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There is great change to be experienced once
you learn the power of letting go. Stop
allowing anyone or anything to control, limit,
repress, or discourage you from being your
true self! Today is YOURS to shape - own it -
break free from people and things that
poison or dilute your spirit.

***What A Father Told His Daughter A Day
Before Her Wedding***
My Daughter,tomorrow you will stop bearing
my name. You will be happily married to the
man you love. Well, I have fulfilled my
purpose, it is now time for you to start
fulfilling yours.
From your childhood, I have raised you well by
the grace of God but before you say I do,
there are few things I need to tell you about
living with a man and being married.
Do you remember when you wrote your WAEC
and JAMB exams? You came to me and I gave
you 20,000 Naira for the registration? Well,
even though I gave it to you, the money was
not mine. I know you always thought I paid
the fees. The truth is, I was broke, but your
mother gave me the money. She could have
given it to you but she decided to give it to me
to give to you.
Support your husband. Some times things will
get tough… he will befrustrated. Even though
he acts tough, in his mind he has fears… he
fears you may not value him anymore because
he has fallen. That is the time to get behind
him and support him!
The best way to show your husband you love
him is to respect him! You may argue with him,
you may disagree but at the end of the day, let
him know he has your respect.
Do you remember the day I screamed at your
mother? What did she do? She was quiet! Do
you also remember the day she screamed at
me? What did I do? I was quiet!
My daughter learn to be quiet sometimes when
your husband is angry. When one person is
hot, the other should be cool. If two are
always screaming at same time, that is how big
problems start in marriage.
The first thing to know about your husband is
his favourite food. If he has more than one
then keep them at the back of your mind.
Don't let him ask for it, always prepare it for
him.
There was a day your mother caught me
touching a woman’s hand affectionately. It was
lustful but I was not yet cheating on your
mum. When she saw us… she didn't fight the
lady, she quietly left. I was afraid of going
home because all hell will break lose. But when
I got home she said nothing. She served me
my food. Guilt was taking control over me. I
started begging. From that day, I never looked
at a woman two time. Who knows? If she had
fought and threatened me… maybe I could
have run away from the fight into the arms of
the lady. Sometimes silence brings better
solution than fight.
Remember those Indian and American love
movies? And those too sweet Nollywood films
on African magic? Forget them! Don’t expect
your married life to be that way. Forget those
romantic novels you read while you were 18.
The reality of life is quit different from
fictions.
One important last thing I want to tell you…
After our wedding, things were tough and your
mum had to work two jobs to support us. I
was working as well. I get home 6pm while she
gets home 8pm tired. But when we get to
bed… she will not refuse me my 'night food'.
That is how you were born. Don't deny your
husband of his 'night food'. You know what I
mean. Be a good wife.

*WHEN TO BE SILENT*
1. Be silent - in the heat of anger.
2. Be silent - when you don't have all the facts
3. Be silent - when you haven't verified the
story.
4. Be silent - if your words will offend a
weaker Person.
5. Be silent - when it is time to listen.
6. Be silent - when you are tempted to make
light of holy things.
7. Be silent - when you are tempted to joke
about sin.
8. Be silent - if you would be ashamed of your
word later.
9. Be silent - if your words would convey the
wrong impression.
10. Be silent - if the issue is none of your
business.
11. Be silent - when you are tempted to tell an
outright lie.
12. Be silent - if your words will damage
someone else's reputation.
13. Be silent - if your words will damage a
friendship.
14. Be silent - when you are feeling critical.
15. Be silent - if you can't say it without
screaming.
16. Be silent - if your words will be a poor
reflection of your friends and family.
17. Be silent - if you may have to eat your
words later.
18. Be silent - if you have already said it more
than one time.
19. Be silent - when you are tempted to flatter
a wicked person.
20. Be silent - when you are supposed to be
working instead.
"WHOEVER GUARDS HIS MOUTH AND TONGUE
KEEPS HIS SOUL FROM TROUBLES"

