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AITA for refusing to give back the laptop my mother gave me to punish younger sister?

I (23f) am starting grad school this year. My laptop recently broke and I couldn't afford a good one, my mother said my little sister (16f) has been "acting up" recently and not listening and she'd like to give me her laptop since "she's been horrible lately."

Now my mother tends to spoil her so it is her fault my sister turned out this way (ofcourse she'll hear none of it), she has a bad habit of not following through on punishments and "canceling" them when my sister pitches enough of a fit.

I asked my mom "are you absolutely sure you aren't going to call me later and ask for it back when she pitches a fit? Because if I'm gifted this I'm not giving it back unless you buy me one of equal or greater value." She said "yes I'm sure I've had enough of her antics" so I went over and picked up the laptop when sister wasn't home and that was that or so I thought.

It only took about a day before my mother called me begging for the laptop back because my sister has become unbearable and I said "are you going to buy me one of equal or greater value?" And she just kept begging for me to bring it back she couldn't stand it anymore, I told her no she never follows through on disciplining sister and its her fault the way she turned out its about time she followed through on a consequence and I'm not giving it back we had this discussion, and it's her...

AITA for laughing at my friend for becoming a single mother?

Disclaimer: My mom was a single mother for most of my life and I in no way am implying there is something wrong with or shameful about being a single mother.

I have this “friend” Olivia. We aren’t really close, but we belong to the same large social circle (so we have a lot of mutual friends). We were having a zoom “party” when she announced she was pregnant with her boyfriend of one year. No one in our friendship group has met this boyfriend but we all gave her our congratulations and told her we’d love to meet the father when lockdown ends. Olivia got a really coy smile on her face and told us we all knew him already, but she would officially introduce us when the pandemic was over.

A few days later a smaller group of us were chatting and my friend “Emma” mentioned that another couple (Tom and Sarah) in our group were most likely going to get a divorce soon. This small group consisted of all of my personally close friends (which would normally include Sarah). Emma told us, with Sarah’s permission, it turned out Tom was Olivia’s baby’s dad and when she made that comment during the zoom call it confirmed Sarah’s suspicion and she snooped and found evidence. According to Emma, Olivia intentionally got pregnant (poked holes in the condom) and only announced it when she was no longer eligible for an a__rtion to force Tom to leave Sarah for her. Tom has told Sarah that he has no plans to be a dad to the baby no...

AITA For Protecting My Space, Refusing a Prolonged Family Stay After a Birth?

Using a throwaway account. My brother and his wife are expecting their first child this summer. My sister-in-law is from a different country and her first trimester was not easy and I know that she misses her family a lot. Her parents are planning to stay with them for a year when the baby is born (with a quick trip home in between so they don’t overstay their visa). She was thrilled that they could do this.

She recently asked if her sister and her sister’s family (husband and two children under the age of 6) could also come out with her parents and stay with me because they won’t all fit at their house. But she wants them to stay for 6 months. I asked if maybe they could do 2-3 weeks or even a month but she wasn’t happy about that at all because she really wants her sister to be here to help too.

AITA for thinking that this is unreasonable and feeling imposed upon? Her family would not be able to drive and I live 30 minutes away from my brother and I work so I wouldn’t be able to drive them to see her every day and I don’t think my brother will have time to pick them up every day.

Technically I have the space. But I like my quiet time and having four people that I’ve never met stay with me for six months feels overwhelming. They don’t speak English so it would also be a little awkward in the beginning, I think. The plan is to homeschool...

AITA for telling my husband’s mother I don’t want her best friend and her children visiting my home?

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My husband and I are both 29. We just bought out first home in June.

We had a few cookouts over the summer and it was amazing. There are only 2 other homeowners in our family and they do their own thing which is fine but we’re happy to be able to host family stuff. My MiL asked if she could use our house to host a cookout for her and her friends and she said that we could obviously invite people too, it’s just that she would be the one hosting and buying most of the stuff.

Obviously, we said she could. Who would say no to that?

My husband—her son—and I, said she could use the house but we don’t want her best friend or her best friend’s kids coming to the cookout.

If I’m being honest, her best friend’s youngest daughters and youngest sons are just fine, it’s the best friend herself and her oldest daughter we have an issue with.

The oldest daughter is creepy. Her and my husband are god siblings. When they were both in 8th grade, she tried to sit on his lap while he was sleeping. When he and I were dating—we were both 19—she tried to kiss him. She was sober, he was drunk. Over the years, she’s viewed our social media stories without being friends with us/following us. The final straw was her sending him a n**e photo a couple years ago.

We have her blocked on everything. Every time she’s done something,...

AITA for telling my mom she doesn't get to choose someone else's kids over her own and then get the perks when they adult up?

My mom had me and my two brothers when our dad died. She ended up with this guy Mark, who she later married. He had two kids and pretty much from the time they got engaged Mark's kids were put before us. My mom always said they had no mom and needed her. But she seemed to forget we had no dad and then kinda no mom because she was always so busy with them. She told my older brother at one point that the kids needed to know she loved and wanted them as her kids. He asked what about us and she said we knew she loved us.

The final straw for the three of us was our dad's anniversary when our mom chose the last year we were all at home to take one of the kids to get a video game he wanted instead of showing up with us. Because of course she made a whole day out of it with him.

We're all adults now and I have kids, so does my older brother and now our mom is going mad to be grandma. But we're keeping her out of our lives. I told her she doesn't get to choose someone else's kids and then get all the perks now that we're parents ourselves. She was pi**ed.

AITA?

AITA for having movie nights with my sons and not me ex’s daughter?

