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DEAR YOUNG GUYS AT THE AGE OF 25 TO 30

Don't make mistakes some of our Fathers or Senior Brothers made.

Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow with them.

Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or achieving your plans.

You might still not succeed at your target year. So start your life early, with consistency you will grow.

A father once shared this with his son: _When i was 25, i was talking about making billions before i marry.

Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love of my life very early, But my fear was, can i really take care of her? But right now She's married with Four grown up children.

The guy that married her was still schooling then, but had the courage. They worked hard and succeeded together. I failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids..

Most of them are not doing as well as me.. But they are happier with their families..

Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.

Trust me it

isn't money, What is our problem?

Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of, and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_

Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at that age? Their grand father.

Please young men, take my advice seriously.

Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink, with a gud spouse.

Settle down on time.

_*FGN STUDENTS LOAN: FACT CHECK*_

Some people are happy about the Student Loan. I have decided to break down the smokescreen called Student Loan. It's just an attempt to remove "Education Subsidy" without causing an uproar.

To start with who qualifies for the Student Loan🤷‍♂️?👉The simple answer is: _*NOBODY.*_

It's almost impossible for you to qualify for the Student Loan and here is why👇:

1. An applicants or his parents must provide tax clearance: This is not totally bad till you see number 2.

2. The Applicants or his parents must be earning total income less than a year. Now slow down and do the maths

👉To earn a year means that the husband and wife are earning less than #41,000 a month i.e #20,000 each. While minimum wage is #30,000. Meaning if both parents are earning, you are automatically disqualified because they are either earning more than #41,000 or they do not pay tax because you cannot pay tax on salary below minimum wage.

3. Now here is the high jump of the Act: These 2 people earning less than #50,000 will now have to provide a DIRECTOR IN CIVIL SERVICE and a LAWYER OF 10 YEARS IN SERVICE as Guarantor. But that is not the worst part.

4. The Director and Lawyer has to surety that if you default, they will pay the loan🤪? Do you know what means, NO DIRECTOR WILL TAKE SUCH SURETY🤷‍♂️. But here is the worst part👇:

5. After you meet all these requirements, will you get the loan? NO🤔?

👉The act said "Loan will be given when funds are available. In other terms, you are still at the mercy of the system😁🤪.

_*In summary:*_
1. If you add your father and mother's income monthly, it must not be more than #41,000 a month or #500,000 a year.

2. Your father and mother must look for a Director in Civil Service to Surety your loan.

3. The Director will send his Payslip document to the Bank saying that if you fail to pay, he will pay. Who will do this one for you?

4. Did I tell you that the Bank MD will be the one to give approval?

5. Did I also tell you that if you don't start repaying after 2years of graduation, you will go to jail😩?

6. Many graduate have not even gone to NYSC in 2 years after graduation

👉The worst part now is: School Fees will go up above the loan amount because Federal Government has announced that they cannot continue to fund University.

_*So if you are reading this, you are not qualified for the Loan.*

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Mind you, if your boyfriend is a Yahoo Boy, you are a potential money ritual ingredient or material in the waiting.
It's a matter of time.

I AM UNIQUE, IF YOU MUST KNOW

I'm who I am for a reason.
I'm part of an intricate plan.
I'm a precious and perfect unique design,
Called God's special man.

I look like I look for a reason.
My God made no mistake.
He knit me together within the womb,
I'm just what he wanted to make.

The parents I had were the ones he chose,
And no matter how I may feel,
They were custom-designed with God's plan in mind,
And they bear the Master's seal.

No, that trauma I faced was not easy.
And God wept that it hurt me so;
But it was allowed to shape my heart
So that into his likeness I'd grow.

I'm who I am for a reason
I've been formed by the Master's rod.
I am who I am, beloved,
Because there is a God!

I AM FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE FOR HIS PURPOSE.

What about you, I mean YOU?

