Parent&childenthusiast

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I have realized how much house keeping/cleaning is a whole lot of chore for most women/households especially with toddlers & pre-schoolers.
On the other hand, house keeping with these Gen-Z "shildren" in house, (set awon teenagers and Jambitos ...) is dedicated to another post altogether.
My dear sisters, how do you cope with these toddlers & pre-schoolers with no house keeper/help?

Whichever route you decide to take in making decisions for your children's way of life, you owe no one an explanation. It is of utmost importance that you try your best to bring out the best in them in the end. This ensures both parties live a fulfilled life.

Winding down memory lane when I had decided that "little mama" won't resume school till age 3 or 4 or even 5. Despite so much inconvenience taking care of her very bubbly self all day long while still trying to do one side business or the other. A lot of times, I caught myself in between house chores & taking care of "little mama" whilst abandoning my personal business.
At other times, I get a hold of myself and I look forward to more profitable days ahead in terms of "money making".

Irrespective of enrolling your child in school at age 3 or 6 months or at age 1/2/3/4/5 or better still you homeschool till secondary/high school. All you need to ensure is that you both achieve goodness & utmost success in the end.

It is indeed the end that affects the society.

I am a parent&childenthusiast. I love to improve parent-child relationships.

I am a 2 year old toddler

My Milestone Movements are:

~ I can walk alone

~ I can walk on the stairs while reaching out for support.

~ I can carry my lunch bag over my shoulder while reaching out for support.

~ I can carry several toys while walking

~ I can run

ubeewrites July 10, 2017 Parentchildenthusiast Overparenting is not only harmful for kids in their youth; the effects of helicopter parenting can stretch far into adulthood.

Being a successful parent requires intentional efforts. It is one out of a million that parents are accidentally successful at parenting.

Its been a while in here. The ups & downs of life do take its toll. Yet, we remain grateful for life.

Open Letter To Parents...

Dear Parents,

Child: Dad, Mum... I need a therapist, I think I'm depressed.

Parents: What do you know about therapy?

Mum: God forbid, you can't be depressed. You are just 15. What could be making you depressed? In Jesus name, you can't be depressed. It's not our portion in this family..

Dad: Don't mind this child, it's overfeeding and it's internet that is making some of them talk this way .

Son: Dad, Mum, I'm really serious. Get me one.

Parents: Hissed and walked away..

Son....

...7months later, the story was different.

I'm using this opportunity to appeal to us all that when our children act boldly by telling us they need help, kindly don't trivialize his/her pain.

I'm with you on the following facts ....;

That you are housing them .
They are privileged to have such great parents..
That you feed and cloth them..
You pay heavily to see them go to school..
You are toiling day and night to make them stars..
All these and more... I totally agree

But... here is the issue!

When your child comes to you to tell you he/she is depressed and he/she wants help.. be logical and don't get emotional. It's hard, but try because being emotional wouldn't help at that point. Don't blackmail, abuse and ignore them.

Drop all what you are doing, pay attention to that child, listen attentively to understand, not to reply. Nod when necessary and give the child reassurance. Encourage him/her to speak out more while listening/watching out for both verbal and non verbal communication.

As parents, most of us are non-professional, help you child seek help immediately...

Kindly note that;

This is not bad parenting.
It shouldn't make you feel you have failed.
It's not a way to tell you are of weak character.

Encouraging him/her to seek for professional help is a sign of strength, intentional parenting and great parenting skills.

Be a listening, awesome, great parent today by helping your child be the BEST they are destined to BE.

God bless all PARENTS all over the globe . It's not easy and no one said it will be easy ...but it's worth doing it right.

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Mental Health Physician & Advocate

So, you are busy worried about your child's weird attitude; ways of been stubborn, inattentive to your screams & rantings, school grades are down, concentrates so much on TV, easily distracted.

OK, "abiyamo tooto (true/concerned parent).

You then decide to engage their free time with school work & so much reading & assignments.

All of these are really good ways out & in no time you will have a straight A's child at least out of "the so many others".
.. but you still see his behaviours as they were

Let's hold genetics constant here (out of this discussion)

Naturally, children act & behave in a certain way based on what they see you(parents & non-parents) do.

What are those behaviours that have become a part of you over the years & are now showing up in your child(ren)?

What are those ways of life that you truly tell yourself all the while how urgently you need to drop.

A significant proportion of children's ways of behaving/life are not all gotten from the external ever changing environments. NO

They got them from a mom or a dad or a relative. Therefore, it is perfectly OK to act same way (your child believes).

Children are who we are and what we constantly do.

Endeavour to be a better person for the sake of being proud of who you would become, and other things shall fall in place as the most High wills.

Doses of how issues are managed around their environment is visible in their personal way of life.

Successful Children have role models in their parents/guardians.
As a parent, you have to discipline yourself before you can effectively discipline your child. Disciplines such as:
saving habits for a rainy day, controlling your anger, an outline of daily routines for kids, an outline of clearly specified routines with adult children(even when far apart).

Successful Children have role models in their parents/guardians.
As a parent, you have to discipline yourself before you can effectively discipline your child. Disciplines such as:
saving habits for a rainy day, controlling your anger, an outline of daily routines for kids, an outline of clearly specified routines with adult children(even when far apart).