Success Will Come and Go, But Integrity Is
Forever
If I could teach only one value to live by, it
would be this: Success will come and go, but
integrity is forever. Integrity means doing the
right thing at all times and in all
circumstances, whether or not anyone is
watching. It takes having the courage to do the
right thing, no matter what the consequences
will be. Building a reputation of integrity takes
years, but it takes only a second to lose, so
never allow yourself to ever do anything that
would damage your integrity.
We live in a world where integrity isn’t talked
about nearly enough. We live in a world where
“the end justifies the means” has become an
acceptable school of thought for far too many.
Sales people overpromise and under deliver,
all in the name of making their quota for the
month. Applicants exaggerate in job interviews
because they desperately need a job. CEOs
overstate their projected earnings because they
don’t want the board of directors to replace
them. Entrepreneurs overstate their pro formas
because they want the highest valuation
possible from an investor. Investors understate
a company’s value in order to negotiate a
lower valuation in a deal. Customer service
representatives cover up a mistake they made
because they are afraid the client will leave
them. Employees call in “sick” because they
don’t have any more paid time off when they
actually just need to get their Christmas
shopping done. The list could go on and on,
and in each case the person committing the
act of dishonesty told themselves they had a
perfectly valid reason why the end result
justified their lack of integrity.
It may seem like people can gain power quickly
and easily if they are willing to cut corners and
act without the constraints of morality.
Dishonesty may provide instant gratification in
the moment but it will never last. I can think
of several examples of people without integrity
who are successful and who win without ever
getting caught, which creates a false
perception of the path to success that one
should follow. After all, each person in the
examples above could have gained the result
they wanted in the moment, but unfortunately,
that momentary result comes at an incredibly
high price with far reaching consequences.
That person has lost their ability to be trusted
as a person of integrity, which is the most
valuable quality anyone can have in their life.
Profit in dollars or power is temporary, but
profit in a network of people who trust you as
a person of integrity is forever.
Every one person who trusts you will spread
the word of that trust to at least a few of their
associates, and word of your character will
spread like wildfire. The value of the trust
others have in you is far beyond anything that
can be measured. For entrepreneurs it means
investors that are willing to trust them with
their money. For employees it means a
manager or a boss that is willing to trust them
with additional responsibility and growth
opportunities. For companies it means
customers that trust giving them more and
more business. For you it means having an
army of people that are willing to go the extra
mile to help you because they know that
recommending you to others will never bring
damage to their own reputation of integrity.
Yes, the value of the trust others have in you
goes beyond anything that can be measured
because it brings along with it limitless
opportunities and endless possibilities.
Contrast that with the person who cannot be
trusted as a person of integrity. Warren Buffet,
Chairman and CEO of Berkshire Hathaway
BRK.A +% said it best:, “In looking for people
to hire, look for three qualities: integrity,
intelligence, and energy. And if they don’t have
the first one, the other two will kill you.” A
person’s dishonesty will eventually catch up to
them. It may not be today, and it may not be
for many years, but you can rest assured that
at some point there will always be a reckoning.
A word of advice to those who are striving for
a reputation of integrity: Avoid those who are
not trustworthy. Do not do business with
them. Do not associate with them. Do not
make excuses for them. Do not allow yourself
to get enticed into believing that “while they
may be dishonest with others, they would
never be dishonest with me.” If someone is
dishonest in any aspect of his life you can be
guaranteed that he will be dishonest in many
aspects of his life. You cannot dismiss even
those little acts of dishonesty, such as the
person who takes two newspapers from the
stand when they paid for only one. After all, if
a person cannot be trusted in the simplest
matters of honesty then how can they possibly
be trusted to uphold lengthy and complex
business contracts?
It is important to realize that others pay
attention to those you have chosen to associate
with, and they will inevitably judge your
character by the character of your friends.
Why is that? It is best explained by a quote my
father often says when he is reminding me to
be careful of the company I am keeping:
“When you lie down with dogs you get fleas.”
Inevitably we become more and more like the
people we surround ourselves with day to day.
If we surround ourselves with people who are
dishonest and willing to cut corners to get
ahead, then we’ll surely find ourselves
following a pattern of first enduring their
behavior, then accepting their behavior, and
finally adopting their behavior. If you want to
build a reputation as a person of integrity then
surround yourself with people of integrity.
There is a plaque on the wall of my office
which reads: “Do what is right, let the
consequence follow.” It serves as a daily
reminder that success will indeed come and go,
but integrity is forever.

