Kim Von Berg

The depth of love you can give & receive from another is a reflection of the degree of intimate relationship you have with yourself. ❤️

How do we have a deep loving intimate relationship with ourselves? We do so by connecting to our deepest inner self, listening to & accepting our feelings - and accepting & acknowledging whatever needs we may have.

Give yourself the gift of this meditation - is a bonus gift of Katherine Woodward Thomas in which she takes you through an important practice in Calling in “The One,” called the “Self Love Power Practice” : https://vimeo.com/546605544/5822b7d451?fl=pl&fe=ti 🌅


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FREE communication tip by relationship expert & communication specialist, Kim Von Berg - whenever you feel hurt by your beloved in what was done or said! Here goes:

So what are more skillful ways of addressing your hurt than saying something like: “you need to apologize for hurting me"?

First of all, it is important that you recognize that you feel hurt – and you’ll first want to take at least a little space to go inside to discover where the root of the hurt stems from. 99% of the time, what is occurring in an adult relationship is not the root cause of painful feelings - and it often goes back to childhood or something traumatic in your past. So, we take time to go inside & nurture that younger part of us who feels hurt.

And then, we look to the actual situation/behavior of our partner that we may still not be happy about. From here & in our wise loving adult place, we recognize that NOBODY CAN MAKE US FEEL ANYTHING – since feelings are fundamentally coming from our own interpretations, history and assumptions. So, we own our feelings – and don’t make another responsible for them.

From THIS place, we can now communicate!!! We might say something like: “When I hear.. or see.. or experience… (describe the behavior, keeping the “you” pronoun to a minimum), a younger part of me gets triggered as well as not being happy about this. It would be so wonderful if – in this situation – (state your ideal such as: a kind request could be made, I could be notified when…, the kitchen could be cleaned by whoever had a meal, etc.)

This way, we own our side of the street and come from an assumption that our beloved did not do something to hurt us intentionally. It gives him/her an opportunity to adjust behavior and still feel honored and respected.

If you are in a relationship, where do you begin to turn this relationship into an expansive joyful romantic partnership? 💞

Kim Von Berg, Relationship Expert, outlines seven steps to do just that in this article: https://bit.ly/TurnYourRelationshipAround


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Sharing a small segment from one of Katherine Woodward Thomas' recent videos on her most recent work called True You Awakening (see her most recent book, What's True About You): https://www.facebook.com/reel/786456047494725 ✨

It has been such an enormous privilege to be on Katherine's faculty for the past 10 years, teaching & coaching Calling in "The One," Conscious Uncoupling and What's True About You. And we - and all of her certified coaches around the world - will continue to bring her work to the world to effect greater love, truth and contribution to the transformation of human consciousness.🌟

Katherine has left a legacy of extraordinary beauty. Her books, programs, coach certification programs gave people a way of understanding themselves in relationship that was compassionate, rigorous and deeply hopeful. Her belief that love is something we become ready for, not something that simply happens to us, changed the way a generation of people approached the most important parts of their lives. Thousands of relationships now exist because of her, families that stayed more whole, people who found their way back to themselves and to hope through her words at a moment when they had almost stopped looking.

The world is a better place because of Katherine Woodward Thomas' dedication to the evolution of love on this earth! ❤️

This has come as such a shock. Katherine was teaching on Friday - and passed away a few days later, this Monday.💔

Katherine was such a bright light in the world, bringing her transformational work to hundreds of thousands of people. (See her books: Calling in “The One,” Conscious Uncoupling and What’s True About You.) Her work is truly transformational - touching people deeply. I am certain that the depth and breadth of Katherine’s teachings will continue to be far reaching for many years to come.

She was my mentor - and I've been one of her faculty for her coach certification programs for over ten years. She truly changed the trajectory of my life - and helped me take a stand for my calling to be a leader of love in the world. I will forever be grateful to her for this.

My condolences to all of my fellow CITO, CU and True You coaches. We will carry the torch of love and all that Katherine taught us! 🌟💖🌟

We have been exploring our “going unconscious” in certain situations with your loved ones - and dropping into a wounded child place - most often, when you get emotionally triggered. Our partner may do something or not do something, give a look - or say something, and all of a sudden, our body reacts by developing a knot in the stomach, a tightening in the shoulders, faster heartbeat.

Our brains look to find causation for this symptomatic response, and often, will attach blame to anyone nearby! We might then begin believing this must all be about our partner - when it is often the result of an echoing of earlier memories stored in our own body. If this happens a lot, we can get stuck in a trap of blaming and shaming in our intimate relationship.

It’s so important to recognize when you get emotionally triggered - and take some steps to get back into your power center to help the interactions with your loved one go from closed & defensive to open and curious. I teach a number of techniques to my clients regarding this, but I also love to share how other relationship counselors help their clients with this as well. Today, I’m sharing this video that Michelle Farris, LMFT, made to teach more about identifying when we get triggered and how we can get back to a centered place: https://youtu.be/5KjasqSvc00?si=ROTQH46uA95mZ5k2

In essence, every trigger offers an opportunity to heal! Our intimate relationships are ideal places to have our traumas arise, because we can face our memories and reactions with a trusted person who can share it with us, hold us, and be with us as we release these traumas - and experience greater aliveness, joy and connection.

I was looking back to what I was up to a year ago which was an exciting time when the eBook that I co-wrote with New York Times bestseller, Katherine Woodward Thomas - called Conscious Recoupling was released. This is a companion to her bestselling book, Conscious Uncoupling.

With this release, I created a couple’s Conscious Recoupling Program - and have taken a number of couples through this. It’s been SO EXCITING to see the transformation that these couples go through in this program, both as individuals and as a couple!! 💞

If you and your partner find yourselves contemplating the difficult decision of parting ways but still really love one another, you absolutely need to read this article in which I unpack what Conscious Recoupling is all about: https://bit.ly/ConsciousRecoupling

At the end of the article, I give you a way to access the Conscious Recoupling eBook for free.


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During covid, I was interviewed on the local TV nightly news in CA for a very brief segment on what to watch out for with online dating. The segment was too short to be able to give all of the many guidelines I often share with my Calling in “The One” clients.

So, I wrote an article to be able to share these guidelines with all of you: http://bit.ly/OnlineDatingSafetyMeasures 💞
And, if you’re in a relationship, please share this with anyone you know who is using dating apps.

Online dating is an incredible tool to help you find your mate - but use it with caution!



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For all women who live in or near Asheville: come join the dynamic gathering - and hear my talk tomorrow!!🌟

I'll be sharing about my life's journey - and how I came to discover my true self & calling as a leader of love. I'll also guide everyone through a practice to help the participants to do the same! ✨💖✨

Come join us from 6 to 8pm tomorrow, Wed, 4/15!!! Be sure to save your seat here: https://www.meetup.com/she-owns-it-avl/events/313964750