How to safe Family

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The Best Wife ..

1. Listens to her husband and does her best to please him.

2. Always considers her husband's well being.

3. Does not give the husband stress but gives him peace of mind.

4. Does not spend more than her husband earns.

5. Helps her husband at the time of problems.

6. Has patience when the husband doesn't treat her justly.

7. Behaves and dresses modestly.

8. Learns and practises Islam and teaches her husband too.

9. Does her best to raise their children in an islamic way.

Being married is not about just eating together, sleeping and waking side by side, strolling to the beach or river together, doing the lovey-dovey, pillow fights or doing chores together. These are only the extra-curricular activities; the main thing that needs to be done together is Ibadah, and this is where many couples fall short today.

We were created for the worship of Allah SWT and couples can very much help each other achieve this. Below are some few ways couples can achieve this.

Husband: My dear, its Jumu‘ah, let's recite Suratul Kahf together.

Wife: Hey dear, wake up and let's pray, its time for Tahajud, our LORD is in the first heaven calling on to us.

Husband: Hey baby, even if you are off-salat, have you done your evening adhkaar? Let's do it together.

Wife: Ya sheikh, now that we have observed Isha, its time for our daily family halqah, won't you give us a Naseeha or teach us some fiqh?

Husband: My Queen, let's quickly recite Surah Mulk before sleeping so that it will save us from the punishment of the grave.

Wife: My King, tomorrow is Monday, what would you like me to prepare so we can fast tomorrow to please our Lord.

Allah cautions us in the Qur’an; “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.” (66:6)

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him) praised the man who gets up at night to pray, and wakes his wife, and when she refuses to get up, he sprinkles water on her face; and he praised the woman who gets up at night to pray, and wakes her husband, and when he refuses to get up, she sprinkles water on his face. (Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 2/250; Saheeh al-Jaami 3494).

How beautiful is this Hadith! This is how couples should help in fulfilling 50% of each other's deen and protect each other from the Hell fire. Therefore marry a person who will help you in the worldly affairs as well as the matters of your Hereafter.

Many people say: “I want a spouse who will hold my hands to Jannah.”

I hate to break it to you but the bridge of Siraat is not an easy bridge that requires just a hand to help you cross it, everyone that day is for himself, so Jannah is not earned by only dua, we need to work for it.

May Allah SWT grant us spouses who will be the coolness of our eyes and unite us again in Jannah as well. Ameen

Secrets of your Spouse ...

1. To Marry: Women looks Future of Men, but Men looks Past of Women.

2. Love: Women Likes Quality of Love, but Men likes Quantity of Love.

3. Search: Mostly Women Search for Character of Men. So its easier for her to forgive him but difficult to forget him, Whereas Mostly Men Likes Beauty of Women so if he find better one he can forget her but if she makes any mistake to him its difficult to forgive her.

Here are some tips to maintain a healthy relation with your spouse 😊

Ways To Keep Your Wife's Love ❤

1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce.

2. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.

3. Be a good listener.

4. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear.

5. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.

6. Sit down and eat meals together.

7. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside.

8. Don’t leave home in anger.

Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love ❤

1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female--a man doesn’t want a man for his wife.

2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.

3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.

4. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”

5. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.

6. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.

7. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you wanthim to change something.

8. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

9. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.

10. Don't ever compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don't say, "well her husband doesn't do that, why do you" (thats a killer!)

11. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.

May Allah SWT preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners. Ameen

DUNIYA MAKARANTA

Kada ka sa ranka cewa mutane duk za su so ka. Zukatan mutane a kullum cikin Canji suke; abinda s**a so yau, shi suke ki gobe.

TRUE SECRET ABOUT WOMEN 👩

1- When a woman is angry, she doesn't mean over half of what she says... if possible always hug her to calm her down

2- The most difficult time for a woman is when she is away from the man she truly loves. She can get distressed

3- It takes time for a woman to trust a man, its hard to change her mind when she does, but if you mess-up, you might just forget it.