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT OMOTOLA-
JALADE EKEINDE'S WORDS?
“I don’t believe in gender equality. I do not
believe that God made man and woman to be
equal in any way. I believe that in every
organised institution, there is always a head
and an assistant. It doesn’t mean that one
should take the other for granted, or
disrespect the other. I believe the husband is
the head of the home and the wife is an
assistant. My husband is a pilot, I have flown
with him several times and I understood that
here is a captain and a co-pilot. They are both
responsible for the passengers’ lives. But when
there is a final decision to make, it is up to the
captain to make it. He is more experienced and
the one with the responsibility.”
“When there is a quarrel, I usually apologise
first. He doesn’t say sorry. Overtime, I have
come to realise that it is an ego problem. Even
when he knows he is wrong, he will rather do
every other thing or buy things for me than
say, ‘I’m sorry.’ Fortunately, the ‘sorrys’ are
not too many. He is very responsible and more
hardworking than me. By God’s grace, we have
been able to understand our routine.”

When flood comes, fish eats ants and when
flood recedes, ants eat fish, only time matters,
just hold on, God gives opportunities to every
one.
In a theatre when drama plays, you opt for
front seats, When film is screened, you opt for
rear seats. Your position in life is only relative
not absolute.
For making soap, oil is required but to clean
oil, soap is required. This is the irony of life.
When you are in problem, don't think it's the
END, It is only a BEND. In life there are two
category of people that are happy; the mad
and the child... Be mad to achieve a goal. Be a
child to enjoy what you achieve.
There is no escalator to success, only Steps.

Poisoning Mother-In-Law
A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got
married and went to live with her husband and
mother-in-law.
In a very short time, Li-Li found that she
couldn’t get along with her mother-in-law at
all. Their personalities were very different, and
Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-
law’s habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li
constantly.
Days passed days, and weeks passed weeks. Li-
Li and her mother-in-law never stopped
arguing and fighting. But what made the
situation even worse was that, according to
ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to
her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All
the anger and unhappiness in the house was
causing the poor husband great distress.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-
law’s bad temper and dictatorship any longer,
and she decided to do something about it.
Li-Li went to see her father’s good friend, Mr.
Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the
situation and asked if he would give her some
poison so that she could solve the problem
once and for all. Mr. Huang thought for a
while, and finally said, “Li-Li, I will help you
solve your problem, but you must listen to me
and obey what I tell you.”
Li-Li said, “Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever
you tell me to do.” Mr. Huang went into the
back room, and returned in a few minutes with
a package of herbs.
He told Li-Li, “You can’t use a quick-acting
poison to get rid of your mother-in-law,
because that would cause people to become
suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a
number of herbs that will slowly build up
poison in her body. Every other day prepare
some delicious meal and put a little of these
herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make
sure that nobody suspects you when she dies,
you must be very careful to act very friendly
towards her. Don’t argue with her, obey her
every wish, and treat her like a queen.”
Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and
hurried home to start her plot of murdering
her mother-in-law.
Weeks went by, months went by, and every
other day, Li-Li served the specially treated
food to her mother-in-law. She remembered
what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding
suspicion, so she controlled her temper,
obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like
her own mother. After six months had passed,
the whole household had changed.
Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so
much that she found that she almost never got
mad or upset. She hadn’t had an argument in
six months with her mother-in-law, who now
seemed much kinder and easier to get along
with.
The mother-in-law’s attitude toward Li-Li
changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her
own daughter. She kept telling friends and
relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-
law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-
in-law were now treating each other like a real
mother and daughter.
Li-Li’s husband was very happy to see what was
happening.
One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and
asked for his help again. She said, “Mr. Huang,
please help me to stop the poison from killing
my mother-in-law! She’s changed into such a
nice woman, and I love her like my own
mother. I do not want her to die because of
the poison I gave her.”
Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. “Li-Li,
there’s nothing to worry about. I never gave
you any poison. The herbs I gave you were
vitamins to improve her health. The only
poison was in your mind and your attitude
toward her, but that has been all washed away
by the love which you gave to her.”
Moral: Kindness is a reaction. Starting from
today, try to be kind to EVERYBODY, even your
ENEMIES!

You can easily deceive the people around you
but deceive yourself and be doomed for the
rest of your life.
Comparison is never a good thing. If you’re
always in this state you will remain static. “He
that compares himself with another is not
wise”.
You can only be your original self. If you live
in the shadow of someone else, you can not be
discovered.
It is a different thing when you have a mentor
that you emulate so much. You can’t sneeze
the way your mentor sneezes or walk the way
he walks or speak the way he speaks if you
have not learned his secrets of success. You
should find your niche, learn from your
mentor and walk your path according to
purpose.
Wherever you go, whatever you do, be you and
do you and those who appreciate you will
definitely stand by you through the highs and
lows.

