11/06/2021
When I was 9 years old, I moved from Hong Kong to the United States with my family. At first it seemed like an exciting idea, a new adventure. However in reality, it turned out to be the complete opposite.
The culture shock and the inability to speak English made everyday life confusing and scary. But as if that wasn’t enough, I would go to 5 different schools in 4 years all before the age of 13. There was zero constant in my life. In fact, the only constant I did have was change.
I developed this feeling of being an outsider, feeling of being less than. I learned to hide everything that made me different. It turned into this pattern of constantly proving myself, hustling for my worthiness in order to feel like I belonged.
By the time I was 12 I developed a hoarding disorder as a coping mechanism. My parents just thought I was messy but low key I was anxious and distressed.
For the longest time, I looked at this time of my life as something that made me stronger. It made me into the resilient person I am today (often disregarding the pain). As great as that sounds, deep down I suffered from old subconscious patterns that would repeatedly pop up in my adult life.
No matter how smart or well rounded I was, I would keep making the same poor choices, feeling same old emotions. This overarching feeling of not being good enough.
It wasn’t until I acknowledged the wounded child within, that I was able to identify and make sense of this pattern that no longer served me. 𝗜 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝗼𝗿𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.
Give your inner child the love and healing he or she deserves. Your inner child just wants to be seen and heard, to be acknowledged of the trauma they went through. For you to be the person they didn’t have.
Because at the end of the day, letting go cannot be done without love and acceptance.
07/25/2021
𝐒𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫 = Letting go of preconceived ideas, stories and 'the shoulds'. Letting go of control, the need to do and to seek. Allow yourself to observe the present moment with loving acceptance; truly as it is without the need to change it.
𝐅𝐚𝐢𝐭𝐡 = An inner knowing that everything is working "for" you, even when it may not seem like it. And that whatever you're experiencing is exactly what you need to become the highest version of you. Allow your path to unfold before you, and for life to reveal itself through you with kindness and patience. In the end, everything will always be okay.
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The practice of surrender and faith will allow us to 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭.
Trust in our intuition, our power, our inner being. Trust in synchronicities - winks & affirmations from the universe.
And most of all, TRUST THE PROCESS 🙏🏼
06/24/2021
We live in an era with this mindset of 'there aren’t enough hours in the day’. And when we complete a task, we quickly move on to the next, then the next, and the next…
We get so caught up with checking off the to do list, that we rarely stop and celebrate or allow ourselves to acknowledge the accomplishment.
What’s the real reason behind the armor of being 'crazy-busy'? What are you trying to numb, avoid or prove?
Allow yourself to let go of exhaustion as a status symbol, and detach self-worth from productivity.
YOU ARE SO MUCH MORE than your achievements.
06/22/2021
𝚃𝚛𝚞𝚎 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚜 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗.
06/20/2021
Comfort zones exist to help us feel safe and in control, it’s designed keep us out of danger. Our reptilian (primal) brain uses comfort zones to help us with the ability to survive.
However life in the 21st century, comfort zones tend to limit us more than it serves us. It‘s actually designed to “keep us small” you see.
Learning and growth only happens outside of the comfort zone. And for long as we choose to stay where it feels comfortable, there will be no learning nor growth.
Fear is the brain’s way to help keep us within the comfort zone. So when we learn to get comfortable with the uncomfortable, we’re actually reaching beyond the fear and discomfort into the zones of learning and growth.
And courageous souls, that is where the magic lies ✨
05/28/2021
A very wise man once said “Comparison is the thief of self worth”.
We’ve been conditioned ever since we were young children to use other people as barometers to gauge ourselves. Perhaps it started as simple as comparing grades or appearances, then it became incomes, job titles, houses and cars, maybe even to followers and likes on social media..
The truth is, this behavior not only robs us from our self-worth, it’s also the fast track to unhappiness. It’s an act of violence against ourselves.
The next time you find yourself:
- Wishing you had something of another
- Comparing yourself based on the external of another
- Seeing yourself as below or above another
Try these simple actions:
Take a moment, close your eyes to drop into your heart and start to see yourself and the other person as Happy, Successful, and Peaceful. Deeply wish yourself well, and send a silent blessing to the other person.
This small shift in energy allows us to remember that we’re not separate beings. And by infusing our intentions with Love, we help ourselves as well as others.
And when we stop comparing, it allows us to simply BE. It opens up a pathway for acceptance and compassion, giving us permission to love ourselves as well as others JUST AS WE ARE.
