Life on your terms

What seems impossible to you today!?🤔
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Can you think of something in the past that seemed impossible and you have done it anyway!? 💯💥 😃

What success looks like 💪 vs what people see 👀

What can stop you from having the life that you want?

Many people go through life so busy managing life circumstances that they forget or delay creating the life they want. Like they are going to live forever!

They may work in a job that they either hate or tolerate. They may have some fun but not too much because they don’t have enough time or money or don’t believe that it’s available to them.
Have little victories here and there, sometimes go to an amazing destination, and dream about the next vacation for the rest of the year.

They may have a great idea but never really go for it.

Is this really how life is meant to be? 🤔

Some of the hidden challenges that can stop you from achieving your goals are:

❎ Not having a strong WHY or enough reasons.
✅ Having a ‘strong why’ gives yourself enough reasons to do what you need to do to achieve your goals. If it's high in your value, you will pursue the painful challenges. If it's not, there is a risk of giving up when it becomes uncomfortable.

❎ Relationships - many people are afraid that they won't have time and energy for the people who matter in their life or for themselves if they pursue their goals.
✅ Ask yourself: if I'm going to double my business (goal), how is it going to help my relationships, my partner, kids, parents, myself?

❎ Conflict with values (of other people) - you may have a conflict with other people’s values.
✅ Focus on your own values and ensure that you are pursuing your own goals rather than what's expected from you.

❎ Unexpected challenges and obstacles.
✅ Anticipate challenges and solve them in advance or develop a strategy.

❎ Priorities
✅ Prioritize your daily actions - every single day ask yourself: What is the highest priority action to help me fulfill my mission that I can do now?

🌟 Make sure that there are small actions that you can do each day.

I recently heard a story that really made me think about how aware we are and how easily the things in our life become ‘’normal’’.

Here is the story.

🧚A girl asked her mother why was she only baked pies in a square baking tray.

👩‍🦰The mother said: ‘’Because that’s the way to do it.’’

Girl: ‘’But why only square? Can’t it be an oval or round tray?”

Mother: ‘’I don’t know why. That’s what I learned from my mother.”

🧑‍🦳The girl went to the grandma and asked why she taught her daughter to bake a pie in a square baking tray. The grandmother said: ‘’Because that’s the way to do it.’’

Girl: “Why? Is there a special reason?”

Grandmother: ’’I don’t know why. My mother only used the square baking tray.”

🧓The girl went to the great-grandmother asking the same question and the great-grandmother said that she only had the square baking tray and so she used it.

How interesting it is that we accept an illusion of someone else’s belief as the only option and never question it.

Do you ever question your beliefs and about how much you think that they are true? What do you believe about money, career, what life you can have, and what’s possible for you?

What stories did you hear from your parents, authorities, teachers, bosses, media, friends, and then accepted the stories and they became your truth? What is really yours?

We regularly maintain and update our computer system. What about our belief system? It needs regular update and maintenance, too.

👉 Consciously decide what you want to keep and to let go of what doesn’t serve you.

In coaching, there are many tools to help this process.

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It's February. Still the beginning of the year. It's a good time to check where you are with your intention for the year and your life.

How is it going with you so far?

Are you taking priority actions and what's important to YOU or getting distracted with low-priority multitasking?

Do you have YOUR map to keep your focus? 🗺️

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"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."

-Steve Jobs

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In this time of information abundance, we often forget to find our own space to listen to our inner wise voice and focus on what really matters to us. We get distracted and confuse other people’s expectations with our own needs. 🗣️👥

When people feel insecure, doubt themselves, afraid to look stupid, they tend to fake being someone they are not in order to be accepted.🥸

If you suppress your feelings and who you really are constantly trying to "fit in" 🪆you are hurting yourself. It is tiring and moves you further away from your authenticity.

 

👉I remind my clients (sometimes even myself) to connect with themselves, tune into and trust their inner authentic voice regardless of what society, the media, or institutions say.

👉Everything you need is within yourself.

👉No one else can tell you what is best for you. You already know!

👉I want to encourage you to tap into your own authentic world, find your unique gifts, and explore what happiness and living life on your terms mean to YOU.

