Sandra Lim - Growing Minds, Shaping Futures

“Positivity + Support = Maths Confidence.”

We are thankful to be featured in The Straits Times today, sharing our views on how children can better cope with PSLE Mathematics anxiety.

In the article, our founder Sandra Lim spoke about how Math should be taught in a lighter, more welcoming and structured way. Many students struggle not because they lack ability, but because they feel overwhelmed by multi-step questions, exam pressure and accumulated learning gaps.

When students are guided patiently, when learning is broken down into manageable steps, and when they experience small successes along the way, their confidence begins to grow.

Parents also play an important role. Instead of focusing only on results, supporting children emotionally through the learning process helps them stay resilient and willing to try.

At The Nuggets Academy, we remain committed to creating a safe and encouraging environment where students can build both competence and confidence in Math.

Thank you for trusting us to support your child’s learning journey ❤️

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/parenting-education/cracking-the-psle-maths-code-avoid-meltdowns-change-mindsets

Feeling very thankful to be featured in The Straits Times today.

PSLE Math can be very stressful for both children and parents. Over the years, I’ve met many students who quietly believe they are “not good at math.” But very often, what they really need is not more pressure. They need clearer structure, patient guidance and someone who believes they can improve.

When we shift from fear to support, something powerful happens. Children start trying again. They start thinking. And slowly, their confidence grows.

Math confidence is not about talent. It is about the journey we create for them.

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/parenting-education/cracking-the-psle-maths-code-avoid-meltdowns-change-mindsets

“I didn’t struggle with math. I struggled with self-belief.”

I was never bad at math.

But what I did battle with — quietly, constantly — was motivation, confidence, and the belief that I was good enough.

I was the student who didn’t ask questions. The one who second-guessed her answers even when they were correct. The one who did just enough to pass, never daring to imagine she could be more.

Now, as a mum and an educator, I look back and wonder — what if someone had taught me to believe in myself the way they taught me to solve for x?

What if I had been shown that my mindset mattered just as much as my method?

That’s why I built The Nuggets Academy — not just to teach math, but to nurture self-belief, one small win at a time. Our kids don’t just need formulas. They need to feel capable. They need to feel seen.

And it starts with how we teach — with heart, not just a highlighter.

“What if your child doesn’t hate math… what if they genuinely can’t make sense of numbers?”

Last year, I was featured in a media article about something very close to my heart — dyscalculia.

Most people haven’t even heard of it.

But I’ve met many students over the years whose math struggles were deeper than just “not trying hard enough.” Kids who couldn’t grasp simple number bonds, or who’d cry during every math lesson. And their parents? Usually frustrated, confused, and feeling helpless.

Here’s the thing:
Dyscalculia is real.
It’s a neurodevelopmental condition — often misunderstood, often missed.

It has nothing to do with laziness or low intelligence. In fact, many of these kids are incredibly bright — just not in the way our system measures.

In the article, I shared what to look out for, how to get proper support, and why early intervention matters so much. Because when we shift our lens from blame to understanding, we give these kids a real chance.

💛 If you suspect your child’s struggles with math go deeper, don’t ignore the signs.
The earlier we intervene, the earlier they heal, grow, and thrive.

You’re not alone. Let’s start there.

https://singaporemotherhood.com/maths-doesnt-add-up-child-dyscalculia/

When Maths Doesn’t Add Up – Could My Child Have Dyscalculia? - SingaporeMotherhood.com Is your child struggling with maths? It might be dyscalculia. Learn the signs, diagnosis tips, and strategies to help your child succeed.

The shift started with me.

This week, something clicked.
Kayla’s meltdowns — they’ve reduced.
She’s calmer. More expressive. More able to say, “I need space,” instead of collapsing into a puddle of emotions.

And honestly? It’s not because she changed.
It’s because I did.

Over the past few months, I’ve been learning how to be calmer. More aware. More in control of myself — especially in the moments that test me most.

I’ve learned to pause. To breathe. To hold space, not take up space.

I no longer jump into “fixing” or “disciplining.”
I sit with her. I listen. I support without overpowering.

And the shift in her?
It’s been nothing short of amazing.

We talk more now. She uses her words.
The intensity of the meltdowns is lower. The frequency too. And when she does break down, she bounces back faster.

This didn’t happen by chance.
It happened because I’ve been working on me.

I’ve been training as an executive function and competency coach.
And this is the clearest proof that emotional regulation begins with us, the adults.
Not our kids.

They don’t learn from what we say.
They learn from how we live.

And if this message reaches even one parent who needed this reminder today, here it is:

Start with you.
Because when we get better, they do too.

This morning, I cried.
Not the sniff-sniff, wipe-a-tear kind.
But the silent, aching, uncontrollable kind.

I was watching old baby videos of Kayla. Her tiny voice. Her wobble walk. Her unfiltered laughter. And suddenly, I felt this wave of emotions hit me like a tidal wave.

She’s growing up.
So fast.
And I don’t want to miss it.

