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Ways Parents Kill Their Children’s Confidence without Knowing
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‎One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is confidence, the courage to face life with boldness, to believe in themselves, and to rise even after failing. Unfortunately, many well-meaning parents unknowingly destroy this gift with their words, actions, or silence.
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‎Confidence is not something children stumble upon; it is nurtured in the home. If you notice your child becoming timid, withdrawn, or overly dependent, it may be a signal that something in your parenting style needs adjusting.
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‎Here are 12 subtle ways parents kill their children’s confidence without even realizing it:
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‎1. Constant Criticism
‎When every mistake is met with harsh words “Can’t you ever do anything right?” a child begins to believe they are a failure. Correct with love, not condemnation. Children need guidance, not a running commentary of their flaws.
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‎2. Comparing Them to Others
‎“Look at your cousin… why can’t you be like her?” These words may sound innocent, but they crush self-worth. Every child is unique. Comparison tells your child they are not good enough, planting seeds of insecurity.
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‎3. Overprotection
‎Parents who never allow their children to try, fail, and learn on their own unknowingly raise fearful adults. Shielding them from every risk whispers, “You cannot handle life on your own.” Confidence grows when children are trusted with responsibility.
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‎4. Lack of Encouragement
‎When children do something well, be it a drawing, a school recital, or helping with chores, they crave affirmation. Silence at such moments can be as damaging as negative words. Encouragement is the fuel that powers self-esteem.
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‎5. Excessive Punishment
‎Discipline is necessary, but punishment without explanation breeds fear. A child who grows up afraid of their parents may obey on the outside but feel worthless on the inside. Discipline should correct, not crush.
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‎6. Ignoring Their Voice
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Mom always told us,
“Smile at your Dad when he comes home, because the outside world is cruel and tiring for dads.”

What is the Difference Between a Mother and a Father?

A mother carries you in her womb for 9 months.
A father carries you on his shoulders for his entire life, even if you don’t notice it.

A mother makes sure you are full with food and care.
A father teaches you how to be prepared and strong so that you don’t go hungry, although it may take you a long time to understand.

A mother breastfeeds and nurtures you from her breast.
A father carries you on his back, even if you don’t always see it.

A mother’s love is felt by you immediately from the day you are born.

A father’s love is understood better when you become a father yourself, so wait with patience and understanding.

A mother is priceless, and a father cannot be replaced even by time.
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Mothers and fathers are both important and have their own unique way of showing love. Their love brings strength and hope to our lives…❤️

Love and Respect your both Parents.❤️

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Huwa pale jirani yako anapojenga nyumba na kuimaliza ndani ya muda mfupi na huku wewe uko kwenye nyumba uliyoshindwa kuimaliza kwa miaka kadhaa.

pale unapoamka kila siku asubuhi kwenda kibaruani kwa miguu au daladala huku jirani yako akiwa anabadili magari anachagua gari gani atumie.

Nasema wewe k**a binti pale unaposikia rafiki yako mliyemaliza pamoja shule/chuo ameolewa miaka kadhaa iliyopita na huku wewe huoni kabisa dalili ya kupata mme.

mama pale unapokuwa na wanawake wenzako au mliiolewa kila baada ya miaka kadhaa wanaposti kuwa wamepata watoto ilihali wewe uko kwenye ndoa miaka mingi na umefanya kila jitihada ya kupata mtoto bila mafanikio.

pale wale mliokuwa rika moja na darasa moja wakiwa na mafanikio na nafasi kubwa kazini huku wewe kila unalojaribu kufanya halifanikiwi na umekosa kabisa ajira.

wewe k**a Mchungaji au Mtumishi wa Mungu pale unapoona makanisa ya wenzako yanajaa lakini kwako wakija ni waumini kumi ishirini nao sio wa kudumu kila siku una washirika wapya?

Unajisikiaje ,unajisikiaje,unajisikiaje!


Hii ni ukweli na hakika ya kwamba k**a mwanadamu wa kawaida utaumia pale unapojiona uko nyuma ya wengine.

