03/23/2026
Culture Is Not Created—It’s Repeated: A Leadership Lesson That Started at Home.
My father was an electrical engineer who grew up wanting to be a music teacher.
He loved music. He also loved process, strong foundations, and the nuances of mathematical strategy. That combination made him an excellent and collaborative engineer, especially on design teams. It also made him a tyrant when it came to helping me with my math homework.
According to my Dad, if I did not understand the current material, it meant I probably did not have a firm understanding of the previous material. “Math is repetition,” he'd say. “If you don’t understand this, you probably didn’t practice last week’s material enough.”
What that meant in real life was that asking for help with that day’s homework confirmed he was going to take me back in the book before helping me solve the problem in front of me. I remember being so frustrated, thinking that I only needed help with that day’s assignment. Going backward felt like more time than I wanted to spend.
Now, I think my Dad would have made a great band leader. He remembers every note, bridge, and transition of what feels like every song he's ever heard. He brought that same energy to my homework. I had to write out every step, so he could see exactly where I went wrong in my process of finding the answer. Even though we were looking at the same work, we had very different goals. A reasonably correct answer was enough for me. But my Dad, having much more education and life experience, understood that I'd need those same problem-solving skills later on in life, not just in math.
What felt grueling then has shaped the methods and principles I use to build with and build up leaders today.
When I begin working with a company, I listen, watch, and learn. One of my gifts is establishing trust early. That gives me access and opportunity to understand how their teams have learned to work, decide, communicate, and deliver to customers. Those patterns hold invaluable insight, because they show me the same thing my Dad was looking for: how they arrived at their present-day.
Culture isn't something you create or campaign for. It is the byproduct of daily decisions, repeated behaviors, and what leadership allows, rewards, ignores, or corrects over time. Once I see repeated habits and processes, or functional and dysfunctional patterns, I understand how the existing culture came to be. Only then can I offer strategies that truly impact the progress of the team and the company. Real change requires willingness—starting with the leader.
In a band, the leader can change the direction of the song by shifting the tempo or the key. Business leaders have that same ability. They can change the way an organization runs, communicates, celebrates, rebuilds, or grows by the standards they set and the behaviors they repeat.
My Dad has been retired for years now, but he still likes to hear about my work and my process inside different organizations. I am grateful he is still here to listen. He no longer requires me to write everything out, but he still asks questions that make me show my work.
I am fortunate to have had that kind of professional example and foundation through watching my father move through his career. His standards for how I arrive at answers have not changed. What has changed is my confidence in showing my work, because I now understand the principle behind repetition and the power of a solid foundation. It is also what keeps me connected to leaders and teams who are building, rebuilding, and scaling organizations. As long as they are willing to show their work, they are open to the kind of change that can actually make them successful.
Three things new business leaders can do to shorten the journey from startup to scale-up—and through grow-up—are:
1. Work with experienced mentors and operators - There is no shame in not knowing something. Google, ChatGPT, and YouTube can offer information and perspective, but access to someone who has actually worked in the spaces you are trying to enter can protect you from poor, incomplete, or even illegal decisions. Experience matters, especially when it comes to people practices, structure, and employment decisions.
2. Learn to be open to feedback—even when you don’t agree - Not every employee, client, or partner is attacking you when they share frustration or disappointment. Even hard feedback has value. Listen for what is true, relevant, and useful to the business. Low participation in surveys and low engagement scores often point to something deeper than apathy. They often point to low trust.
3. Learn to have difficult conversations in real time - If you want to be seen as the leader of your organization, you must become comfortable with handling and sharing hard news with the same steadiness you use for good news. Transparency is not just about what is said. It is also about when it is said and who says it. Leaders who consistently hand off difficult conversations risk handing off the trust of the team as well.
Once I realized my Dad was not trying to make my life harder, but trying to make me stronger, those math sessions became less traumatic. They also helped me sit at the top of my math classes in college and build study habits I still use today. I know now that he was making sure I had the tools for the next level. That principle still guides me.
If you are leading a team, growing a business, or trying to strengthen your culture, the question is not just whether you want a better answer. It is whether you are willing to show your work. If your team is growing faster than your structure, or your culture is reflecting patterns you know need to change, let’s talk. Strong organizations are built on stronger foundations. I will be sure to hold you to showing your work. Follow and connect with Anika Bowles Consulting LLC today!