The Blonde Behavior Analyst

I've heard often than "supervisors have a time management problem".

Most of them don’t.

They have a structure problem in the environment they are trying to function within.

When supervision is built on:

memory
whatever came up that week
or “let’s just talk through cases”

It will always feel scattered. Things will get missed.

And when it feels scattered:

progress slows down
confidence drops
variability increases across people and teams

Spoiler Alert: Sometimes people don't have to just "work harder" or "be more prepared."

They might just need a system that makes supervision cumulative instead of reactive.

If your team feels inconsistent, look at the structure within the environment before you evaluate the people.

If you need structure in your supervision program, I wrote and self-published easy to follow curriculums exactly for this. Link in bio for more info. 🫶

I work with people on both sides of this dynamic every week.

I coach business owners, clinical directors, and CEOs who are navigating reactivity, tone, and professionalism on their teams.

I also supervise and mentor professionals who are managing stress, feedback, and pressure in systems at work that do not always make regulation easy.

What I am seeing is not a "leader problem" or a "staff problem".

It is a skill problem. For all.

Both leaders and staff benefit from learning how to notice their internal world. What shows up in the body, the thoughts, the urgency, before behavior shifts. That work matters at every level.

At the same time, leadership is a bit different.

Not because leaders should be perfect, but because what they model under pressure carries more weight. Being in a leadership position changes the impact of their behavior, whether anyone intends it to or not.

When regulation is talked about without it effectively being taught/modeled/practiced, (especially by those with authority), teams do not learn the skill. They learn what to avoid and NOT do.

In this episode of Leadership Is a Behavior, I unpack how emotional regulation is actually learned in organizations, why reminders and scripts that are given in an effort to "help" tend to fall apart under stress, and the places in our work where regulation becomes visible.

If you lead people or work within a team, this conversation is about understanding the system you are in, and focusing on what is within your control.

🎧 Full episode is live.
🔗 Link in bio.

Before you undo a good decision because you’re experiencing discomfort after making it… Maybe listen to this. 🫶.

Wrapped up 2025 with my favorite humans. Twins turned 1, big girl is turning 3 soon, and hubs and I are navigating this life alongside eachother every day. These are the years I will dream of revisiting when I am old. 100%. 🫶Happy New Year!

🎙NEW EPISODE. This one is personal and professional.

After having three babies in two years, I stepped back from podcasting. Not because I ran out of ideas, but because competing values were pulling me in opposite directions and my behavior followed the contingencies that were in front of me.

In this "comeback" episode, I break down the actual behavioral science behind that pause. Reinforcement patterns. Identity shifts. Decision paralysis. Leadership behavior when two values both matter and neither felt that they could be ignored.

If you have ever felt stuck, burned out, or conflicted in your role, this episode is about naming what is happening without needing to diagnose it ,and deciding what comes next on purpose.

Leadership is a behavior.
This is the start of the next chapter.

Listen now at theabnetwork.org or wherever you get your podcasts.

You can make the right decision
and still feel uncomfortable afterward.

Especially at work.

Especially when that decision involved a boundary, a standard, feedback, or saying no to something you used to tolerate.

A lot of people interpret that discomfort as a signal they messed up.
So they walk it back.
They over-explain.
They undo it just to feel better.

But immediate relief is a terrible way to assess the quality of our decisions. In some cases, this expectation can cause us to consider "undoing" the good decisions we make.

Sometimes the unease is because we are breaking old patterns, and thoughtfully creating new ones.
Sometimes it is the cost of protecting something that actually matters.
Sometimes it is the first sign that you actually chose yourself.

That is what this episode is about.

Not how to feel better faster.
But how to stay grounded in decisions that protect your standards, your role, and your long-term clarity.

This conversation is from the most recent episode of Leadership Is a Behavior.
You can listen at www.theabanetwork.org.

So freaking busy. 💃🏼
So freaking blessed. 🥲
Heart and life is full. ✨