4- A woman is such a school you will never graduate from.

5- Your wedding certificate with her is not a "driving licence", its just a "Learners permit". Continue wooing her.

6- She can be very bitter now, and a very sweet angel later on, it all lies in your approach. Yes treat her right always.

7- A woman hardly forget things, she remembers hurts more, avoid making her hurt. Avoid negative words and affirm her always.

8- A woman can be highly secretive... Most times when they prove hard to men, they go to their closet and cry to friends. Make your woman your best friend

9- All women Love to be begged. men often miss out on this. Yes please handle them like babies sometime its all they want

10- All women have a unique character like salt, their presence might not be noticed but their absence makes all things tasteless.

10- if she loves u she can do everything u ask of her as far as it makes u happy, so never force her to love u.

11- If you don't take care of her, she will find someone who will. They are always there only that she chose you.

12-if a woman truely loves you, even to ask money from you she will be shy, but as a gentleman don't wait to be asked and most especially if she loves you she can never leave you to spend unnecessarily...thats what makes them special...

If you have a good woman in your life, don't take her for granted. They are expensive jewelry
If you agree send me a heart.

8 Things Which Weaken The Marriage:

1. Misbehaving - Saying bad or hateful things, making bad jokes and insulting each other.

2. Ignore - Not replying back to the "salams" or giving each other the good ear to listen and share.

3. Lying - Allah forbids the believers to lie. There is no room in Islam for liars, and may Allah save us from this evil,ameen.

4. Breaking Promises - Keeping a trust is also an important characteristic of a believer.

5. Avoiding Contact - You hug the brothers at the mosque, but what about a" little hug " with your wife? Come on, you can do it.

6. Suspicion & Backbiting - Allah says, "O believers, avoid much suspicion. Certainly suspicion is sinful.And don't spy or backbite each other. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of your dead brother. You would hate it. Fear Allah's punishment. For sure Allah is the Acceptor of repentance, The Merciful." [Quran 49: 12]

7. Too Busy - Take time for each other. You have rights on each other. Give everyone their rights and you will be given your rights.

8. Leaving The Worship - Allah will never be pleased with someone who leaves His guidance and does not worship Him. This will cause Muslim families serious problems and even to split up, faster than anything!

May Allah SWT bless all our marriages. Ameen

It's sunnah
1. It’s sunnah to marry older women.
2. It’s sunnah to marry a divorcee.
3. It’s sunnah to marry a widow.
4. It’s sunnah to help women in household chores i.e. cooking, cleaning, washing etc.
5. It’s sunnah to put food with your hand in your wife's mouth as an expression of love. (graded as a form of charity)
6. It’s sunnah to verbally express love, appreciation, and respect to your wife.
7. It’s sunnah to forgive her mistakes.
8. It’s sunnah to keep yourself looking pleasant for your wife.
9. It’s sunnah to try to know the feelings of your wife and console her when she needs it.
10. It's sunnah to be playful with your wife and spend quality time having fun together. (racing, story-telling, sharing happy occasion with her are some well-known examples)
11. It's sunnah to recline and relax in your wife's lap.
12. It's sunnah to call your wife with beautiful names.
13. It's sunnah to not disclose her private matters to other family members or friends.
14. It's sunnah to love and respect her parents.
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*SPOIL YOUR HUSBAND, HE IS TOTALLY YOURS!*

*I spoiled mine too.*

My dear married sister. There is no happiness in this world than being married with a pious partner.

Always say thank you Lord for such a darling husband God has blessed you with.

Appreciate your man's effort.

Thank him for completing half your deen.
Thank him for making you a wife.
Thank him for making you the queen of his empire.

Tell him you love him.
Tell him he is your happiness .
Tell him he is your king.

He deserves your prayers. So, pray for him.
He needs your love and care.
He needs your companionship.
He needs your warm hug.

