Highly Sensitive People - HSP & Life Energy

18/02/2026

29/01/2026

Masculine and Feminine Energy: Finding Balance in Relationships

Both masculine and feminine energy live within every person. These energies have nothing to do with biological s*x, but with universal forces that we all carry within us. When these energies are out of balance, it can have a major impact on our relationships, our self-image, and our well-being. This article explores what it means when masculine energy is dominant in women, and how this affects their relationship patterns....

Both masculine and feminine energy live within every person. These energies have nothing to do with biological s*x, but with universal forces that we all carry within us. When these energies are ou…

29/01/2026

The Impact on Relationships

Unprocessed trauma perhaps has the greatest impact on our relationships. Patterns from our childhood repeat themselves, often without us realizing it. Someone who grew up with a parent who yelled may find themselves exhibiting the same behavior - not because they want to, but because it's so deeply internalized that it feels 'normal'.

These patterns express themselves in different ways: excessive need for control as an attempt to create safety, avoiding vulnerability out of fear of rejection, or seeking conflict as the only way to feel connection. Partners unintentionally become targets of emotions that are actually about the past.

The tragic thing is that many people are fully aware of their destructive patterns. They see themselves reacting in ways they don't want to, and promise themselves that next time will be different. But without active trauma processing, these patterns continue to repeat because the underlying wounds have not healed.

Are you ready to take the step towards active trauma processing? Book a Discovery Call to find out if you want to work together.

✨ Hi, I am Chungmei. I help highly sensitive people connect with their Inner Jaguar, natural self-esteem and intuition: https://orchidoflife.nl/en/

🌿 I help talented highly sensitive people release trauma.

💎 Let’s work together to create a happy and healthy life.

29/01/2026

How Unprocessed Trauma Affects Our Daily Lives

Traumas from the past are not always immediately visible, but their impact can be profound. They manifest at unexpected moments in our daily lives - in our relationships, our work, and even in the way we relate to ourselves. This article explores how unprocessed trauma continues to affect us in the here and now, and why it is so important to recognize and process it....

Traumas from the past are not always immediately visible, but their impact can be profound. They manifest at unexpected moments in our daily lives – in our relationships, our work, and even i…

24/01/2026

Trust in the Process

A question that often arises before a session is: 'What if nothing happens?' This fear is understandable. But what I see time and again is that the body is always ready to share what is needed, when there is sufficient safety present.

It's also a building process. The first time we explore together how it feels. The second time there is already more trust. And with each session, the body can relax more deeply and reveal more. Sometimes trauma manifests as intense cold, sometimes as heat, sometimes as emotions, sometimes as physical sensations without emotional charge.

From Self-Love to Connection

The core of this work is cultivating self-love. Not as an abstract concept, but as a concrete, felt experience in the body. From that self-love and connection with yourself, you can relate differently to the world. First with yourself, then with the people closest to you, and ultimately with the entire world around you.

It begins with allowing yourself to feel, to cry, to move, to be. With releasing the filters of anger, grief, and fear that color your perspective. With completing movements that have remained unfinished for too long.

Are you going through a difficult time in your life and looking for support? Contact me: https://orchidoflife.nl/get-in-touch/

✨ Hi, I am Chungmei. I help highly sensitive people connect with their Inner Jaguar, natural self-esteem and intuition: www.orchidoflife.nl

🌿 I help talented highly sensitive people release trauma.

💎 Let’s work together to create a happy and healthy life.

13/01/2026

Back to the Body: A Journey from Survival to Connection

In the world of trauma recovery, there is a growing awareness that healing does not happen solely in the mind. For people who have experienced complex trauma, the body can become strange and even hostile territory. This case illustrates how somatic work - therapy that focuses on the connection between body and mind - can be an essential link in the recovery process.

Lessons from Practice

Mental processing alone is not enough. This client had already had years of therapy, particularly cognitive and emotion-focused. She had developed much insight. But the foundation - the connection with the body - was still missing.

The body holds the history. The nervous system disorder is not 'merely' psychosomatic in the sense of imaginary. It is a real manifestation of years of stress. The body remains in a pattern that once provided protection.

Small steps are valuable. A bolster under the feet, conscious breathing, making a sound - these seem like simple interventions. But for someone who is disconnected from the body, they are important breakthroughs.

Functioning is not the same as healing. The client functions in many areas. She studies, lives independently, has friends. But inside her system storms still rage. True healing requires more - it requires feeling, connecting, and being.

Trust and Connection

For someone who has learned to do everything independently and trust no one, building trust is a major step. 'I think that's also an aspect of being traumatized,' is explained. 'That you've done everything independently. What you can work on is actually trusting another person.'

This trust has a direct impact on the physical work. When you feel more trusted, your body shows more. You dare to show fear, release tension, experience emotions. To heal from trauma in which you had no control, you must learn to let go of control.

Are you going through a difficult time in your life and looking for support? Contact me: https://orchidoflife.nl/get-in-touch/

✨ Hi, I am Chungmei. I help highly sensitive people connect with their Inner Jaguar, natural self-esteem and intuition: www.orchidoflife.nl

🌿 I help talented highly sensitive people release trauma.

💎 Let’s work together to create a happy and healthy life.

01/01/2026

Happy New Year 🥂💫

14/12/2025

Social panorama: relationships in perspective

A powerful method to reorder relationships is the social panorama, developed by Lucas Derks. This approach assumes that you have an inner landscape with all the people who either stand close to you or further away - people toward whom you experience something you want to get away from or feel differently about.

Take, for example, a conflict relationship that causes a lot of tension. When you close your eyes and feel where that person stands in your inner landscape, they often turn out to be standing right in front of you, at a distance of 10-15 meters, with their gaze directed at you. This causes restlessness, tension and pain in the chest area.

By consciously relocating where you want this person to be - for example, diagonally behind you, with their gaze directed forward - the pressure decreases immediately. Your entire space in front of you is then free and open. This is not denial of the situation, but a way to reduce the emotional charge and place the relationship at the distance where it belongs.

Are you in a relationship that asks too much of you? Do you feel irritated, frustrated and sad about by this person? Book your introduction to experience what this method can do for you. But first: schedule a Discovery Call to get to know each other, you can do this here: https://orchidoflife.nl/get-in-touch/

✨ Hi, I am Chungmei. I help highly sensitive people connect with their Inner Jaguar, natural self-esteem and intuition: www.orchidoflife.nl

🌿 I help talented highly sensitive people release trauma.

💎 Let’s work together to create a happy and healthy life.

05/11/2025

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Focus, Energy & Pleasure 💦

Are you tense? Do you feel like not being able to recharge? Are you emotionally triggered on a regular basis? Achieve clarity by embodiment.

For more focus, energy & pleasure. Sessions create space for you to:

👉🏼 Embrace the highly sensitive person you are
👉🏼 Achieve mental clarity

👉🏼 Process sadness, fear and anger
👉🏼 Release physical tension
👉🏼 transform a negative selfimage to a positive one

👉🏼 Reconnect with your inner core
👉🏼 Move through life from your core values

Coaching and traumawork consists of mental space psychology, nlp, social panorama, breathwork and somatic experiencing.

Book your introduction session. Our first meeting will be 1.5 hours and your investment is 105 euros. Sessions take place in my practice in The Hague or via videocalling.

Let’s Get You Tuned in 🫶🏼

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng ✨

HSP Coaching & Somatic therapy
www.orchidoflife.nl



The introduction session takes an hour and a half.

https://orchidoflife.nl/hsp-coaching-rebirthing/hsp-coaching-somatic-therapy-introduction-session/