LIFE INSPIRATION
(As we look forward to enter the new year)

Learn to ignore and overlook many things if you truly want happiness in life because the easiest way to a miserable life is to think that everybody is talking about you.

Never allow anyone to steal your joy from you.

What people say behind your back is none of your business as long as you are true to yourself. Never worry yourself about that.

Sometimes minding your own business does not keep people out of your business.

No matter your situation in life people will always talk. You can never stop people from talking about you, what you can do is to stop giving them what to talk about.

There is a time limit for every rumor in life. Never allow freelance broadcasters put your life on hold. Do what makes you happy. Anyone who cannot feel your pain, has no right to judge you in life. Seventy percent of those who talk bad about you behind your back, wish to be like you.

When people can't be like you they try to bring you down and condemn what you have. Those without money will sarcastically say money is not everything in life. (Is poverty anything?)

Never allow anyone to put you in a position of depression and self pity in life. Those whose life has no joy will always find every means to remove happiness from other people's life.

If there is the GRACE of GOD in your life, then enemies are inevitable. If no one has ever gossiped or talked bad about you, it means nothing good has ever happened to you.

Never feel bad when old friends become new enemies. They are just tired of pretending to be friends.

Never allow the opinions of people who didn't see your tears stop your laughter in life. You don't owe anybody an explanation to be happy.

Never see yourself through the eyes of those who don't value you.
To be beautiful means to be yourself. To stand out is to be out-standing. You do not need to be accepted by others. You just need to accept yourself.

Never beg anyone to accept you for who you are. Anything you acquire through begging will require begging to maintain or retain.

Be humble but selective. Being selective doesn't mean you are arrogant or proud. It simply means you know your worth. If you are conscious of your personality avoid too much familiarity.

Sometimes when you treat people too much like celebrities, they end up treating you like an ordinary person. You are equally important.

Never downgrade yourself while trying to upgrade anybody in life. Anyone who sees you like an option doesn't deserve to be a priority in your life.

The dream of a fool is for everybody to become a bloody fool like himself. Avoid negative people if you have a dream. Those without mission will say your vision is just an illusion.

Negative minds will never give you a positive life. Anyone who is always reminding you about what is wrong with you has a personal problem which he/she wants to take out on you.

Most people spend half of their entire life analysing the faults in other people's life, when their own lives need urgent repairs.

Never worry yourself about enemies and friends, because everybody in your life will eventually fall into one of the two categories.

Some will hate you and some will love you. Loving you or hating you are both in your favour. When people love you, you live peacefully and happily in their hearts, and when people hate you, you become the landlord in their head living painfully in their brain everyday and giving them sleepless nights.

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YOUR UNIQUENESS
You must appreciate who you are.
You cannot be another person.
Your Uniqueness is in your gender, height, size and skin colour.

Whoever is shorter than you is too short.
Whoever is taller than you is too tall.
Whoever is fatter than you is too fat.
Whoever is thinner than you is too thin.
Whoever is darker than you is too dark.
Whoever is lighter than you is too light.

Why?
Because you are uniquely, wonderfully and fearfully made and customized to be like no other.

Celebrate your Uniqueness.
Stop envying others.

INSPIRATIONAL

The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve;
Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity.

An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people;
As you grow, your associates will change.

Some of your friends will not want you to go on;
They will want you to stay where they are;
Friends that can't help you climb will want you to crawl.

Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dreams;
Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you.

Consider this:

Never receive counsel from unproductive people;
Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution.

Because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how;
Not everyone has a right to speak into your life.

You are certain to get worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person;
Don't follow anyone who is not going anywhere.

With some people, you spend an evening;
With others you invest it;
Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life.

Wise is the person who fortifies his/her life with GOD and the right friendships.
If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl.

But if you associate with Eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights;
A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really is shown by the kind of friends he chooses.

The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate - for the good and the bad.

Note: Be not mistaken.
This is applicable to family as well as friends;
Ye.... do love, appreciate and be thankful for your family, for they will always be your family, no matter what.

