04/26/2026
We have been exploring our “going unconscious” in certain situations with your loved ones - and dropping into a wounded child place - most often, when you get emotionally triggered. Our partner may do something or not do something, give a look - or say something, and all of a sudden, our body reacts by developing a knot in the stomach, a tightening in the shoulders, faster heartbeat.
Our brains look to find causation for this symptomatic response, and often, will attach blame to anyone nearby! We might then begin believing this must all be about our partner - when it is often the result of an echoing of earlier memories stored in our own body. If this happens a lot, we can get stuck in a trap of blaming and shaming in our intimate relationship.
It’s so important to recognize when you get emotionally triggered - and take some steps to get back into your power center to help the interactions with your loved one go from closed & defensive to open and curious. I teach a number of techniques to my clients regarding this, but I also love to share how other relationship counselors help their clients with this as well. Today, I’m sharing this video that Michelle Farris, LMFT, made to teach more about identifying when we get triggered and how we can get back to a centered place: https://youtu.be/5KjasqSvc00?si=ROTQH46uA95mZ5k2
In essence, every trigger offers an opportunity to heal! Our intimate relationships are ideal places to have our traumas arise, because we can face our memories and reactions with a trusted person who can share it with us, hold us, and be with us as we release these traumas - and experience greater aliveness, joy and connection.