I offended my wife and she insisted a million
sorries were not enough. I didn't know what to
do, so I asked her to choose a punishment she
considered satisfactory.
She said I should do all chores for one week. I
quickly agreed. That was the worst punishment
I served in living memory.
If you think you have patience, wait till your
wife leaves you with two kids and goes to gist
with a neighbor for hours. One hour seemed
like 1 year.
Yelling and commanding fell on deaf ears; it
was as if the kids conspired with their mother
to raise their disturbance to power 2. I
couldn't even take my calls; Facebook update
was no-go area; the crying was loud and
persistent.
What of the poopooing and peeing? And for
someone easily disgusted, I was sooo beaten
and alarmed.
The house cleaning, dishwashing were
something else. I learnt that one child can use
3 dresses/wears per day.
Preparing their meals was like Kachikwu and
fuel. Preparing ordinary pap was like Buhari
and 2016 budget. I wasted a couple of dishfuls
before I came close to getting it right. Then,
the feeding proper was like Fashola and
electricity.
For every spoon each of them took, we had to
run around for several minutes. I was furious
but they were laughing and playful.
By the second day, I was completely humbled
and asked for amnesty.
Processing the application was like Nigerian
police doing crime investigation. Approving the
application was like Nigerian military defeating
Boko Haram in Sambisa forest.
In the end, to win a temporary amnesty, it
took APC tactics on Nigerians; I made so many
promises without thinking of how to fulfill any.
I just wanted to get off the punishment.
Thought it will help us have a relaxed evening.
Mothers are something out of this world.
They're so special that it is only them that can
be called

In the jungle,
The biggest animal is the Elephant,
The tallest is the Giraffe,
The wisest is the Fox,
The fastest is the Cheetah.
But besides all those wonderful qualities the
Lion is the KING of the jungle even without
ANY of them.!!
Why??
Because...
The Lion is courageous,
The Lion is very bold,
The Lion is always ready to face any challenges
and barriers that cross its path, no matter how
big/bad they are.!!
The Lion walks with confidence. The Lion dares
anything and is never afraid. The Lion believes
he is unstoppable. The Lion is a risk taker. The
Lion believes any animal is food for it. The
Lion believes any opportunity is worth giving a
try and never lets it slip from its hands. The
Lion has charisma.!!
So...
- What is it that we get to learn from the
Lion ??
• You don't need to be the fastest!
• You don't need to be the wisest!
• You don't need to be the smartest!
• You don't need to be the most brilliant!
• You don't need to be generally accepted to
achieve your dreams and be great in life.!!
• All you need is COURAGE
• All you need is BOLDNESS
• All you need is the WILL to try.
• All you need is the FAITH to believe it is
possible.
• All you need is to believe in yourself, that
YOU CAN do it.!!
It's TIME to bring out the Lion in you..!!
"As you go this week, Face the terrible, FACE IT
CONFIDENTLY!"

A RABBIT runs, jumps, moves faster and lives
for only fifteen (15) years while a TORTOISE
doesn't even attempt any of such activities but
lives for 150 years or more?
LESSON: Life is not about rushing, comparison
and doing what others are doing but rather
keep calm and do what is right and what you
are called to do. They may live in the same
forest and play together but have different life
expectancy. We must remember that we will
have age mates, class mates, school mates,
office mates but there are no 'Destiny mates' in
life.
Be who you are called to be, love who you are
and thank God for your special journey which
may not look like others!! This is the simplest
way to succeed in life!!
God Bless you, and keep looking forward
because those beside you are not going where
you are exactly going!!!
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This date in 1890 celebrates the founding of
Alabama # Penny Savings Bank. It was
Alabama’s first bank for Blacks one of the first
three for Blacks in America.
Founded by # William Pettiford, in 1902, the
deposits were $78,124.21; by 1911, they had
reached $421,596.51. Much of the bank’s
success resulted from his and the directors’
emphasis on homeownership. Records show
that the Penny Bank was the leading mortgager
to persons buying homes in Smithfield, the
most prominent # black community in
Birmingham. In addition, during the bank’s
first decade, Pettiford and other officials
engineered many real estate transactions that
proved highly lucrative for the bank.