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Does taking space when you’re in an argument scare you?

Does it bring up all of your anxieties and fears?

Or does it make you want to double down? Like you want to make them understand your perspective and see why you’re right?

When we’re in tense conversations or arguments with others- the idea of “taking space” or “taking a breather” can get mixed reactions.

But here’s what I see when people take a breather and then come back and have a conversation:

Both parties feel more emotionally regulated, think clearer, and the conversation is more productive.

Both parties are able to understand each other better instead of digging their heels into their own perspective.

Both parties treat each other with more kindness and compassion.

When emotions are high it’s best to take a breather and come back.

-Lucy x

Listen- I don’t like conflict either 😅🤣

Conflict is uncomfortable and brings up all of our lizard brain fears.

And what I’ve learned about conflict through working with clients and research is that if you are able to cut down on reacting and lean into responding your communication (and thus your relationships) will improve.

If you are sick or your emotions getting the better of you in your relationships and life then check out my 1:1 coaching.

Drop “interested” in the comments and I’ll send you the details x

-Lucy

I get that TikTok is gonna try and get you to buy the new bread shoe laces or mascara this Black Friday (is just me getting those adds over and over? Lol)

But I want to encourage you this season to spend your money on something that will improve your life in the long term- not just a feel good in the moment.

So many incredible coaches (myself included 😉) have courses that will help you improve your love life, relationships, mental health- etc.

We are small business owners who got into this profession because we actually want to help. We want you to have a high quality, fulfilling life.

So before you get influenced to buy a hair curler (even thought you have 3 in the closet) or a new game (that will sit on the shelf) really consider what you actually want to improve in your life. What you’re trying to fix by getting something material like clothes. Where are you trying to fix something in your life through retail therapy.

And instead invest in courses from experts, who are small (sometimes local!) business owners, who want you to have a better life.

Invest in knowledge and tools that will help you have a higher quality of life FOR life.

If you want to do that with me- here’s what’s on sale this Black Friday 👇🏻

Communication is sexy! $22
A crash course in communication. It will show you how to know what you’re actually thinking and feeling, how to communicate it effectively, and how to navigate the emotional waves of being vulnerable.

Foundations of love -$149
Get trained in the four pillars of healthy relationships- communication, boundaries, trust, and connection.

This course will give you a strong foundation for your relationships so that you can feel confident and secure with others.

If you struggle with vulnerability, trust issues, conflict, or relationship anxiety- this is for you.

Have a safe and healthy holiday season x links below to the programs!

Lucy

Communicating well isn’t just about what you say.

It’s how you say it- your tone of voice and how you structure your thoughts.

It’s where you say it- in person, on the phone, email, or text.

It’s your body language.

It’s what you don’t say.

All of these pieces combined together is what leads to strong, effective communication.

But we aren’t taught this! If anything, most of us got shut down when we were learning to communicate.

We were told to be quiet, to stop crying, to do as we’re told. We were taught to be certain ways- acceptable ways- not who we actually are.

Not to share how we feel, be open with our thoughts and feelings, and portray those things to another person.

So many of us struggle with communication as adults because we have a whole lot of subconscious thoughts that are leading us to shut down when it comes to communication rather than open up.

That’s why in my ‘communication is sexy!’ Course we talk about the practical AND the emotional aspects of communication.

Because it takes both.

It takes understanding the layers and nuance of communication AND how to manage your brain and emotions.

Having these skills will improve your love, family, and work life (because good communication improves ALL areas of your life).

You’ll get more of your needs and desires met. You’ll feel more confident in yourself. Your relationships will become more fulfilling.

So grab communication is sexy! And feel the magic for yourself!

Lucy x

Many of my clients have said that they struggle with communication in their relationship.

“He just ends up shutting down and we never actually solve anything”

“I don’t feel like I can share how I feel because they’ll get mad at me”

“I feel like we talk, and I think we’re on the same page, but then something happens and everything blows up”

If you’ve felt this way in your relationships- you aren’t alone- and I have something that will help.

Communication is sexy! Is my crash course in having incredible communication skills.

It covers not only the practical (how to form and share your thoughts, how to diffuse conflict, how to avoid someone getting defensive) but also the emotional (how to stop feeling anxious about sharing how you feel, how to be receptive to feedback instead of shutting down).

Learning the practical and emotional skills around communication has done wonders for my clients.

They’ve experienced less stress and anxiety in their relationships. They are able to tackle hard conversations and feel MORE connected with the people they love.

They feel more confident and secure in themselves and what they want.

You can experience this too!

Check out communication is sexy! Below and start applying these tools to your relationships so that you can feel at peace again.

Lucy x

When I started trying to improve my relationships and get over heartbreak I watched HOURS of tedtalks.

I read 8 relationship and communication books (I counted) and took 3 courses.

I spent hours talking to experts, getting advice, and then eventually became a coach when I became the expert myself (after more training, courses, and certifications).

A lot of hours and effort went into me learning how to create loving relationships where I felt seen and understood. Where I was able to trust, communicate how I felt, and have my boundaries respected.

I don’t want it to take that long for you!!