In prosperity, our friends know us;
In adversity, we know our friends.
Never make someone a priority when you are an option for them.

If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters.
Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.

Above all, you need GOD, for without HIm, you cannot go far in life.

God bless you.

REWARDING MEDIOCRITY AND Sensuality!!!

This very piece caught my attention and I decided to share it.

"Anytime I remember that someone will win Tens of millions of naira for just staying in a house kissing, gossiping & eating free food, I open my drawer, bring out my certificate & use it to be fanning myself because it can't be useless to me outside & still be useless inside."

It reminds me of something. In 2006 I was the Best Graduating Student of the Department of English, Benue State University, Makurdi. At the combined convocation in 2010, it was announced, and I was issued a letter indicating that I had won the HOD's Prize for the Best Graduating Student of English. The amount was One thousand naira. I mean, 1000 naira only. I didn't feel excited about it, but somehow, armed with the award letter, I went to the bursary to cash the #1000. Twice, I was told that the University had not released the money. Hmmmm, I just gave up and never went back there till today.

In that same University, individuals and organisations were sponsoring miss BSU, miss this, miss that, and awarding them cars, huge sums of money and other consolation/ runners up prizes. I couldn't help thinking that our society is one that has no respect, honour or proper recognition for intellectualism. Instead, it lavishly rewards mediocrity and sensuality. Little wonder, we are not making much progress, and academic hardwork is fast disappearing.

Why would a beautiful girl want to work hard to make good grades when she knows that winning a MISS can fetch her a car and cash with little sweat? This, among other reasons, is why there is a rise in the establishment of the "missing or misses" institution in the university, where stellar academic performance should be the most honourable and admirable thing.

We began to have "misses" in so many departments and faculties on campus: Miss BUTASA, miss MACOSA, etc, etc (even tribal and community associations began to organize their misses and faces). Perhaps, the rise of the "missing" or "misses" institution in the Ivory Tower was a prophetic indication that the Citadel of Learning had begun to MISS out on the issues that really mattered.

This is why someone will not think of gathering scientists and sponsoring them to bring out world shaking inventions and rewarding the greatest inventor at the end of the show. Even at this critical time in history, that someone is not thinking of sponsoring medical researchers, housing them to bring up a vaccine against Covid 19. Instead we are waiting for America and Europe to bring up the solution while we spend our money to sponsor sensual indulgence that only serves to satisfy our base instincts and fantasies.

Meanwhile, when a pastor builds a big church, we suddenly become very wise and begin to hector him for building a big Church instead of a factory, as if he is called to be an industrialist and not pastor!

When a society has been so properly denuded of such simple moral reasoning and decorum that it places sensuality above intellectualism, we cannot expect to go forward at reasonable speed....….........

CERTIFICATE IN NIGERIA IS USELESS WITHOUT KNOWING ANY OF THE PROMINENT POLITICANS OF THE SOCIETY....

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Some of the greatest questions in the heart of ladies and God’s answers to them

1. I am not beautiful enough. That’s why I am not married.

You are very wrong on that. However, you look, some people will consider you beautiful or pretty. That is why you have met couples who in your own estimation seemed odd. How can a so handsome man like this go for a woman that is not beautiful? How can a so beautiful lady like this end up with this man that looks crooked and ugly? You see, beauty is in the beholder’s eyes. When you truly meet your spouse, you will be beautiful to him however you look.

I always say humourously that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You will be fearful (ugly) to some and you will be wonderful (beautiful) to others.

Psa 139:14 KJV
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

When you meet your spouse, you will be beautiful.

2. My past mistake is what is responsible for my present nemesis

Yes, it is possible when you refuse to accept the sacrifice of what Jesus did on your behalf on the cross. But listen to me, if you are child of God, blood bought and redeemed in the name of the Lord Jesus, your past mistakes are a forgone issues. Here is God’s answer:

Heb 10:17 KJV
And their sins and iniquities will I remember no more.