I am a 38 year old single mom to 2 wonderful boy, Reggie my 11 year old and Theo my 4 year old. Last year I found out that my now ex husband cheated on me, which had been going on for 6 years.

They have a 4 year old daughter, which I will call Eva because I have no right to use her real name. Neither I or my sons have interacted with her until recently when I took my sons to the park.

Theo and Reggie were on the swings when my ex husband approached them with his daughter holding his hand. Reggie ignored them and kept pushing Theo. My ex husband stopped the swing and said “Reggie, you and Theo had a turn let my little princess have a turn,”

Of course Reggie left with Theo and they sat together on a bench. I assume they were talking about movie night which is every Friday. Theo picked the incredibles and they both agreed on it. My ex husband’s daughter overheard and told him.

He approached me and asked me if I was willing to let his daughter stay with me and my sons for some sibling bonding. I looked at Reggie then back at him and told him no. He yelled at me saying that she’s their sister and she should bond with them.

Reggie clearly didn’t want to bond with her and to Theo she is a stranger who he never heard about till now. I explained to my ex why they didn’t want to bond with her, I...

AITA For taking my girlfriend's sister's son to the Police station?

I (M28) have been with my girlfriend for over 10 months. She recently moved in with me in my apartment. Her sister would ask her to watch her 1 year old son while she takes care of her husband who's been in the hospital for 2 weeks.

I only know where my girlfriend's parents live. never visited her sister's house. Last week My girlfriend was working out of town for 4 days. In the early morning her sister came over with her son asking if my girlfriend came back to watch her son temporarily.

I told her my girlfriend was still out of town. She insisted I watch the baby for few hours. I told her I can't and I had work to go to (I work at the local hospital). She walked out completely ignoring me saying it won't take long. I waited for an hour I was late for work I called my girlfriend's sister telling her to come pick her son up cause I had work.

I asked for their address cause I wanted to take him back to their house but she refused. I wanted to take him to my girlfriend's parents house she yelled at me saying she'll deal with me if I take her son there. I felt helpless didn't know what to to do.

I just took her son off to the local police station after she turned her phone off. I provided them with information to be able to reach my girlfriend's sister. later I found out that my girlfriend's sister was brought to the police...

AITAH for "getting his hopes up" and then telling him i had an a__rtion and serving divorce papers?

I've hit my breaking point. i hit it a while ago but i totally snapped. i have a surgery that will make my entire life so much easier.

its needed but not an emergency so i've been on the wait list for a couple months and probably still will be until march. Anyway my soon to be ex-husband has known about this surgery since like the first couple weeks of THIS year. i begged him to get snipped, my body cant handle birth control anymore and he refuses to wear condoms so that was the compromise and he just never did it.

well 2 months ago my already psychotic period was late and i was pi**ed. pregnancy test was positive. it was the first time we had had s__ in months but my husband was for sure he never 'finished' that night and i must have been cheating on him.

he went into this huge pi**ed off rage and wanted paternity tests for all our kids and i better call their 'real dads' to come take care of them. he said this to our kids faces. we left.

i went to my dr and asked for her to do a blood test to see the paternity of the baby and then to give me a__rtion pills because i couldn't do this again. i almost died during my last birth. after i took the pills and confirmed i wasn't pregnant anymore i filed for divorce and when all the paternity tests came back that he is in fact their dad, he started being so sweet...

AITA for asking to bathe my newborn niece and doing this?

I (27F) will be a mother in 3 months, my wife is pregnant with our first child.

My sister Lily had my niece 20 days ago.

I'm a little terrified of motherhood, I want to be a mother to be clear, but the idea of ​​a small human being dependent on me and so fragile... my heart panics, I guess?

My biggest fear is bathing a newborn, not knowing how to properly hold it even more because of neck. Yes, I took classes, read books, watched videos, but I don't have any practice with newborn babies and in practice it can be different.

I've had this in my head for a few days now and I thought maybe In could ask my sister if I could give my niece a bath to see how it goes and to my surprise, she agreed (I made it very clear that she could refuse if she found this request very strange, but she thought my attempt to learn was cute).

On Monday, I gave her a bath, Lily stayed by my side guiding and nothing happened (we took photos *and I loved this moment) and my niece loved it.

I was at her house when my BIL arrived and my sister excitedly told him that I had bathed Lily for the first time and he looked annoyed.

He asked why she didn't tell him, why I bathed her and if Lily didn't think it was weird that I bathed.

My mother and Lily's MIL** already bathed her and I thought it was weird,...

AITAH for backing out at the “last minute” because I didn’t want to sleep on an air mattress?

I (27F) and three friends made a last minute plan to go to the mountains this weekend. Our group is a couple, let's call them Jay (27F) and Sam (32F) and two single friends, me and Alex (26M). We actually found a good Airbnb at first.

It had two bedrooms, one with a king bed, and one with two single beds. Alex and I were totally fine sharing the second room as long as we had our own bed. But Jay kept saying that she wanted a pool.

This is a short, two day trip and we're staying just one night. I really didn't see why a pool was a big deal. We kept going back and forth trying to decide and the place got booked by someone else.

After that, the only places we could find had just one bedroom, a pull out couch, and an air mattress. Alex is recovering from an injury, so of course he shouldn't be on the air mattress. The couple immediately said they wanted the bedroom, but they're not offering to pay more for it.

That leaves me with the air mattress. Jay and Sam both don't have a driver's license, and Alex can't drive right now because of his injury. So I'm the only one who can drive us there and back.

On top of that, I'm also the only one who has to work on Monday. I really don't want to be the one driving for hours, sleeping on an air mattress, and then dragging myself to work the next day all tired and...