Najua kweli kweli kabisa inaumiza lakini jambo linalofanya watu wengi kuumia na kujisikia vibaya ni ile hali ya wao kujaribu na watu wengine pasipo kujua kwamba mafanikio ya mtu yana mambo kadha wa kadha ambayo k**a usipoyafahamu yanaweza yakakusumbua sana na ukaishia kujilinganisha kila siku na ukajikuta hata unapoteza focus ya maisha au ya kile unachofanya.

Katika mafanikio ya mtu kuna mambo kadha wa kadha ya kuyatazama.

1:Kwanza ni jambo la Muda na Majira.

Biblia inasema katika kitabu cha Mhubiri kwamba kwa kila jambo kuna nyakati na majira yake.
Yumkini hao unaowatazama na kujilinganisha nao tayari majira yao ya kupokea yamefika lakini wewe bado uko kwenye majira ya kutawanya.Endelea kuyangoja.....

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THE 48 LAWS OF POWER.

A Book written by Robert Greene that offers a Series of Strategies for Obtaining and Maintaining Power in various situations. Here I leave you a summary of the 48 Laws:

1. Don't Outshine the Boss: Make your Superiors feel Superior. Don't expose your Talent too much or you might Trigger their Insecurity.

2.Don't Trust friends too much, use your Enemies: Friends Betray you more easily, but if you Manage to WIN an Enemy, they will be more Loyal.

3. Hide your Intentions: Keep People Off Balance so they can't anticipate your Actions.

4. Always say Less than Necessary: Silence Breeds Power, and Talking too much Reveals your Plans.

5. Protect your Reputation at all Costs: Reputation is the Cornerstone of Power.

6. Call Attention at all Costs: Be Visible to be Relevant.

7. Make others Work for you and Attribute it: Take Advantage of the Work and Effort of others to your Advantage.

8. Make others come to you: Don't Run after Others, make them Look for you.

9. Win with Actions, Never Arguments: Prove your Point through Actions, Not Words.

10. Avoid Losers and Unhappy: The Misfortune of others is Contagious; stay away from those who Bring you Down.

11. Make People Depend on you: If others Depend on you, you're in Control.

12. Disarm with Sincerity and Selective Generosity: Emotional Disarmament will give you an Edge.

13. When you ask for Help, Appeal to the Interests of Others: Appeal to what Benefits Others, not Gratitude or Compassion.

14. Introduce yourself as a Friend, act as a Spy: Learn to Extract Valuable Information from others without them Noticing.

15. Crush your Enemy Completely: Do not let your Enemy Recover, or he will seek Revenge.

16. Use Absence to Increase Respect: The Value of something Increases with Scarcity..

17. Keep Others in Suspense: Be Unpredictable, you will Confuse Others and Gain Power.

18. Do Not Isolate yourself: Loneliness Weakens you; Engage yourself in the Web of Influence.

19. Know Who You’re Dealing

7 Lessons from Norman Vincent Peale's "The Power of Positive Thinking" is a timeless classic that offers practical advice on harnessing the power of optimism to achieve personal and professional success.

1. Cultivate a Positive Attitude: Maintaining a positive attitude is essential for achieving happiness and success. Peale emphasizes the importance of focusing on positive thoughts and beliefs, which can transform your outlook and influence outcomes.

2. Harness the Power of Faith: Faith in oneself and in a higher power can provide strength and resilience during challenging times. Peale discusses how faith can instill confidence, reduce anxiety, and inspire perseverance in pursuing goals.

3. Visualize Success: Visualization is a powerful technique for manifesting your desires. Peale encourages readers to vividly imagine achieving their goals, believing in their attainment, and taking inspired action towards making those visions a reality.

4. Turn Obstacles into Opportunities: Adopting a positive mindset helps in reframing setbacks and obstacles as opportunities for growth. Peale suggests viewing challenges as temporary and focusing on finding creative solutions rather than dwelling on problems.