That’s right! In God, he will not only forgive you, but He will also forget about it! So, stop hounding yourself over and over on what God has forgotten about!

Here is what Message translation says:

Heb 10:17 MSG
He concludes, I'll forever wipe the slate clean of their sins.

3. Submission to one’s husband is an impossible and herculean task

Yes, it may look like something hard and impossible when you always resort to the flesh, but when you allow God to work on you and rely on his grace to be a good and submissive wife, the Holy Spirit that teaches you all things will help you out! The truth is that the fullness of God’s blessings over you, the full realisation of purpose, and the unleashing of creativity in you are only made possible when you truly submit to your husband. It is not a negotiation, it is an instruction from God.

1Pe 3:1-2 AMP
(1) IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,
(2) When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him--to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].

4. I am not worthy, I am not good at anything, I am just there.

That is a lie of the devil from the pit of hell. There is something you are good at. God does not make mistakes in creating us. Everybody has an assignment that has been determines even before your dad met your mum. Your country of origin is not God’s error, it is a deliberate orchestration of the divine which if you will cooperate with, you will astound your generation!

Jer 1:5 BBE
Before you were formed in the body of your mother I had knowledge of you, and before your birth I made you holy; I have given you the work of being a prophet to the nations.

5. I am under a curse because of my parents and lineage.

That is very possible because curses are real. But when you have come to know the Lord Jesus Christ, you must know that you have been set free, all curses are broken and you are now free. Jesus only needed to shed his blood for us to be saved from sin, and that could have been done if somebody had shot him or decapitated his head. But he chose the way of the cross, because of one thing! He wanted to destroy curses while at the same time wiping your sins away through his shed blood. The scripture says cursed is anyone that hangs on the tree! He hung on the tree because he wanted to become cursed for your sake, so that in Him, all curses are rendered ineffective! You only need too know and accept what He has done and that would be all!

Gal 3:13-14 MSG
(13) Christ redeemed us from that self-defeating, cursed life by absorbing it completely into himself. Do you remember the Scripture that says, "Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree"? That is what happened when Jesus was nailed to the Cross: He became a curse, and at the same time dissolved the curse.
(14) And now, because of that, the air is cleared and we can see that Abraham's blessing is present and available for non-Jews, too. We are all able to receive God's life, his Spirit, in and with us by believing--just the way Abraham received it.

6. I don’t need marriage. I will just have a child or two. I don’t need any man over me. All men are evil.

Don’t conclude to live this kind of life, because of experiences in the hands of a few men. If you are called to live as a single, fine, (and that is rare) but if you say you don’t need any man for marriage and yet you sleep around, you only want to have the benefit of marriage without the responsibilities and that is not God’s order. That would be adulterous. That is not God’s plan and you can imagine what the children raised in that kind of scenario will turn out to become.

7. God probably hates me. I cannot sense His love. He loves others better.

That is a lie from the pit of hell. God loves you to places! You don’t even have an idea of how precious you are to Him.

‘But what about all I have been through?’

Some of them are self-inflicted, some are because you have rebellious and all that. But even in the midst of your being recalcitrant and disobedient, he has protected you. Some people did not dare half of what you have done, and they’ve been cut off from the land of the living! You are still here complaining! Why don’t you accept His love today and let His love enrapture you and heal you? He is right here waiting for you to respond to His love!

Isa 49:15-16 AMP
(15) [And the Lord answered] Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, they may forget, yet I will not forget you.
(16) Behold, I have indelibly imprinted (tattooed a picture of) you on the palm of each of My hands; [O Zion] your walls are continually before Me.

That is the truth! God has your picture tattooed permanently on his palm. He is looking at you now, go to Him and let Him make you! You will laugh last!