Do not forget to wake him up for prayers.
Do not forget to cook his favourite dishes for him.
Do not forget to dress him up as you used to when you were newly married.
Do not forget to satisfy him as ordained and instructed.

And do not forget that he is a human being who is bound to make
mistakes.

So forgive him unconditionally and wholeheartedly.

BE MINDFUL THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE!

May God bless all marriages and make it easier for those searching for soul mates..
Amen.

*BEAT YOUR WIFE TO MAKE HER MORE ROMANTIC.*
Recommendations:

I don't use belt, I don't use abusive words, I don't use s*x starvation to beat her, I don't use blow, I don't use kick. I am a king & married to a queen. Such don't happen in a palace like ours.

This is the way I 'beat' my wife and I am recommending it for all men. The reason why my Queen can't leave me is because she is enjoying the beating. This is the way I beat her. I beat her by:

*B* - *BEAUTIFYING* HER,
*E* - *ENCOURAGING* HER,
*A* - *ASSISTING* HER, and
*T* - *TREATING* HER AS A QUEEN.

No woman can die in your hands no matter how many times you beat her in a day as long as you do it the way I do it to my Queen. I know this is the way women will love their husbands to *BEAT* them.

There can't be divorce or separation if we *BEAT* our wives like this. When you use belt, wire, blow, knife, slap, or any domestic violent means on your wife, you are worthy to be awarded a duplex at Neuro-Psychiatric Hospital or you can go there yourself and tell them to detain you there until you are okay.
For all excellent husbands, follow that syllabus I gave you on how I beat my own Queen daily & go and do likewise.
The joy of your family is my priority.

*WISDOM FOR WIVES!*

As a wife, your *BEAUTY* attracts your husband, but your *WISDOM* will continue to keep him! Your *ELEGANCE* catches his *ATTENTION* , but your *INTELLIGENCE* convinces him! *NAGGING* irritates your husband, but your " *CONSTRUCTIVE SILENCE* " weakens him! Remember that the "boyish" character in your husband comes out occasionally, but your ability to always handle it, is a sign that you are a *MATURED WIFE* !

Every man has " *Secret Struggles and Pains* " including your husband. If you should ever find them out from him, please exhibit the greatest maturity by asking the Originator of your marriage ( *ALLAAH* ), to help you with *USEFUL IDEAS* , that you will suggest to him (your husband)! In the long run, your *KIND WORDS* matter to your husband than your " *LOOKS* "! So, always invest the *RIGHT WORDS* ! Earn your husband's respect and he will consider you as the yardstick for all his actions! Learn to mould your husband's moods, and he will naturally give you his " *FUTURE* " as he recalls your maturity in handling past issues!

Note that WOMEN are everywhere, but *REAL WIVES* are scarce. Let the *QUEEN* in you come alive, and your husband will always hold you in a very *HIGH ESTEEM!*

Kindly Share this to every couple you know, so that we will together make the " *BEST* *MARRIAGES* " in our society at large!

4 THINGS A HUSBAND SHOULD DO WITH THEIR WIVES


Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) said:

“When a husband and wife looked at each other with love, Allah looks at them with mercy”

Husband and wife are the two wheels of the same vehicle which travels through the light & dark shades of life. Here are few points for hubbies to follow as the fuel for this vehicle

1. DRESS-UP WELL:

Yes a man should be conscious about his appearances as it gives a clean vibe and connects the positivity between the couple. Don’t forget guys our beloved Prophet Hazrat Mohammad (pbuh) always use to do miswak and wear some nice smell.

2. GIVE A NICK-NAME:

Call your wife with a nick-name that she won’t mind. Trust me whenever she will hear that name next, she will secretly blush thinking of you. Decades ago prophet Mohammad (pbuh) set this example of calling his wives with good nick names.

3. BE APPRECIATIVE:

Respected husbands! Regard them high because they deserve it. Just look at their face expression when you tell them how attractive they look, how the certain color suits them, how sometimes you miss their sweet cackle when away and trust me! a simple sentence “I appreciate your cooking for me” can glow her every facial muscle. Your words mean life to them.