5. Practice Affirmations: Affirmations are positive statements that reinforce desired beliefs and behaviors. Peale advocates for repeating affirmations daily to reprogram your subconscious mind and boost self-confidence.

6. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Choose to surround yourself with positive influences, including supportive friends, inspiring literature, and uplifting environments. Peale advises minimizing exposure to negativity and cultivating relationships that nourish optimism.

7. Take Action with Determination: Positive thinking must be accompanied by action. Peale emphasizes the importance of setting clear goals, developing a plan of action, and taking consistent steps towards achieving those goals with determination and persistence.

Reasons Why Reading Books Should Be Part of Your Life:

1. Knowledge Highway: Books offer a vast reservoir of knowledge on virtually any topic imaginable. Dive deep into history, science, philosophy, or explore new hobbies and interests.

2. Enhanced Vocabulary: Regular reading exposes you to a wider range of vocabulary, improving your communication skills and comprehension.

3. Memory Boost: Studies suggest that reading can help sharpen your memory and cognitive function, keeping your mind active and engaged.

4. Stress Reduction: Curling up with a good book can be a form of mental escape, offering a temporary reprieve from daily anxieties and a chance to unwind.

5. Improved Focus and Concentration: In today's fast-paced world filled with distractions, reading strengthens your ability to focus and concentrate for extended periods.

6. Empathy and Perspective: Stepping into the shoes of fictional characters allows you to develop empathy and gain a deeper understanding of different perspectives.

7. Enhanced Creativity: Reading exposes you to new ideas and thought processes, potentially sparking your own creativity and problem-solving skills.

8. Stronger Writing Skills: Immersing yourself in well-written prose can improve your writing style, sentence structure, and overall communication clarity.

9. Improved Sleep Quality: Swap screen time for a book before bed. The calming nature of reading can help you relax and unwind, promoting better sleep quality.

10. A Portal to New Worlds: Books transport you to different times, places, and realities. Experience thrilling adventures, historical events, or fantastical journeys from the comfort of your armchair.

11. Lifelong Learning: Reading is a journey of continuous learning and self-discovery. There's always something new to learn, regardless of your age or interests.

12. Conversation Starter: Books provide a treasure trove of topics for conversation, fostering connections and enriching discussions with others.

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DIFFERENT TYPES OF S*X IN MARRIAGE!

1. RECONCILIATION S*X:- S*x is a most potent weapon for diluting and difusing misunderstanding in Marriage. If you don't use S*X to settle some stubborn crisis, then you are missing out and not maximising it. In addition when you both settle a misunderstanding, the person at fault could initiate s*x as a way to make up to the other who was on the receiving side of the conflict.

2. HEALING S*X:- There are some sicknesses and diseases that are cured by good S*x I mean very good S*x. Healing s*x is gentle, it is full of grace and elegance. You don't rush it. Mbanu. You do it softly and it hits the bull's eye. Please Husbands, don't throw your weight on her if it's for healing, let the bed carry your weight 100%.

3. PUNISHMENT S*X:- When I counsel couples, are times I hear spouses say "Since he did that, I decided to punish him by depriving him of s*x", or "since she refused me, I decided not to touch her again". That is as senseless as saying "since my child failed a Test, I punished him by withdrew him from school". It's foolishness. The wise thing to do is to give your spouse more s*x as punishment rather than depriving him or her. When your husband or wife misbehaves, correct them using s*x. That is the best punishment. Not slapping or fighting or public disgrace. Punishment s*x is very hot.

4. MEMORABLE S*X:- This is a very special kind of s*x that you organise and plan for. Every couple must be doing this once in a while. Honeymoons should be organised at least once is a quarter (once in 3 months). If you have means, do it once a month. You book a hotel for say 3-7 days and retreat to help build your marriage. A kind of Intimacy Retreat. You mustn't go to hotel if you can't afford it. Just send the kids somewhere and make it memorable. Light Candles around and on the blue or green bulb. Use good perfume and the Angels will bear you witness.