10 Things Every Teenage Girl Needs to Know

There are so many things I know now, that I wish I could have known then. Here are 10 things I wish every teenage girl could hear:

1. You are valuable standing alone! I wasted so much time during my teen years focusing on guys! I felt insignificant and alone without their attention. I wish I would have known that my value is something that I choose to believe in– not something someone gives me. Girls, you are amazing, beautiful, and special right here, right now, just as you are. Don’t ever give in to the pressure to use your body, your words, or your actions in a compromising way just to get his attention. You are enough. Learn to believe that now, because that truth will change your entire life!

2. How you dress will attract a certain kind of guy. I know you get it girls- we all want to catch their eye don’t we? But what we don’t always realize is that when you catch a guy with your body, you’ll have to keep him with your body. There is so much more about who you are than the size of your b***s or the size of your waist. Learn to respect yourself, and accentuate the beauty of your heart, your mind, and your spirit. Because those are exactly the kind of things that will snag a really good man.

3. Your parents might not always get it, but they usually know what’s good for you. I know it’s hard to believe now, because it seems like they are so far removed from what you’re going through, but one thing I wish I would have done during my teen years is actually pay more attention to what my parents were saying. They knew me and loved me better than I even knew and loved myself, and the limits they set were almost always for my good. Now that I have children, I see that more than I ever could have imagined. I wish I would have trusted them more.

4. Hang in there; no matter how bad it feels right now, it will pass. If you thought the last lesson was hard to believe, this one’s even harder. I get it –that breakup, those betraying friends, the gossip that’s going around about you– can feel like the most devastating things in the moment. But as hard as they are, and as bad as you may feel, believe me: IT WILL PASS. Don’t be afraid to cry out for help, to talk to someone you love, and to reach out. But always remember that you are strong, you are capable, and you will get through this. Don’t give it the power to ruin your life.

5. You teach people how they are allowed to treat you. I have to admit, I’m still learning this one at times. But the truth is, you have more control than you could even imagine. You are allowed to walk away, to distance yourself, and to put a stop to those people who are treating you poorly. Teach people how they can treat you, by setting your standards high. You owe it to yourself.

6. Don’t care so much about what people think. It’s easy to place our value in what people think of us, but we’ll find ourselves on a never-ending emotional roller coaster when we realize we will never, ever make everyone happy. Love life, make good choices, do the right thing, and always live for an audience of One.

7. The road less traveled is usually the right one. I remember saying NO to so many things that everyone else seemed to be saying YES to. I can’t even tell you how hard that was at times, and how much I wanted to give in to that pressure. But now that I’m here, I look back and I can’t even thank God enough for helping me choose the road less traveled, and making good choices even when it was hard. Just because everyone’s doing it, doesn’t mean it’s good. I’m glad I didn’t have to learn that the hard way.

8. Your body doesn’t define you–you define yourself. Teen or not, this is something we wrestle with as girls on and off throughout our lives. But the truth is, we can’t let our bodies define us, because we have the power to define ourselves. Take the time to love yourself, to focus on your strengths, and to be grateful for the body God has given you. And then remember: You are the daughter of A King – live like it!

9. Be yourself, because everyone else is already taken. I remember trying so hard to fit in to places and people that I was never meant to fit. It took a while to find myself after losing myself in the crowd of everyone I was trying to be. But I finally learned to embrace myself, love my personality, and appreciate my quirks. God made you special just the way you are- so be yourself.

10. God has an amazing plan for your life, but it’s up to you to choose it. I think it’s easy to forget that good things can really happen. It’s easy to be filled with fears and worries in the moment, and doubt God’s great plans and purpose for our life. Sometimes we settle for an okay life, because we don’t believe there’s something better. But beautiful girls, you are destined for great things! Believe it, and then live it.

Sometimes I sit and think how these lessons would have saved me so much heartache and pain, because as Maya Angelou says, when you know better, you do better.

My prayer for every precious girl reading this is that you would know and believe that you are loved, that you are prayed for, and that you deserve great things. Know better, but more importantly– go out there and do better.