From that place you will access your clarity in decision-making and have more space for creative solutions and intuition. Free and independent on other people's opinion and not relay on others for direction and information.

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Getting prepared for a career change

Do you plan to change your career in 2022 or in the future?

Many people stay in their career because this is what they went to university for and they feel like they have to stay in the same field even if they are not passionate and happy anymore. Many changes can occur from when we chose the field of study as we get older.

We may change our interest or the market and the world is changing, just like what we are currently experiencing with the pandemic.

Do you find yourself unsatisfied in your career and show up just because you feel stuck? Well, change is possible.

If this sounds like you, keep reading the steps below that helped me to prepare myself for change:

1. Get clear on your WHY. – Why a new career will make your life better?
Evaluate your current job what you like and dislike. It will become clear whether you need some readjustment at your current role, a new job or a new career.

It’s critical at this stage not to get stuck on HOW you are going to do it. This can block you, because the current version of yourself can’t know what will happen in the future and what skill sets and information you will need. If you think too much about how you will make a transition, you will get caught up in many details that will suddenly become big and scary. This can lead to making decisions from fear, which most of the time will hold you back. By taking actions and next steps you will acquire skills and build new muscles for new solutions.

So, having a strong WHY will help you to focus on the desired direction.

2. Prepare financially 💰

A career change can take time. Make sure that you have bill-paying power for a year or more. Take into consideration the cost of additional courses that you may need.

3. Take a closer look at your passions and natural talents 🧐

I spent some time really thinking of my passions, what I love doing, and what difference I’d like to make. This is very different than when I was choosing what to study at university.
At this stage, you don’t even need to have a career in mind but get prepared mentally and explore broadening your skills.
Do not try to change overnight.
I remember that I was saying to my coach that I didn’t know what ‘it’ is, I just knew that there had to be another way to give much more and I was open to explore and to find out what ‘it’ is.
Spend some time doing your hobbies. Take some courses like painting, sewing, pottery or volunteer. I found it a very important step to experience what I enjoy doing. It gave me an idea about how I would like to feel doing my daily job. This can be a big mind shift from ‘I have to do it’ - to – ‘I want to do it’.
The last thing you want while making all the efforts to change your career is to end up doing something that you dislike.
Knowing your core needs, values, skills, and beliefs is crucial. There are many coaching tools to help you discover it.

4. Make a decision (if you don’t already know) 👍

Choosing what to do next is not always easy. When the time comes to narrow it down, combine what you have found out about yourself from your internal work and the market.

5. Do research and take actions 👩‍💻

Do a study on a career you have thought about. Explore what skills you already have and what skills you will need to develop. You may need additional education, courses or training.
Connect with someone from your personal or professional network who is already in the profession you want to pursue. They may give you valuable information to get started.
Study successful people in the field and model them.

6. Make a plan 📋

This includes the time, finance, resources, education (if needed), and practice. If you still have a full-time job you may want to take an evening course, wake up earlier to study or use weekends and vacation days to study. I was so curious and excited about the course that I was taking during my transition period that I didn’t mind using my holidays to attend seminars and trainings.

7. Own who you want to be in the future and get an accountability buddy 👩‍⚖️

Get a vision of who and where you want to be in 5, 10, 15, 20, 25 years. What people would you like to be surrounded with, if you turn back what would you be proud of, how would you feel?

A coach will guide you through steps to discover your authentic talents and develop strategies for transformation.

Often what you think is wrong with you is exactly what you need to do – it’s your authentic calling. What gives you energy and you can’t explain it, is the voice to follow. If you don't listen to it, at a certain point it will start screaming.

A coach is not going to tell you what to do. No one else knows better than you what your passion is. However, asking the right questions can help you through all the steps above. That way, you will make a quicker transition. It will help you to adopt the right mindset to own who you want to be, turn your fears into actions, and go smoothly through the challenging times.

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It’s much more than the first-time skydive experience I had on 1 January 2022 though!

I have learned a lot about myself over the years and it was a chance to reflect on where I am with my focus, fears and mindset in general.

I want to share some of my takeaways:

👉 If something feels right to do and it’s big and scary, do not think much and let the fear stop you. Prepare and just do it!

