Centre for Relationships And Marriage Studies

A Woman Who Can’t Listen

Her word is final. It’s all about her. No one else matters. She wants to be heard but she won’t listen to anybody. She can’t sustain any relationship. She drives any man who comes to her life nuts.

She gives unsolicited advice and blames everyone she relates with. She attacks anyone in contact with her. But if you dare correct her, throwing tantrums is her immediate defense mechanism.

If you are dating such a woman – think twice. Why choose such a rough terrain when there are softer routes available? If you’re married to such a woman, make yourself heard, without advice.

Pray for more listening grace. Let go of control. Listen to her without interrupting. Then repeat what she said, so she knows you understood her. Use a timer to allocate both of you equal speaking time.

But if the argument bears no tangible fruits, avoid it. Why waste your emotional energy? Conserve your energy for what matters in your life. Everything I’ve written is equally true for men who don’t listen.

© Olu Gabriel

Early marriage crises can arise due to various factors, such as adjustment issues, unrealistic expectations, communication problems, financial stress, cultural differences, and a lack of experience in managing conflicts.

Establish an environment of open and honest communication where both partners feel comfortable expressing their thoughts, feelings, and needs. Schedule regular time to discuss your relationship, goals, and any concerns.

Communication is vital in any marriage as it forms the foundation for understanding, connection, and the resolution of conflicts.

I pray that God will bless your marriage. That which you need to perform your responsibility as a wife or husband, receive it now. Your marriage is blessed.

You Have What It Takes To Succeed

You have everything you need to fulfill your purpose. You were born at the right time and place for your destiny. You have the right personality and talented and gifted enough for your purpose.

Don’t wait to be more talented to fulfill your destiny. The guy who was given one talent despised it and lost his destiny. God does not ask us to do what He has not equipped us for.

Jesus asked His disciples to feed 5,000 men. He used what they brought Him to feed the crowd. God asked Moses, “What is in your hands?” Elisha asked the widow, “What is in your house?”

God used David’s slingshot to kill the giant. Stop running away from your giants. March forward as you are. Don’t sabotage your destiny with excuses. You came here fully loaded for your purpose.

If you don't already have in your memory, the mental picture of where you are going , anywhere you successfully get to will just look like you've reached your destination.

You will get there and even still be confused and wandering what time will you get there.

Finding the right partner is like wanting to go to a place you don't already know, if you don't already have a picture in your mind of what the person is like, spiritually, emotionality, character wise or even maybe physically.

Many persons who are looking for a relationship partner are themselves doing so without any idea of who they are looking for or what will confirm to them this is the person or not.

They themselves don't even know anything as they are searching for who they will never recognize even when they are with him or her.

Just because the past experience in your marriage didnt turn out the way you want it, doesn’t mean that future of your marriage can’t be better than you ever imagined.

Sometimes when things are falling apart they may actually be falling into place. You have come this far, don’t give up.

Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations.
If you can dream it, you can achieve it.
Everyday is a second chance.

Good morning to you there !

SIGNS YOU ARE IN A CONTROLLING RELATIONSHIP

1. IT ISOLATES YOU FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS

Common controlling behavior in a relationship is it to separate you from your support network. The means of doing so vary from complaining how much time you spend with them, to making bad comments about them and trying to put a wrench between you.

2. YOU ARE ALWAYS NEEDING HIS OR HER APPROVAL

Control persons in relationships like to exercise authority over all decisions They present themselves as wise and possess the right expertise to drive you into checking with them.

3. DRAMA ENSUES THE MOMENT YOU DONT DO WHAT THEY EXPECT.

In a controlling relationship, you feel you need to be next to your phone and able to respond anytime. When, for any reason, you are unable to do so they become angry, overly worried, or pout. In any case, you know there will be drama so you avoid such situations.

4. HE OR SHE BLAMES YOU FOR EVEN THEIR OWN MISTAKE.

Controlling relationships is also detectable by who ends up being blamed in the relationship. For small things too, for example – if they broke a glass, they will say you were in the way and that is why they dropped it.
Blaming it all on you is one of the controlling personality traits.