I don’t want you to have to dig through a bunch of Ted talks that are inspirational but don’t give you something tangible to work with or have you flipping through pages of self-help books that you’ll forget about as soon as the book is back on the shelf.

I want you to see results in your relationships now.

I want it to be faster and easier for you.

That’s why I created a course that distilled down the most important things you need to know about communication, boundaries, trust, and connection so that you can finally feel good about yourself relationships.

I break it down, keep it simple, and make it actionable so that you can actually apply it- not just nod your head and snap your fingers because it sounds good and you resonate with it.

Foundations of love is half off right now with the Black Friday sale- so if you’re sick and tired of feeling like people are mad at you and you don’t trust anyone- and low key you’ve looked up thousands of self-help things but nothings changed- then grab this course.

Link below!

Lucy

We all want our relationships to be hot, exciting, and fun.

And tbh- the work to get there isn’t always glamorous 😂

It’s learning foundational skills. It’s learning how to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires.

It’s figuring out your boundaries, how to set them, and how to maintain them.

It’s working through trust issues and learning to build trust.

And there is a formula to building connection with people that you can learn so that you have stronger relationships with people you like.

These are what lead to the hot, fun, exciting relationships.

Without these pieces- those “fun” relationships quickly turn into a hot messes with tons of anxiety and constant conflict.

Thats why if you want the amazing relationships- you need to start with a strong foundation.

Thats why I created foundations of love- to teach you those skills so that you can go and have the relationship you want.

Right now it’s half off for Black Friday- so if you want to enjoy your relationships and stop stressing all the time- grab this course.

Link below!

Lucy

So many of us beat ourselves up for our relationships.

We make conflict or struggling to set boundaries mean that we aren’t good enough. If we would just prettier- people would like us more. If we were just funnier, more intelligent, stronger, better- our relationships would feel good.

We blame ourselves instead of realizing that relationships are a SKILL.

You have to learn how to communicate, set boundaries, manage conflict, and build trust.

These are SKILLS- things you learn and practice.

And I see so many people blame themselves for not being good enough rather than realizing that there’s just a skill gap that can be closed.

So if you are ready to stop beating yourself up and blaming yourself for your relationships get foundations of love.

It’s half off right now for Black Friday and it will teach you how to communicate, set boundaries, and build trust and connection.

Get it while it’s hot!

Lucy

A lot of people wait until they are at the Rockbottom in their love life before they get support with their relationships.

When this happens so much hurt could’ve been avoided. So many conflicts could’ve been resolved. That’s why I want to encourage you to get support around your relationships before you get to that place.

Because life is short, our relationships are important, and when your relationships feel bad- life feels bad.

This Black Friday instead of investing in gadgets or tools to try and feel better- invest in skills and tools that will actually help you feel better.

That will take your relationships from feeling disconnected and clunky to trustworthy and fulfilling.

That will help you trust yourself and radiate confidence.

Foundations of love is my 4 week course to help you do just that.

In this course there are tools and techniques on communication, boundaries, trust, and connection.

These are the four pillars of healthy relationships- and you will get value of them for YEARS to come- not just until the next trend or new gadget comes out.

Grab it below while it’s half off x

Lucy

Taking action in your relationsip is needed for them to improve.

What I love about my foundations of love program is that it’s actionable.

The tools and practices that are in that program will help you communicate better, build trust, and form strong relationships TODAY.

You get to see results immediately when you apply these tools.

It’s not just theories or me on a soap box- it’s actual techniques that you can use to avoid conflict, be seen and understood by those around you, and build trust in relationships.

And with Black Friday- it’s half off.

Normally the course is $249 but from now until next Friday- it’s $149.

You deserve to feel good and trust that you have the foundation to build and keep incredible relationships.

Foundations of love will help you do that x

Get the program below!

People are struggling with loneliness now more than ever- and we’ve normalized it. We’ve made jokes out of it.

We joke and share memes on Instagram from our beds about how anxious we get about replying to a text.

About why people suck.

About why we’re gonna be single forever because no one likes us.

I love a bit of dark humor…but at one point is it not funny anymore?

Because it sucks feeling alone- and you can joke about it- but so many people blame themselves for not being “lovable enough” when they don’t feel close to people.

They make themselves wrong for it. They beat themselves up. Which leads to them feeling more anxious about their relationships and thus isolate more.

I don’t want this for you! If you’re feeling anxious about replying to texts, or afraid that if you say no to someone they’ll hate you forever, or like you can’t go up to someone and strike up a conversation- I want to help you.

Right now foundations of love is half off for Black Friday.

In this course I walk you through how to communicate. How to convey your thoughts and feelings and feel confident striking up conversations.

We cover setting boundaries (and how to not freak out about people being mad at you).

You’ll learn how to build trust and open up to trusting someone again if you’ve been hurt in the past.

And finally- how to build connection! How to make friends. How to talk to someone you like and get closer with them.

Don’t spend another year waking up, going to work, and then coming home feeling disconnected from others.

Learn the skills to create incredible relationships now 🫶

Link in the comments xx
Lucy

Save so that you can actually enjoy your pumpkin pie this year ;)