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Something to keep in mind with Valentine's Day approaching…

How many times have you felt heartbroken, defeated, and just plain hurt when your partner didn’t show up how you wanted them to. How you deserve them too.

When choosing a partner, don’t tell them how to act, or be. Don’t get mad at them for the things they said or didn’t say. Don’t give ultimatums or test them. Don’t play games.

The only way you are going to truly know if someone is a good fit for you is by letting them show you who they are through their actions. If their actions don’t align with the type of love you want, move on, don't try to force them to become who you want them to be.

Take stock. What does your ideal partner even look like and how do they complement the type of person you are? What are your values and do they align with your partners? Don’t sacrifice your needs/wants but also ask yourself why they are important to you.

🌟They don’t compliment you on your appearance? Validate yourself. Can you name a time in your past when a love interest did compliment you? Did it make the partnership better or was it just nice at that moment?
🌟Takes ages to text you back? This everything needs to be instant age is a killer to romance. Try cutting back the texting so that when you come together, you have more to talk about - don’t forget the age-old saying- absence makes the heart grow fonder.
🌟Didn’t get you anything for Valentine's Day? Effort should be made every day, not one day that is solely to just fuel capitalism - and romance should be a 100/100 effort. Don’t let ego take over.

Remember, you deserve someone who steps up and puts in as much effort and energy as you so freely give. Take care of your own needs first, you can’t love from an empty bucket. If you aren’t feeling the love from your partner, are you noticing their love language, and are they speaking yours? Quality Time - Words of Affirmation - Physical Touch - Gifts - Acts of Service [Gary Chapman]

We attract partners’ on the same level of love that we give to ourselves. If we constantly feel rejected, unwanted, and not good enough or worthy of love then the partners we bring into our lives will confirm our insecurities. Don’t fall in love with the version of them you have created in your mind. The concept of love throws people off - society and those rom coms dictate how love should look when really, love is accepting people (and yourself) for who they are. Not trying to fix, no expectations, not trying to make them fit into your ideal - just acceptance, understanding, and gratitude.

I’ve been trying to avoid this topic and staying off social media because I just find the divide so painful and heart-breaking. But now, the divide is affecting my happy place - retail, a once therapeutic and enjoyable experience, now stained with hostile energies, communities being divided and the sense that this change we are experiencing is to the detriment to humanity.

It doesn’t have to be.

I’ve avoided this issue because I try to remain respectful of people’s belief systems whether I agree or not with how some might perceive the world.

However, after seeing people’s fears cause lapses in their judgment and forgetting that we are all connected, I can no longer keep my thoughts silent.

Freedom doesn’t come from external sources, freedom comes from within - what we choose to think, how we choose to view the world and what is happening in it, how we show up in the world, and the way we treat others.

The battle that's going on right now isn’t about freedom - it's about control.

We are in unknown territory - every single one of us and we’re directing this fear into anger, but all this does is divide us all giving more power and control to the ones we are fighting. Divide and conquer. I’m not fighting this one simply because I know that there will be bigger battles coming our way - so don’t drain your resources just yet.

There’s wisdom in the saying “pick your battles” It is important now more than ever before that we all unite, rise together as warriors with swords of light and hearts full of unconditional love for all of mankind.

We are not different or separated, at the core we are all just trying to survive - but the only real threat to this is being divided. It’s what those powers who deem to be in control have been doing all throughout history.

The only way to get through this is by raising the vibration of the planet to ascension through the ultimate power of all - unconditional love.

This means healing the power struggles you have been battling with your whole life because this is what you are really fighting with. So, instead of behaving like spoilt children having tantrums because we’re not getting our own way and justifying our actions by ‘blaming’ everyone around else for making us feel bad - stop.

Stop taking it out on each other and find a way to rise up and unite.
Stop being a zombie to your ego and 3D consciousness.
Stop thinking that your tyrannical rants and attacks on each other are actually achieving anything.

Yes, I am vaccinated for health reasons but also because I understand the importance of not overrunning the health care system. If you're not vaccinated - cool for you too, we can still hang out, but if your reasons are 'because the government is trying to take away my freedom' then I ask you - what does freedom actually mean to you? Because if it is about choice, that's about control and that's a whole personal issue you gotta heal from.

I’d always wanted a slow romance, something soft and gentle, yet I’d never let love unfold slowly before so I didn’t know how to do it. I had told the universe I wanted to be friends with someone first, & build something from there. But when that came along, I rushed it because my fears were exasperated by believing I needed to be at X stage & he needed to be doing Y.

Unfortunately we live in a time where love is measured by how quickly he texts back, what he does on the first date, what it means if he kisses you or not.

My advice, if you meet someone you like don’t talk about it. Keep it to yourself while you are still getting to know each other. This way you can heal in silence when old war wounds resurface & not take on your friends/family’s baggage as well.

Don't repeat the emotions of the past by allowing those old feelings of rejection & abandonment consume you because it is not happening at the speed you want.

