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Insights With Tahseen Every child learns differently. The differences however create labels for those children who do not

Magic Block GameMagic Block Race Game is a high intensity two player board game prepare yourself for hours of game fun w...
13/03/2026

Magic Block Game
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Are we raising independent learners? As educators, our goal has always been to build independent thinkers, not dependent...
01/02/2026

Are we raising independent learners?

As educators, our goal has always been to build independent thinkers, not dependent learners.

Lately, worrying pattern is emerging.
Students are guided during lessons at school by teachers. Group work, activities, notes etc. Work is then given for reinforcement or research at home. However it is also as closely monitored as school and often completed with the help of tuition teachers.

Going to "tuition" has now become a norm in a student's day.

On the surface, this looks like support. But in assessments, when students are asked to work independently, many freeze. They look around, asking, “What do I do?” and no one can answer for them.

This raises an important question:
Are we helping students learn… or unintentionally learning for them?

Struggle, mistakes, and thinking time are not signs of failure. They are essential parts of learning. When every task is guided, corrected, or “rescued,” students lose the chance to build confidence, resilience, and problem-solving skills.

Support is important.
But independence is essential.

Let’s work together; schools, parents, and tutors; to create a balance where children are supported without being spoon-fed, guided without being dependent, and encouraged to think, try, fail, and grow.

Because real learning shows when no one is there to help.

What do you think? Have you faced any such challenges?

Hiking in your 40s is good for meeting people, today I met guides, paramedics and almost met God! Come out you comfort z...
29/12/2025

Hiking in your 40s is good for meeting people, today I met guides, paramedics and almost met God!

Come out you comfort zone they said. Well I tried!

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If you won't give them attention,  where would they get the confidence to ask others for it?
19/07/2025

If you won't give them attention, where would they get the confidence to ask others for it?

Movement for the win!!
16/07/2025

Movement for the win!!

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12/07/2025

"There is always enough light for those who want to see"
21/04/2025

"There is always enough light for those who want to see"

One of the most common statements we hear is that "my child is never like that at home!!" Or "they are learning from the...
02/04/2025

One of the most common statements we hear is that "my child is never like that at home!!" Or "they are learning from their friends! We would never allow that at home, "

Sometimes, the child learns to be obedient but not respectful. If they know they will be punished, then they do the right thing.

Here are some ways we can ensure respectful behaviour at all times.

Instead of focusing solely on compliance, the goal is to nurture a child’s understanding, empathy, and independence.

1. Replace Commands with Conversations
Instead of: "Do as I say because I said so!"
Try: "Let's talk about why this rule is important."
Encourage them to ask questions and express their opinions

2. Set Boundaries with Explanations
Instead of: "Stop running inside!"
Try: "I need you to walk indoors so no one gets hurt."
Explain that sometimes, you are just not allowed to do something because it may hurt them or others around them.

3. Allow Choices and Decision-Making
Instead of: "Wear this now!"
Try: "Would you like to wear the blue or red sweater today?" (You can visit my page for why choices are important)

4. Teach Conflict Resolution
Instead of: "Apologize now!"
Try: "How do you think your actions made your friend feel? What can you do to fix this?"
Help them develop empathy and problem-solving skills.

5. Encourage Self-Reflection Over Punishment
Instead of: "Go to your room!"
Try: "Let’s think about what happened. How could we handle it better next time?"
This builds accountability rather than fear.

In these times, when our children are constantly being influenced by social media and friends, taking simple steps can lead to a better future for our kids.

One of the most common questions I get is, "My son/daughter is not the same. Since he/she started school, I don't know w...
16/10/2024

One of the most common questions I get is, "My son/daughter is not the same. Since he/she started school, I don't know what happened?!"

The changes in children begin as early as age 6 and can be very different from another.

The best way to help them navigate these new boundaries is to understand what's happening to their bodies and brains.

Sometimes, it is hard for them to express their feelings. If you would like a printable game that can spark conversations, comment below with the word PRINT AND PLAY to receive a direct link to the download and blog.

Be sure to like and save this post for later! Remember, we are all learning in this parenting journey. Reach out for a session if you feel overwhelmed :)

IWT Roll and Respond GameDownload Why It’s Important to Play Games with Your Children Playing games with your children i...
16/10/2024

IWT Roll and Respond GameDownload Why It’s Important to Play Games with Your Children Playing games with your children is more than just a way to pass the time; it’s an opportunity to build strong connections, encourage learning, and foster a sense of emotional security. When parents engage in activities like board games or simple question-and-answer games, they open up a space for bonding and growth....

IWT Roll and Respond GameDownload Why It’s Important to Play Games with Your ChildrenPlaying games with your children is more than just a way to pass the time; it’s an opportunity to build strong c…

A Little Better Every Day – Teaching Children The Power of Continual ProgressAs a parent, I’ve come to understand how ea...
09/08/2024

A Little Better Every Day – Teaching Children The Power of Continual Progress

As a parent, I’ve come to understand how easy it is to spot where my daughters might be going wrong and how they could strive for perfection. However, aiming for perfection, where there’s no room for improvement, can be detrimental.

Real progress isn’t immediate; it takes time. What matters most is instilling the value of continual improvement over perfection.

As my daughters and I both evolve, I’ve realized the key principles to demonstrate and instill this life skill are:

1. It’s okay to feel afraid when embarking on something new. The fear of failure shouldn’t hinder us from trying new challenges, be it a sport, hobby, social interaction, or academic pursuit.

2. Prompt decision-making is crucial. Indecisiveness is a choice in itself. Making quick, thoughtful decisions based on personal resonance is more effective than overanalyzing and seeking multiple opinions.

3. Embrace the “fake it till you make it” mentality. Overcoming self-doubts and fears by embodying the persona of who you aspire to be can be transformative. For instance, practicing public speaking in front of a mirror or recording oneself can boost confidence. Eventually, this persona becomes a reality.

4. Adopt a performance-driven mindset by consistently taking small actions towards self-improvement. Whether in sports or academics, daily drills and practice enhance muscle memory and long-term learning. Biting more than we can chew often results in giving up.

5. Focus on what’s essential by identifying what you don’t want to become. Listing undesirable traits like laziness or dependency helps clarify goals and steer focus towards positive aspirations.

Our daily actions, decisions, and words not only impact our own growth but also influence those who look up to us for guidance. Though consistency may be challenging, trying is what matters. Remember, children learn more from observation than mere advice.

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