5. QUICK SURPRISED S*X:- This is a s*x that married couples should do often to build their love life. One "Quickie" is stronger than 100 Love Charms from India or Kitui. A Quickie is that very fast s*x that a couple does in ODD places or in ODD position. Usually one spouse surprises the other with it. You don't take formal permission quickies. You just start it just like that. MARRIAGES WITHOUT QUICKIES HAVE QUICK PROBLEMS AND BREAK QUICK. Spouses who don't believe in surprise s*x are analogue and expired. Quickies can be done in the car. Drive her to a corner and pretend as if the car didn't start. It can take place on kitchen sink or at the balcony or inside swimming pool or in garden.

6. EXERCISE S*X:- This type should happen frequently especially in the mornings. God did it that the male organ wakes up in the morning erect to greet it's Owner - the Wife. So as much as humanly possible, let every wife answer the morning greeting. God's mercies are New Every Morning. Great is His Faithfulness. Mercy and Faithfulness are co-joined twins.

7. ENCOURAGEMENT S*X:- You use this type of S*x to encourage your Spouse to do something or Not to do something. There are times he wants to do something that you think is not the best of decision, just come in the most seductive way and delay him. When he is exhausted after you have drilled him, speak softly and he will say "I didn't know that was what you were saying before, now I understand you".

8. REWARD S*X:- This is the type that you reward your spouse for achieving something unique or for exceeding expectations. Reward S*x is not just one round but extended over a period of time. Reward S*x is an open check to do whatever he or she loves. It's extra ordinary.

9. PROCREATION S*X:- This is s*x you do purely for pregnancy. When you need child, the best style is the one that gives the husband maximum pe*******on. Support your wife with pillow is you aren't a longman. But you must make sure it is as wet as wetness can be. S***m needs wetness to swim inside the womb. When he releases he must remain inside there for a few minutes. Don't pull fast.
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15 STUPID THINGS A WIFE CAN DO TO MESS UP HER MARRIAGE…

1) DARING YOUR HUSBAND TO BEAT YOU:
You block the door way, then dare him to beat you up and see what will happen. A Lot of women have done this and end up regretting.

2) DARING YOUR HUSBAND TO SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN:
You will be making a major mistake if you dare your husband to sleep with another woman. You may live to regret it.

3) NEGLECTING YOUR BODY AND LOOKS BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED:
“I am married i can relax, after all who is looking at me.?” He married you Slim, s*xy and trendy. Next thing you become obsessed, dirty and shabbily dressed.
It is the mistake of most careless married women.

4) DENYING YOUR HUSBAND S*X REGULARLY:
You are a career woman; You are an overly religious woman… Hmmm! You feel s*x in marriage is secondary, you deny your husband your body regularly, so he is s*xually starved and intimacy famished. His Secretary, colleagues and girls in church are seducing and begging him to come to them but you have padlocked your Jerusalem and expect him not to lust after others. His mind will drift from you towards them.

5) LEAVING YOUR HUSBAND FOR YOUR FEMALE FRIEND TO CATER FOR:
“My dear friend, please be my eye as I travel for this one week, help cater for my husband and my little kids”. By the time you are back, your dear friend has so really helped you by sleeping with your husband and expecting a new baby as continuation from where you stopped.
If at all she has not eloped with your man, leaving your children all alone.
It is very stupid to commit your husband into the hands of your beautiful and very active friend.

6) LEAVING YOUR HUSBAND IN THE HANDS OF YOUR HOUSE MAID:
Your maid is the one that cooks,cleans the house, cares for the children and your husband. You suddenly become a lazy bone since the arrival of the maid. All you do is shout and place orders. Not bad! But if your husband feels more love and care from the maid, sister that maid won’t struggle to sn**ch your husband. You are the one graciously giving him to her and those that need him.

7) EMPLOYING A FULLY GROWN, RED BLOODED LADY AS A MAID:
She is fully grown up and well endowed back and front very tantalizing. She dresses skimpily and s*xily like an actress, cat walks like a model and that is your own house maid?
What a mistake!