Don’t text so much straight away. We live in this instant culture, we feel obliged to message back within a certain amount of time, as well as thinking of something interesting to say - you don’t need to add that stress. Instant access is rooted in attachment, & attachment is based in fear - the killer of love.

I am an all in or nothing type of person. So when I dated someone who was slow to warm, I took it as he didn't like me.

I could already see our whole future after the first date. People asking if we had kissed afterwards, triggered an insecurity that because I had not gotten this first kiss, I had been rejected. So, come the second date, I made sure I got it. It was magical & I was already falling in love. But then friends turned it to "I hope he has text you today" & so that feeling of rejection resurfaced & the magic faded. Needless to say it didn't work out & as sad as I was, I felt happy because despite all the heartache I’d been through, I felt something again & I had put myself out there.

I found my innocence in love again. I returned to that young girl who had so much love to give, but she gave it to the wrong people when she should have been giving it to herself and ended up believing she was not worthy of love and became too scared to give it.

Don't settle, don't rush, don't talk about it - just be. Come back to you, the you you were before life happened. What is meant for you, will not pass you by.

TOXIC MASCULINITY - I’d heard the saying before yet all I really knew about it was if it was mentioned in front of some men, they would get angry and defensive. When I finally did some research into what toxic masculinity really meant, my dating life and my childhood finally made sense. I grew up in a small town rife with it.
Toxic masculinity (T.M) affects small towns to such a degree that is very common for farmers to take their own lives. If we look at the statistics - Men are 3 to 4 times more likely to die by su***de, and rural su***des surpass urban su***des.

SO WHAT IS TOXIC MASCULINITY? Healthline describes common toxic masculine traits as:
☆ mental and physical toughness
☆ aggression
☆ stoicism, or not displaying emotion
☆ heterosexism, or discrimination against people who aren’t heterosexual
☆ self-sufficiency
☆ emotional insensitivity

Ancestral cycles of boys being forced to become macho men who must protect, provide & out masculine the other men in order to fit in with the tribe or be seen as their leader. Anger was the only acceptable emotion - anything else was weakness. These boys weren’t allowed to feel hurt, scared, or sad, so they became insensitive to other people’s emotions.

They’re not allowed to be seen wanting love, so the T.M is left with no other option but to dominate women, being vulnerable had been beaten out of him in childhood. So they become depressed and can’t go to the doctor because again, that is weakness.

It needs to be spoken about and more awareness created around it so our men can heal ♡

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You can't build greatness on a rocky foundation. You have to do the work. People don't want to because it's too hard so they settle for mediocrity and spend their days complaining about their lives. Mediocrity becomes comfortable, despite the boredom and unhappiness it ultimately brings. We settle in it, so why change?
Why grow and take creative control of your life when you can just live on autopilot?

Why? Because growth is messy, painful, and involves letting go of certainty. The pieces of who you’ve become need to fall apart so you can be rebuilt, better than you could ever imagine.

But we don’t trust the process. We fight it. We say life is unfair and continue to blame our external world for our anger. And this resistance causes disease and sends ripples of fear out into the world which then affects everybody, making habits even harder to break.

The work starts when you realise you cannot keep going the way you have been, something has to give and it’s not the external world that needs to change.

The work starts when you realise that you’ve been avoiding the inner work and focusing on the external world because blaming everyone else validates the victim mentality we cling to. We claim to be independent yet we depend so heavily on others for our sense of self-worth.

The work starts when you realise you need to heal your pain and make the decision to be kind to yourself through getting to know and learning to love the real you - shadow aspects and all.

Understanding your childhood wounds and the core beliefs we have about ourselves and the world as a result of those wounds, will teach us why we do the things we do and the experiences we have.

And if you don’t start doing the work, sooner or later something will happen to drag you out of stagnation and into action.

To really build greatness, we must master our emotions, learn the art of communication, heal our relationship with ourselves, people, money and believe firmly in our core that we are worthy and deserving of this greatness.

So, let's strip away the rocky foundations we have built our mediocre lives upon and get uncertain about things for a while.

You’ll know when the process is working when things around you start to fall away. Trust it. It’s your vibration changing, and this involves releasing those people, environments, and experiences that reaffirm our belief that we’re not capable or worthy of greatness. Then things will get quiet, distractions will disappear.

This is where you will most want to resist. You’ll want to fill it with your phone and Netflix instead of being still and listening.

We will settle in unfilling relationships, jobs with no passion, and moaning about our health because when things get quiet we get scared and retreat. We are scared of ourselves. We believe we are one choice away from ruining our lives or death. Take the risk, because otherwise, we aren’t living, we’re surviving. If we're not evolving then we're just dying - what is something that you really want but you’re too scared to step out of your comfort zone and grab?

The new moon in Libra is about balance and emotions.
Get grounded, release emotions and habits that are holding you back by focusing on planting the seeds of the person you want to be.