27/03/2026
Parenting Series:
Love is not about fulfilling every desire of a child,
true love is understanding every desire.
Don’t give your child everything,
but always give them the feeling that they matter.
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Explained with Three Daily Practical Examples:
1️⃣ Asking for toys or unnecessary items:
When a child sees something in the market and insists on getting it immediately,
they are not just asking for the item,
but expressing their liking and desire.
If parents fulfill every request instantly,
the child learns that every desire must be satisfied right away,
and when it doesn’t happen,
they begin to show stubbornness, crying, or anger.
On the other hand, if they are always strictly refused or ignored,
the child feels inside: “My feelings don’t matter.”
The right approach is to acknowledge their desire, for example:
“This is really nice, you like it—we’ll get it on a special occasion.”
In this way, the child feels heard
and learns patience, waiting, and valuing things.
📌 Key Learning:
The child understands that not everything is immediate,
but their desire still matters.
2️⃣ Desire to watch mobile or cartoons:
When a child repeatedly asks for a phone or cartoons,
parents usually respond in two ways:
either they give it immediately to keep the child quiet,
or they strictly refuse.
Both approaches have drawbacks.
If always given,
the child becomes dependent and loses self-control.
If always refused,
they may start watching secretly or lying.
The better way is to first acknowledge the desire:
“You like watching cartoons, that’s okay.”
Then set clear limits:
“But we will watch only for a limited time each day.”
With consistency,
the child gradually learns to stop on their own.
📌 Key Learning:
The child learns to control desires,
not become controlled by them.
3️⃣ Insisting on going out or playing with friends:
When a child insists on going out or playing,
if parents always allow it,
the child never learns boundaries.
If always refused,
the child may start lying or sneaking out.
The right approach is to understand the desire
and decide according to the situation.
For example:
“You want to go play, that’s good,
but you can go for one hour and must return on time.”
In this way,
the child learns that freedom comes with responsibility.
📌 Key Learning:
The child understands that every desire has limits and rules in life.