8) EMPLOYING A HOUSE GIRL THAT IS MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN YOU:
Employing a house girl more beautiful than you is a major technical mistake most women make. This means you are using your money to employ a rival for yourself. Don’t be foolish when getting a maid. They act dumb like maids to you for the time being but when your husband starts sleeping with them, you will be shocked they are more agile than you when they start fighting you.

9) USING ANALOG BRAIN TO LIVE WITH A DIGITAL HUSBAND:
Your husband is growing with ideas and all; you contribute nothing than sitting down at home to eat. He is dressing like a guy with jeans and face cap; you are celebrating the fact that you are a married woman to a Yuppy cute man. Your husband is on *Twitter, Facebook, Whatsapp, Skype etc;* the only thing you know about mobile phone is receiving and making calls. Your husband is talking about stock market; you only talk about tomato market. He’s talking about Forex; you are talking about fruit and vegetables only. He will see you so backwards, local and dumb. Upgrade please!

10) FAILING TO COMMIT YOUR FAMILY INTO THE HANDS OF GOD:
A wife won’t do well if she fails to commit her family into the hands of God regularly. Don’t make such mistakes of thinking you are in charge of your husband and marriage and you can handle things. Be prayerful, hand over your family to God daily. May you never labour in vain and another reaps where you have sown!

11) FIGHTING YOUR MOTHER IN-LAW CARELESSLY:
You may fight your Mother in-law dirty and think you have won especially if she’s innocent, you will end up losing. Her son and herself have been friends and lovers for years before you came; may be before you were born. She was the first ‘wife’ of your husband and also the first ‘girlfriend’. Her son cannot divorce her and she is more experienced than you in matrimonial battles, in fact she is a veteran of many conflicts. Yes i know that a wife becomes a priority and number one and some men try to place their mums above their wives . That is stupid and sickening! Apply wisdom and talk to God and your husband about it. But don’t come in with the intention to separate mother and son. Respect a worthy mother in-law. Not all of them are wicked. Not all are witches. You meet a wicked one, apply wisdom and avoid her ways.

12) TELLING YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT YOUR S*X LIFE:
When you tell your friends about your s*x life and how your husband rocks you, you are indirectly telling them to go have a feel of him. They can size you up and know whether your husband is hot or not, whether he is s*xually fulfilled or not. They may even know your Husband’s “turn on” and use it against him then grab your husband. Most women have carelessly lost their husbands as they boast to their friends “my husband is too s*xually demanding, he is an expert when it comes to s*x, he is a horse, he almost kills me in bed, he has a horse size” etc… Your friends will pick information like this and cover things up where you have been failing.

13) REPORTING YOUR HUSBAND TO HIS MUM:
It looks beautiful to report your husband to his Mum, but the end result will hurt you. Most mothers will support their sons any day; children are always right before their Mothers. Seek counsel in the right quarters, never report your husband to his Mum unless his mum is so god fearing, honest and impartial.

14) LETTING CHILDREN TAKE THE PLACE OF YOUR HUSBAND:
Many wives abandon their husbands, denying them of love, care and attention as soon as babies begin to arrive they transfer all affection to their kids. To sleep in bed, they put the Baby in between themselves making the man feel lost and the bond divided. No warm hugs, caress etc.

15) USING S*X WRONGLY:
S*x is supposed to bind you both together, it is supposed to create intimacy and love but in many homes it is the bone of contention. Some women do turn s*x to a tool of manipulation;
Some use it for trade by barter. *Some wives will suddenly become commanders at home when their husbands touch them for s*x, ordering the man around, “go and off the Fan” “go and lock the gate” “go and check whether our children are sleeping” “How about that money I asked you to give me?” Etc…*
This is just too bad.