Last night, she had a full-on meltdown.
It was movie night, her one TV session of the week. The rule is clear: dinner first, then show.
But she wanted the show first. And when she didn’t get her way, she crumbled.

Tears. Screaming. Flailing.

But here’s the part I’m quietly proud of.
I didn’t react.

I didn’t raise my voice. I didn’t get pulled into the chaos.
I stayed calm. I stayed close. I stayed present.

At one point, she was still crying and angry but she whispered through her sobs,
"Mummy… can you just sit next to me? But don’t touch me."

So I did.

She just needed me there. Not to fix. Not to scold. Just to hold space. To make her feel safe, even in the storm.

And this is me, learning.

I recently completed training to become a practitioner in executive function and competencies, and this moment reminded me why I did it.

Because emotional regulation is a skill. One that doesn’t come naturally. One that needs to be modelled, taught, and nurtured.

And it starts with us, the grown-ups.

Our children’s ability to thrive, to bounce back, to focus, to stay calm, to persevere. It all ties back to their executive function.

If we can guide them early, seed these skills gently but intentionally, we’re not just managing tantrums. We’re raising future-ready kids. Kids who know how to manage themselves.

So yes, I cried today.
Because the baby in those videos?
She’s growing. Fast.
And I want to grow with her.

“Mommy, why your belly so big?”

My daughter — just three years old at the time — said it like toddlers do. No filter. No malice. Just pure, innocent honesty.

I laughed on the outside. But inside, I flinched.

Six months ago, I was at my heaviest. I had crossed the 80kg mark. Just two years prior, before I started the academy, I was active. I had energy. I was cooking, working out, taking care of the house, showing up for my family — and myself.

But then came 2022. The birth of the business.

And with it, the slow fade-out of me.

I poured everything into building the centre — my time, my heart, my sanity. The weight crept on, the energy faded, my presence at home dulled. I stopped noticing how far I’d gone from the person I used to be… until that one sentence from my daughter brought it all crashing back.

“Mommy’s belly is so big.”

And she was right.

I was tired. Lethargic. Snapping easily. Absent, even when physically present. I’d hit a point where even drinking water felt like it would make me gain weight. My husband had been raising red flags for a while — gently urging me to slow down, to realign, to see what I was becoming.

So I finally did. I reached out for help — from a coach, a nutritionist, mentors. I had to learn how to reset. How to be okay with slowing down. I had to learn how to take care of myself again.

And that was hard — because I’ve always been someone with a moving goalpost. Always chasing the next thing.

But I’ve since lost over 10kg. I feel better. I look better. I’m lighter — in every sense of the word. I can wear clothes I haven’t touched in years. My daughter doesn’t mention my belly anymore. And more importantly, I’m present again.

Change doesn’t happen by accident. It was a very deliberate decision. One I made not just for me — but for her. For my family. For my team. For everyone who relies on me.

Because what is success, really, if we’re burnt out, unhealthy, and miserable behind the scenes?

So if you’re reading this and you feel like you’ve been lost in the hustle — this is your reminder to pause.

You don’t have to run yourself to the ground to prove your worth.
You’re already worth it.

Let’s choose wellness. Let’s choose presence. Let’s choose us.

They say a child’s laughter is the purest sound—a melody of innocence, trust, and boundless joy. A child looks to their parents for love, protection, and comfort, believing that home is the safest place on earth.

But sometimes, that trust is betrayed in ways too cruel to comprehend.

As I reflect on the heartbreaking story of Megan, I look at my own three-year-old and feel an ache deep in my heart. My child, safe in my arms, surrounded by warmth and love—the way it should be for every child. And yet, Megan had none of that. Instead, she endured pain, fear, and suffering at the hands of the very people who were supposed to cherish and protect her.

Megan was not just neglected; she was tormented. She was beaten, humiliated, starved, and locked away as if she were nothing more than an inconvenience. And when her tiny body could take no more, when she collapsed from the final, fatal blow, there was no rush to save her. No desperate attempt to get her the help she needed. Instead, there were efforts to cover up the horror, to erase the evidence of her existence—as if her life had meant nothing.

But Megan’s life did matter. Every child’s life matters. And the question that lingers is: How did this happen? In a society with so many resources, so much awareness, and so many eyes that might have seen something—how did Megan’s suffering go unnoticed for so long?

It is not enough to grieve after the fact. It is not enough to be horrified only when the full weight of the tragedy is laid bare before us. We must be vigilant. We must be unafraid to speak up when something feels wrong. We must be the voice for those too small and too powerless to defend themselves.

If there is any lesson in this, it is that justice must be firm. It must send an unyielding message that such cruelty will not be tolerated. But beyond that, we must recognize our collective responsibility. If we suspect a child is in danger, we cannot turn away. Intervention can mean the difference between life and death.

And to every parent, guardian, and caregiver—let us hold our children close. Let us remind them, in both words and actions, that they are safe, they are loved, and they are cherished. Because that is what every child deserves.

May Megan rest in peace. And may we never allow another child to endure what she did.

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