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The Coach for Men If your journey through life isn't turning out the way you planned it... you are in the right place. I am a certified No More Mr Nice Guy Coach.

I Help Nice Guys With Relationship Issues To Find Themselves And Create Better Lives.

How are Nice Guys made? Clue – It Started Way Back In Your First Years Of LifeAs psychologists started to unravel the Ni...
28/07/2022

How are Nice Guys made? Clue – It Started Way Back In Your First Years Of Life

As psychologists started to unravel the Nice Guy syndrome more thought and research went into how Nice Guys are made. As you probably guess it all started back when you were a tiny baby…

When we are born into this world it is said we have 360 degrees of innocence. We don’t know or haven’t experienced anything. We are narcissistic in a way, we think the whole world revolves around us and that anything good or bad is a result of what we do.

We are developing our experiences and as we do so, an important part of the brain, the amygdala has started to record our life experiences. This part of the brain runs some pretty important stuff like our heartbeat and breathing, it keeps us running and is ultra-fast. It is also responsible for our fight, flight freeze response and, where this is really going, it stores our early emotional memories.

Now if we are lucky, we had some great parents. They were attentive to our needs, they looked after themselves, they were mature and differentiated adults and were basically there for us. In this place, we started recording messages of I’m lovable, valuable, safe – this all bodes well for us later in life. But, if our parents didn’t offer healthy parenting, they were enmeshed, not available, immature, not looking after our needs and didn’t protect us, then it was a different story. Things like I’m not good enough, not safe, my needs aren’t important come up.

In this world, we started to create a state of toxic shame. There must be something wrong with me. I am unlovable and must become what others want me to be in order to be loved. Also, I need to hide my flaws or I will be rejected. Defensive walls started to be built and we hid or became passive-aggressive.

As adults Dr Glover in his No More Mr Nice Guy book explains we live our adult life seeking approval, avoiding conflict, hiding our needs and wants. We also sign up with covert contracts, hiding our sexuality and seeking validation from women among other things.

If any of this is sounding familiar then book a free strategy session with me. I’m a recovering nice guy and will be your guide on the road to becoming a more integrated male.

Hey man. If your friends looked at your life, would they assume you have it all sorted out? Great job, nice cars, a beau...
28/07/2022

Hey man. If your friends looked at your life, would they assume you have it all sorted out? Great job, nice cars, a beautiful wife and kids, the occasional holiday, all the surface-level trappings of success. But on the inside, you feel like you might implode in a catastrophic way at any moment that might be messy for everyone around. You feel like an imposter most of the time. Faking it in your job, at home, and with your friends. You are angry that you can’t see a way out, sad that life has turned out this way and resentful of the people around you. You dull the pain by drinking too much, maybe smoking dope, working long hours, watching p**n or cruising social media. Anything to distract yourself from the pain you are feeling right now.

I know that place. It can be pretty dark, like wading around in a muddy swamp with no dry land in sight.

I work with men who are ready to create better lives for themselves. Men who are willing to take a look at the behaviours that might be holding them back. Men who have had enough and want to get out of the swamp. Men who want to bring passion back into their lives, their relationships, and their jobs. Men wanting to pe*****te the world with their healthy masculine energy and be the potency that might have once been there, but life happened, and it’s been gone for as long as they remember.

I have helped 100’s of men wake up and find their essence and become better partners, dads, sons, colleagues, friends and leaders.
If your pain is real and you are ready to make a significant shift in your life, reach out to me. Let’s see if we gel and together we can create a life that you are excited about, that has joy, adventure and satisfaction. That you are proud of.

You could decide to do nothing. You will probably get that back in return or worse. Or you could risk your ego and reach out to me. I won’t judge you, I believe you have all the answers already. You just need someone to help you find and use them again. Let’s talk.

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