Many of the things we say to ourselves we wouldn't dream of saying to another person. We blame, shame, call names of the meanest sort, nag, belittle and bully ourselves through self-talk.
What if, instead, we were gentler with ourselves? What if we asked ourselves questions and listened to the responses? What would it be like if we treated ourselves as we would treat a best friend, someone we love dearly? Here's a Top 10 list of loving things to say to yourself.
1. What do you feel?
Asking ourselves what we feel can help identify and put names to our emotions. To listen for the honest response is like taking our emotional temperature.
2. What do you need?
A need is different from a want. Whereas a want states a desire, a need is usually a statement about nurturing. Pay attention to your needs, they're about caring for yourself.
3. Good job.
Congratulate yourself on a job well done whether it's mowing the lawn, completing a work project or cleaning the bathroom. Give yourself a verbal pat on the back.
4. I apologize.
Saying "I'm sorry" for all the wrongs we have done ourselves—for being self-critical or breaking promises, for example—can be the first step in healing.
5. Let's play.
Lighten up and be playful. Listen to what comes up when you suggest playing.
6. Breathe.
Reminding ourselves to breathe helps relieve tension, gives us that moment we sometimes need to center and ground ourselves.
7. I forgive you.
Sometimes it's easier to forgive others than ourselves. Yet, to have closure and to move on, we may also have to forgive ourselves.
8. Let go.
Releasing worries, resentments and fears loosens the grip of resistance and makes room for growth.
9. Be present.
Staying present, being aware of the physical, acknowledging the moment—this is when we are truly alive.
10. I love you.
We say it to others, why not say it to ourselves? Say it again!
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Coach Kat Altine is “The Confidence Coach for Women”
A Certified Life Coach, Facilitator, and Motivational Speaker, she has many years experience helping others lead the life they were meant to have. Using her innate skills, she has motivated many in life transitions or in need of confidence to deal with various issues, master their goals and achieve successes beyond their wildest dreams. Coach K
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