Odejimi George

Marriage is for enjoyment and not for endurance. Please note

2 John 2:6, 9. (This love I speak of means that we must live in obedience to God's commands. The command, as you have all heard from the beginning, is that Anyone who does not stay with the teaching of Christ, but goes beyond it, does not have God. Whoever does stay with the teaching has both the Father and the Son. must all live in love, GNB) Abide in the instructions and teachings of Jesus our saviour. I declared, you will be untouchable for the devil and the wicked ones as you set out in Jesus name. Shalom (We know that no children of God keep on sinning, for the Son of God keeps them safe, and the Evil One cannot harm them. 1John 5:18,)

MAKING CHOICES ON SENSITIVE ISSUES:
All of us make hundred of choice every day. Most choice have no right or wrong attached to them - like what you wear or what you eat.but we always face decision that carry a little more weight. We don't want to do wrong, and we don't want to cause other to do wrong,so how can we make such decisions? If I choose one course of action:
1. does it help my witness for Christ?
2: Am I motivated by a desire to help others know Christ (9:23,10:33). 3. does it help me do my best (9:25).
4. is it against a specific command in scripture and would thus cause me to sin? (10:12).
5. Is it the best and most beneficial course of action?(10:23,33).
6. AM i thinking only of myself,or do I truly care about the other person? (10:24).
7. AM i acting loving or selfishly? (10:28-31).
8.does it glorify God? (10:31).
9. will it cause someone else to sin? (10:32).

Israel ke pe Olorun. Olorun gbe Mose dide fuwon. Apa kun Mose, Oluwa lo Aroni ati Hurri Latin gbe apa mose soke. Simon ran Jesus li agbelebu de kafari, Omode Kan fi akara ati eja sile fun Jesu lati So di opo. Maria ati awon Obinrin Olowo nfi Ohun Ini won gbe ise iranse Jesu ga. Opo ba aini Woli Elijah pade. Woo!!, Aye re ati temi nilo enikan ti Oluwa ma gbe dide. Lowuro yi Mo so asotele Yi pe. Wa pade Oluranlowo ti Olorun ma lo fun igbedide re ati emi Naa loruko Jesu.ilekun ire re ti sin. Amin. Rev.3:7-8

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT MARRIAGE
1. Marriage is God’s idea Gen 2:18-24
2. Commitment is essential to a successful marriage Gen 24:58-60
3. Romance is important Gen 29:10,11
4. Marriage holds times of great joy. Jeremiah 7:34
5. Marriage creates the best environment for raising children Malachi 2:14,15
6. Unfaithfulness breaks the bond of trust, the foundation of all relationships Matt 5:32
7. Marriage is permanent Matt 19:6
8. Ideally, only death should dissolve marriage Romans 7: 2,3
9. Marriage is based on the principled practice of love, not on feeling Ephesians 5:21-33
10. Marriage is a living symbol of Christ and the Church Ephesians 5:23-32
11. Marriage is good and honorable Hebrew 13:4
WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT MARRIAGE
1. Marriage is God’s idea Gen 2:18-24
2. Commitment is essential to a successful marriage Gen 24:58-60
3. Romance is important Gen 29:10,11
4. Marriage holds times of great joy. Jeremiah 7:34
5. Marriage creates the best environment for raising children Malachi 2:14,15
6. Unfaithfulness breaks the bond of trust, the foundation of all relationships Matt 5:32
7. Marriage is permanent Matt 19:6
8. Ideally, only death should dissolve marriage Romans 7: 2,3
9. Marriage is based on the principled practice of love, not on feeling Ephesians 5:21-33
10. Marriage is a living symbol of Christ and the Church Ephesians 5:23-32
11. Marriage is good and honorable Hebrew 13:4

SOLUTION TO PRE-MARITAL ISSUES
Question : What to do in a distance (Inter) or Intra place courtship relationship.
=Inter place courtship relationship is a relationships in which intended couple are not resided in a same town and state. Whereas intra courtship relationship is a courtship exist between a common environment, town, and local governments
=Solutions to intra courtship issue
1 Visiting each other's as at time due
2 Get a time to talk out issues
3 Letting him/her involves in some events that necessary (PARTICIPATORY )
4 Walking across street together fortnight (don't abuse this )
5 Study each other and avoid pretence
SOLUTIONS TO INTERR PLACE COURTSHIP ISSUES
1 Callings on phone very often
2 Study each other's mood on phone
3 Giving love text messages for each other
4 Be transparent
5 Before late. Carry him /her along of an issue that is pertinent
6 Visit a times unaware
7 let it be one or two mentors or spiritual leaders know about your relationship
8 Evaluate each others from people around or from your mentor
9 Live a Sacrificial life to one another
10 Be prayerful
SHALOM. From Counsellor and Rev George A. ODEJIMI

Audio recorder a device to use when settling crisis in one to one husband and wife.

Coping skill that reduces a certain mis understanding at home amidst the couples.
In a situation where sitting down for discussion of a matter that cause issue of the day.
When settling of issues are difficult that through discussing one says ill speech/word. The other silent just to let peace reigns. After a while call for sitting and take your audio recorder or use your phone with the cognizant of both of you(the couple ) and start discussion with positive aim of readiness to say sorry or accept your fault if you are wrong
Audio recorder device serve as caution to two of you to be mindful of what to alter otherwise it may serve as weapons against an individual latter. So ill speech that can trigger emotional problems will not set in, while trying to settle the matter

Three things you as a couple and matured single intended to marry should note. Many people care much about their outfit only but these are handled levity
Bed sheet
Pillow case and
Trowell
They should be watched often as we appear neat outside and our under wears also very important to be neat. To prevent infections and diseases.
How often do you watch three things i mentioned above?
3days interval
A week interval
Once per month
Twice per month

COURTSHIP
Abominable Things You Should Not Do In Christian Courtship
Avoid making fail promises to each other.
Never tempt your partners sexually.
Never make an unbeliever your counselor.
Do not hide your past with each other.
Never sleep in the same room with your partner avoid cohabitation.
Avoid unnecessary argument.
Avoid too much distance or communication gap.
Never expose your nakedness.
Avoid night visit to your partner (Genesis 34 vs 1-2).
Never meet in lonely places.
Never go into kissing, necking, pecking, fondling, hugging etc. don’t start the fire you can’t quench. (Genesis 29 vs 21)
Never make any covenant, cutting yourself with blade, sucking each other blood, using kolanut, water, land, leaves, word and the bible (matt. 5 vs 34-37)
Never indulge in sexual immorality e.g. watching pornographic film or engaging in fornication (1 cor 6, 14-20).
Avoid wearing same type of cloth wait for the right time.
Avoid to short or to long courtship.
Be careful on eating and drinking together with your partner to be (Abakkok 2 vs 15-16).
Do away with wearing of uniform.
Avoid taking joint pictures.
You should do away with evil lapping and jokes.
Do not visit his house to help him prepare food

Itemise not less than 5 for each person response : "ABOMINABLE THINGS IN COURTSHIP" between 24hrs. Before i will give you 20 of it. Thanks in anticipation