4. A GIFT OF SMILE:

Smile is the best and cheapest charity. Begin at home husbands! Allah has made women with such flexibility that even if she going through something tough, she will ease her mind and heart just with your single smile. For a woman, Husband’s smile is the most satisfactory gift. I am thinking of those Hadiths which states about Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) giving a peck on Mother Khadija’s (pbuh) forehead just when he was setting out for mosque.

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EARLY MARRIAGE

Marriage can be defined as a mutual relationship ordained by Allah for the believers as an act of ibadah between two people who love, trust, care, understand and respect each other for the sake of Allah so as to attain jannah, procreate children, fulfill their s*xual desires, unite and enjoy companionship.

The prophet said, there is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage (Jamii tirmidhi). The importance of marriage can be traced back to the early days of Adam alayhi salam. When Allah created him, the first thing Allah gave him is knowledge, and the second thing Allah gave him is marriage (hawa r.a) Subhanallah.

These shows how significance of nikkah. Adam alahyi salam felt lonely, Allah didn't give him a TV to while away time, he didn't give him PS3, or blackberry, iPhone or a car or laptop, but Allah gave him our mother in marriage. How can we now hesitate to marry today?

Brothers and sisters in Islam, why are you still single? Are you not tired of having wet dreams? Are you not tired of staring at the opposite ginger? Are you not tired of cooking undone food? Are you not tired of attending other people's marriage while you refuse to marry? Money is never an excuse, some companions were almost penniless as at the time they married. If the second thing that Allah gave the first human being /first prophet on earth is marriage, then what are u still waiting for?............What Is your excuse? Is it money? Allah promises to enrich married couples from his bounties. Is it unemployment? Allah promises to make a way for you from sources that you couldn't have imagined? Is it that you have not found the right person? Allah promises to be with the patient ones. Is it tribalism? Allah said he created us from a single pair of male and female and made us into nation and tribes so that we may know each other. What then is your excuse for refusing to marry? Is it your fear of heartbreak? The prophet said, what hit you couldn't have missed you and what missed you couldn't have hit you. Is it bcos you dislike early marriage and you want to graduate from school before marriage?

Allah said, perhaps you dislike a thing but in reality its good for you and perhaps you love a thing but In reality its bad for you. Is it bcos your friends are committing zina and u want to follow them too? Allah said, if you follow most of the people of the world, they will mislead you away from the path of Allah. Is it because you want to have your own car/house first? The prophet said, whoever trusts Allah sincerely, Allah will provide for him just the way he provides for the birds who go out in the morning empty and return home satisfied.....

Dear single brothers and sisters, what then is your excuse ? Why have you refused to marry? Is it that you don't believe in the words of Allah or in the hadith of the prophet? Don't you know you are not getting any younger? Has the time not come for you to give your parents grandchildren to carry in their hands? Has the time not come for you to have trust in Allah and get married irrespective of your situation?

Allah SWT said, has the time not come for the believers that their hearts should be affected by the Quran and to embrace the truth which has been revealed. (Surah Hadeed vs 16). When you go to a family and make a proposal that you want to marry their 14yrs old daughter, they will tell you that their daughter is TOO young for marital commitments but when that same daughter has some boyfriends, her parents will not complain about it. This is the irony of our society today! Allah created us and so he understands our bodies needs even more than we know ourselves. Once a person reaches puberty, he naturally starts getting inclined to the other gender, because he/she has feelings and emotions running thru the veins and hearts which has to be fulfilled either through the halal way or haram way. Some people are born with high level of hawa (desire) while some have low hawa.

May Allāh (Sub-haanahu wata'aala) guide us. Ameen

{To be continued In-sha-Allāh (If Allāh Wills)...}

"And keep reminding, because reminding benefits the believers." (Qur-ān 51:55)