You are enough.
You are loved.
You are love.
05/08/2021
When difficulties or discomfort arise we tend to want to DO, to either fix or control what we view as the problem.
One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn is to do NOTHING, to just allow myself to observe what’s coming up. To experience it without judgement, without deeming it as right or wrong, nor good or bad.
By shifting our energy from ‘doing’ to simply observe, something magical happens. This small shift of energy somehow allows the universe to do its magic, paving the way for divine answers to reveal itself in the perfect time.
Our only job is to learn to honor these hard moments with acceptance, love and compassion. To have the willingness to JUST BE and to TRUST because my loves, your path is already unfolding before you.
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05/02/2021
✨Misconceptions about FEAR✨
We often associated fear with being afraid of something however, fear manifests in many different forms. Sometimes in ways we don’t necessarily recognize as fear.
For example, control is fear, setting expectations is fear, perfectionism is fear, jealousy is fear, greed is fear, anxiety is fear. These are all elements from a fear based mindset.
The truth is, We are all afraid but that’s OKAY. The point is NOT not to be afraid but rather getting to understand the fear behind the action or behavior.
We must ask ourselves, What am I truly afraid of?
For example, perfectionism is my defense mechanism for fear of failure. By examining and debunking my beliefs surrounding this, I am then able to start practice being brave with “failing” to let go of the pattern of perfectionism.
What are your patterns telling you?
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04/30/2021
It’s so easy to play the blame game when our feelings are hurt, our inclination is to see it as the other person’s fault. We do things like point the finger or shame others for their behavior.
Although it may feel as though the other person caused our emotional reaction, the truth is that our reaction arises from preexisting emotional wounds within ourselves. Their behavior simply acts as a trigger, which is why some people are not bothered by the same behavior that make you upset.
Taking responsibility for our emotional reactions will no longer make us the victim. And as victims, we are powerless. We are at the mercy of another’s behavior. Taking responsibility will naturally give us our power back, helping us have a deeper understanding of our triggers so we can start healing our emotional wounds.
We can choose to focus on someone else’s behavior, play victim and go on this never ending cycle that literally serves NO ONE or we can start taking responsibility for our reactions and focus on healing the reasons behind them. 𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗷𝗼𝗯 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗲𝗹𝘀𝗲’𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻. 𝗪𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀.
Looking within and shifting the responsibility are not easy practices, but not impossible. Being able to get off this merry-go-around of self pity, victimhood and powerlessness is empowering and life changing. Drop a 🎠 if you agree.
Because my courageous souls, you are ALL powerful beings so please don’t underestimate yourself 💪🏼✨
04/25/2021
I’m allowing me to be me
I’m allowing me to be free
I’m allowing my power, well-being, my path to light up before me
I’m allowing everything to just be as it comes to me
I’m shining brightly
I’m allowing, easily allowing all my dreams to be
In the right timing
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I’m allowing my worth, my brilliance, my path to unfold before me
I’m allowing everything to just be as it comes to me
I’m shining brightly
I’m allowing, easily allowing all my dreams to be
In the right timing
I’m allowing me to be me
I’m allowing me to be free
To be me, to be me.
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~ Alex Chellun
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03/31/2021
“You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.” - Brené Brown
Does this resonate with you as much as it’s resonated with me?
When we deny, feel ashamed or feel like victims of our past, we tend to hustle for our worthiness. It’s this constant energy of proving, pleasing, controlling..
It’s not until we accept and own our personal story with honesty, forgiveness, love and honor; we will continue to let it define us and have this overarching feeling of not being good enough.
Share your story with someone you trust and is worthy of holding space for you today. But do it without any expectation of praise or pity. By simply sharing your story, it releases the power it has over you. Because remember, shame loves secrecy, it cannot survive being shared.
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02/25/2021
✨Our greatest power and deepest healing are found in the repressed, unloved parts of ourselves. When brought into the light of conscious awareness and accepted with love, these aspects of self become ℙ𝕠𝕨𝕖𝕣, 𝕃𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥, 𝔹𝕖𝕒𝕦𝕥𝕪, 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝔾𝕣𝕒𝕔𝕖✨
Did you know we are all Alchemists? We all have the ability to transmute our suffering into growth; shadow into light, fear into power, pain into peace.
Through the process of conscious awareness and the willingness to look deep within ourselves with acceptance, love & compassion. We transform.
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We become Free.
We become Authentic.
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We all possess the superpower to turn lead into gold. The real question then becomes, Are you willing to do the work?
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