Some wives sleep like log of wood in bed while some even wear Jean, knickers to bed.
Nothing s*xy
Nothing erotic
Nothing romantic
Nothing Inviting!
If you continue like this you will hurt your marriage deeply and you may destroy your future also. He will start lusting and chasing s*xy daughters of Jezebel out there who may fe**sh him out of home to themselves

A smart wife builds her home, the stupid ones are careless. I know you will be like…. Why can’t he have self control and stay faithful?

Forget it dear.

We are all humans and things push us to do things we never planned.

Be wise!!!

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

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Strictly for the Married Couples...

(((S*X DOES NOT BEGIN IN THE BEDROOM)))

I have noticed with disdain that in this part of our world, most Christian couples are not romantic at all. I can say with a heavy heart that romance is virtually dead in many christian marriages.

Many christian couples live like intimate strangers in the name of being spiritual and practicing holiness unto the Lord.

I was at a Christian couples' retreat some years ago where the guest speaker asked all the couples present to kiss each other. You needed to see the look on the faces of most of the couples; it was as if they had marched poopoo. I was a bit irritated by the spirikokoism I saw on display that day.

Dear Husband, when last have you hugged your wife as you were going out or coming in? Do you even hug your wife at all? Or you think your body is the temple of God and must not be used for hugging?

Dear Wife, when last did you grab your husband's head and plant a kiss on his lips?

When last did you dance together? When last did you crack jokes together? When last did you leave the kids with grandma and travel on a fun vacation together? When last did you do pillow fight?
Who told you that in marriage couples should only talk about kids,schoolfees,farming, relatives,church,property,investments,football,movies,everything except how to enjoy each others company.

The only time some Christian men hold their wives' hands is when they want to pray together. Re kindle your marriage with laughters ,smiles,humour around the house.

I charge all Christian couples, don't only PRAY together, PLAY together as well.

Husband, feel free to play the keyboard on your wife's body. You paid dowry over the owner of that body. You see those twins on her chest! Whether they are Extra large, large, medium or small; size does not matter; Play with them regularly. Squeeze them often. You think they are mere decorations? You think they are meant for the babies alone? No! Use your hands and mouth skilfully

HOW TO PROTECT YOUR INNER PEACE ✌️

1. Cut off toxic people in your life. Although it is not easy to do it, for you to have peace of mind, you have to.

2. Distance yourself from people who only give out negative thoughts and energy. They will never help you grow.

3. Choose your battles wisely. Not everything requires your energy and reaction.

4. Be careful in letting people be a part of your life. Not everyone is a friend.

5. Unwind. When everything starts to feel tiring, go on a vacation. Take a break. You deserve it.

6. Learn when to walk away. If it is no longer giving you peace of mind, it is not worth it.

7. Always make time for yourself. Being alone feels therapeutic at times.

8. Have less time for social media and more of starting a new hobby. Be productive with your time.

9. Be adaptable to change. Always brace yourself for endless possibilities.

10. Knowing your triggers is your responsibility. Not all the time people will adjust for you.

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*WEKA UCHUNGU CHINI.*

Hii hali ikiendelea Kwa Siri moyoni mwako dhidi ya mtu au watu na usoni unacheka wewe ni mnafiki na Dini hiyo haina tofauti na Siasa ya Duniani.

“Uchungu wote na ghadhabu na hasira na kelele na matukano yaondoke kwenu, pamoja na kila namna ya ubaya;" Waefeso 4:31

Uchungu DHIDI ya mtu au watu au taasisi fulani hujikusanya baada ya kutokuona kuwa umetendewa unavyopaswa au hujatendewa haki. Wengi hutembea na uchungu huu na pengine hata wakisema haiwezi kuleta msaada. Uchungu huzidi pindi kile kilichokuumiza kinapoendelea kinyume na ulivyotarajia.

Mungu anasema weka chini hii Hali, hasira ya Siri kuhusu mtu au watu, nk. Mungu anatosha, mwachie na endelea na maisha. Hii ikiendelea na unaendelea kuchekea watu unakuwa mnafiki.

*Pr. Qamunga*