, if we want lasting anxiety recovery we need to repair this inner fountain.

Curious? Grab my FREE MOOD & MITOCHONDRIA Webinar and tune into the Quantum Mental Health Podcast ~ comment VITALITY below and I’ll send you links to both 💖

Black Mental Health and the Importance of 988 Legislation nami.org