Prepare, get information and everything you need. Think of what can get wrong in advance and if you could do something to prevent it or develop a strategy. When the time to do it comes, just focus on your intention. 

✨Remember ‘’Energy Flows Where Attention Goes!’’ It’s a matter of choice!

I decided to focus on the experience and joy rather than fear and what could go wrong.

👉 Set your intention and focus on it. My intention was to be fully present and absorb every moment as much as possible.

👉Trust the process. Do everything that is in your ability and trust the process.

My life was in the hands of the tandem instructor I met just one hour before the jump. I could only follow the instructions and trust that he would land me safely.

The moment of sitting on the edge of the plane’s door… 1️⃣,2️⃣,3️⃣…just do it and trust!

I’d like to thank Billy Payn at Skydive Algarve for the safe and amazing experience.

👉Dealing with uncertainty is a big challenge for me and again: ‘’Energy Flows Where Attention Goes!’’

Life itself is uncertain, as soon as you get more comfortable with uncertainty and the unknown, the quality of your life will improve.

👉How you do one thing, you do everything. I want to bring this experience with me and use it when I need it in the future. When I think that I can’t do something or it’s too big and scary for me, I need to remember that I jumped off a plane from 4600 m (15000 ft)🛩️

Expanding my comfort zone, growing and doing it with ease is my intention for 2022🌟

Last but not least, what I like the most about this experience and what surprised me is that I did it effortlessly. This tells me that I really own the above-mentioned steps. This is my greatest learning and breakthrough.

What a great start of the year! 🤩

We are in the end of 2021 and we still have some time to play and create 🪄

Imagine that it’s the end of 2022 and it was your best year. You feel fulfilled, happy, confident, grateful, joyful, peaceful, and fully yourself.

Write down three to five things that would have had to happen to have this great year.

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Do you see other people being successful, and having skills or talents that you think you don’t have?

We tend to focus on other people so much that we forget our own qualities and resources.

I want to give you a short and straightforward exercise that can help you become aware of what you already have.

Please write down the answer to these questions:

1. Imagine a person you admire standing in front of you? It can be someone you know or a famous person.

2. What kind of person is she/he?

3. What do you like about her/him?

4. What is so special about this person? What is this person good at?

What you see in others you already have in yourself.

In NLP they say: If you spot it you got it!

Where are you in your professional and personal journey now?  Are you on a bumpy road?

I have definitely been there. Bumpy roads often lead to beautiful destinations! 🏞️

After several attempts to fit into the conventional box, years working in science & research and then in sales & business development, it felt I was moving further away from my real passion. 

Don’t get me wrong, both gave me valuable knowledge and experience. However, my personal combination of values and skills didn’t allow me to fit into that conventional box. I knew there had to be another way that I could give much more and use my time on this planet better. 🌏

I believe nothing comes to our life without a reason. A book, the people we meet, even a single question or quote can shift our life. 

Picasso’s words come to mind: “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”

A friend reminded me that I love to contribute, support, and give. I see the best in people. I want to be a part of their journey to find a meaningful life and limit the pain and suffering. I want to remind people of what they already know but often forget— everything you need is within yourself. ❤️

The idea of coaching and working with people just felt natural to me.😊

I remind my clients to connect with themselves, tune into and trust their inner authentic voice regardless of what society, the media, or institutions say. Everything you need is within yourself. No one else can tell you what is best for you. You already know!

 
What do you enjoy doing the most? Do you remember what you loved doing as a kid?

Is there any small step that you could do this week to get closer to your purpose?

Being courageous doesn’t mean that you don’t have fears. Fears will show up in different forms, the question is are they going to block you or are they going to be your fuel?

Call your fears in! Make your fears your fuel. It’s your compass that is pointing you in the direction of your truest desire.

People who are living life of the fullest joy, purpose, fulfilment are people who lean towards their fears.

Who would you be if you knew how to use your fears and took actions towards your desired life?

Do you believe that you can create your life in a way you want, not just manage the circumstances and fears?

Let’s talk! I’d love to discover what opens up for you as a result. 🌼