5. THREATENS YOU –

More or less overtly.
One of the signs of a controlling partner is threatening.
Those intimidations are not always physical and can be veiled. They might threaten they will cut your contact with kids if you decide to leave them, harm themselves, share secrets you shared with them, or cut the privileges.

MARRIAGE DOES NOT NEED LOVE

A successful marriage has little to do with love.
Love is not the qualification for marriage.
Love is a dangerous thing.
Love can make you think you can make it. Every divorce person was first in love with the person they divorce. So, don't tell me love keeps you together.
Love does not guarantee success in marriage.
Love brings happiness but doesn't bring what it takes to make marriage work. The only thing that makes marriage work, is knowledge.
You feel like you love someone, but you better get knowledge on how to live with them. And we are such a feeling culture that our insanity takes us to the alter, making commitments we know we can't keep. Marriage is not protected by love, Marriage is protected by knowledge.

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DONT EVER SLEEP ON RELATIONSHIP, CONSTANTLY WORK ON IT.

If you are already married or currently in a leading relationship, please, never mock or look down on your mates who are not so lucky yet. For the scripture says in the book of Ecclesiates that " time and chance happeneth to everything". They may be single now, tomorrow their story will be different as well.

The grace of God which is available to you now shall soon find and be available them too. Bad things happen even to good relationships. I pray this is not your portion.

We need to be aware and constantly prepare ourselves in the areas below.

Yourself

Character

Communication

Appearance

Finance

Olu Gabriel.

7 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR HUSBAND A LOVERBOY AND BE HAPPY IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

1. Always call him by a pet name. Calling your husband " Daddy Akin" or " Babaa Akin" is both unromantic and crude.

2. Allow him to be the head of the family by keeping his authority. Never challenge his authority, not even when you are hurt. Be silent when he is angry. Stop joining words with him when he is angry with you. You can go back to him in his sober moment with an apology and explain why you behave that way that annoyed him and be quick to say “I’m sorry dear” whenever you offend him. If you cannot say I am sorry your Marriage will be in a sorry state. I am sorry can end every battle, if you say it quickly, genuinely and humbly.

3. Speak good of him before his Friends and siblings. His siblings and friends will pass your message across to him.

4. Honor his mother. He is still in love with his mother, stop deceiving yourself, just learn to live with this fact, stop fighting his mother, show her genuine love even if she does not deserve it by your estimation, giving bath to your husband is enough a sacrifice she need to prove that you must honor her.

5 . Celebrate his welcome back home each time he goes out to work. Never take his return home lightly.

6. Praise him generously before your children, let him hear when you do this. Do it also when he is absent. The children will tell him.

7. Bath Him. Join him in the shower, bath him, wash him, Wash his back, massage him in the process, do this often and see the joy in your husband. Do not allow motherhood kill the girl in you. Call and tell him on phone often that you miss him and that he is the best husband ever.

Olu Gabriel.

When looking for a life partner, don't set your standard too high or too low. Maintain a balance.

When you are looking for a life partner, one thing you should have at the back of your mind is that you can't find all the qualities you want in one person..

You just have to make do with what you see. Only make sure important qualities are there.

This post doesn't in any suggest that you should settle for less.

It's just a reminder that you likely not to find all you want in one person.

Olu Gabriel.

LET GOD AND LET GO.

Submission from a wife to her husband is not what any man had to do any work to buy from her. It is not more than to just love her with whatever and all that he has. This is both a command and an already finished work from God the originator of marriage Himself. So, not the woman or the man should put the other under any self or man-made pressure to do something UnGodly for them to allow peace in the home.

This is sufficient for me to say if you are married to either a man or woman and your mind is not yet consecrated to this all important marriage instruction from God, i mean if you are still struggling with it, then, you are still living in courtship with that man or woman, not yet married to him or her and therefore, not entitled to that beautiful experience of being married to him or her. You still need to surrender yourself !

There was or is a room big enough during courtship for a woman to know "if she is going to submit to this man" or " know by a man if "he's going to be able to love this woman"

We can't give God any conditions for us to obey His will and also follow His instructions.

To both the man and the woman in marriage or a leading relationship, they must have the fear and be always ready to obey God unconditionally.

Don't say i will not submit to him until there's so so and so or i will not show her love until there's so so and so.

You shall succeed in Jesus name.

Olu Gabriel.