NAOWA Nursery and Primary School, Ikeja

Our environment, pupils, qualified and seasoned instructors. Covid-19 shall be over and nolmacy will be restored.

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In order to keep our pupils brain fresh and reduce any negative effect the lockdown might have on our educational system, we are now into E-learning and its opened to pupils in the following classes:

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Covid-19 is no longer a sham but it is here staring at us.
It has caused a lot of havoc, closure of Schools, Churches, Mosques, Financial institutions, also, lockdown in our dear country Nigeria.
We encourage our pupils and parents to take precautions.
*Wash hands regularly with soap and water.
*Use alcohol based hand sanitizer.
*Avoid crowded area.
*Maintain social distancing.
*Use of face mask.
*Stay at home and stay safe.
We love you and we care about you.
Together we shall conquer without losing our loved ones.
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CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Child s*xual abuse is also known as child s*xual molestation. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent s*xual activities between an adult and a child.
According to the National Violence Against Children Survey, it established that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 10 boys experienced s*xual violence before the age of 18.

TYPES OF MOLESTATION
-Defilement
-R**e
-Fi*****ng
-Making a child watch po*******hy
-Exposing the ge***al to kids
-Indecent touching
-Fondling etc

WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?
ANYBODY
Studies show that over 95% of s*xually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child's family.

ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS
They are right there in your house, co-tenants, family members,neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates,class/school teachers, madrasat teachers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guard, maids, family /school drivers, After school/home lesson teachers, mummy's friend, daddy's friend, caregivers, strangers........ the list can go on.
Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because,there is no case of any of the above that we have not seen.

CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Parental negligence, carelessness, non- challant attitude.
It is as bad as No one can be trusted
We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father.

OTHER CAUSES
Absentee parents.
Parents who do not observe.
When d kids are not informed.....
What u watch with your kids.

WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?
✓On your bed
✓Right under your nose, under your roof
✓In the school environment - class,toilet etc
✓Hostel
✓Parties
✓ In their room (siblings)
✓Deserted/Abandoned places
✓ When you are distracted
Etc

Perpetrators look for opportunities.
5mins is enough to cause a life long damage

HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?
1.Grooming
2.Baits

a. Emotional bait
b. Gift bait
c. Financial bait
d. Familiarity & Respect bait.
Child grooming
Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child's inhibitions with the objective of s*xual abuse. -Wikipedia-
Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having s*x relationship with them.

HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER
A. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa
B. Child feels uncomfortable when he/she sights d abuser or when d abuser is around.
C. Easily and conveniently accept to care for your child while you are away.
D. Can be hard on the child especially if the child is rejecting his moves etc

If any of the above is observed, please shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable /rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holiday.
S*xual abuse happens among sibblings, set rules, seperate their rooms, seperate their beds.
We had a case of twins having s*x with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad do same.
Why should we be that careless?
Because of the carelessness of both parents,their innocent minds were polluted and their lives were destroyed.

WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT
•I will kill u
•You will die
•Your mummy will hate u
•Your mummy will beat you
•Your mummy will blame you.
•Your mummy and your daddy will die.
•He could cut d child, lick d blood and says ' this is a blood covenant between us ,d day you tell is the day you die'.

The SRR
-Teach ur child-

S - Shout/scream
R - Run
R - Report

POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED
✓Isolation
✓Aggressiveness
✓Anxiety/Fear
✓Difficulty in walking
✓Sudden drop in academic performance
✓Poor social interaction
Etc

* OTHERS
✓S*xually Transmitted Diseases.

Their dressing is important, dress to cover them pls. Teach them privacy.
They must knock and seek permission before they enter your room.
It is wrong to bath them together irrespective of s*x.

PLEASE NOTE
Children never lie about abuse If your child tells u someone is trying to mess with him or her.... Please believe the child and respond appropriately.

EFFECT OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
-The abused child could become a serial abuser
-Depression
-Suicidal thoughts
-Stigma
-Guilt
-Lifelong psychological trauma
-Aggression
-Withdrawn
-Infected with STDs
Etc

THE BOYS
More often than not,we pay more attention to the girls than the boys.
With my years of experience, boys are mostly victims of a**l s*x but because we do not pay attention.
For them, healing is a terrible process.

WATCH OVER YOUR BOYS
Something might just be happening and u perceive not. Do not be a hard mum. Strike a balance between love and discipline.
Give your children S*x Education proportional to their age.
A child of age 2 or even less is due for S*x education.
Tell them what nobody must do with their body.
Tell them to speak out.
In the house, everyone must respect one another's privacy.